Why did he behave like this?
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April 18th, 2011
A few months ago, I add him on Orkut. Then sometimes we chat on gmail. Then recently I added him on skype and FB. Anyway, we recenlty do video chat on skype everyday but lately since I made comment on a picture, he has not come to chat and he has not replied to my offlien message. After we had argument abt a lie he told. Anyway today he contect me on gmail chat. Then he is telling me to come on Skype. So i told him i was already signed on. He said he did not see my online so I re-added him. He said he still did not see me. Anyway i think i spent about 20 mins trying to fix that problem with no success. so he started telling me how maybe I am busy with all these guys online. So I asked him wt he means. He said that I was enjoying them. He said he notice I am making comments on pictures on FB. He saw my comment on a picture because we are mutual friends. So i said to him why that was a problem, he said I needed to ask him permission to add his friends to my list before adding. So I said that I did not know I added his friends until after. He got upset and using profanity and said he thought I was a good girl, and that he thought i was his best friend. He got into argument about he I added him from orkut (which by they way I did not even remember that it was me who added him there). So then he said he will delete me from his FB. so I said okay.Then I told him he was a liar, because if he is deleting me from his FB list, then that means he blocked me in Skype. And that’s why I could not contact him there. He said no, and I told him that because he was angry, he blocked me and lied abt it. He told me he was watching my comments on guy’s pics for past few days on FB. I told him they were friends, so why tha tis a problem for him. Why do you think he got upset abt that? (he’s not a bf. just a friensd)
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“he said I needed to ask him permission to add his friends to my list before adding” – fuck that noise, tell him to shut up.
Because he wants to be more than friends with you, and now he’s getting jealous and it’s showing a really unsettling side of his nature which is extremely insecure, controlling, and emotionally manipulating.
These are not good qualities to have in a friend, much less a romantic partner and you’d be a heck of a lot better off cutting all ties with him. You don’t need that drama in your life.
Like @sinscriven said, he seems to be jealous. If he doesn’t like you commenting on another guy’s picture, and he thinks you are busy with other guys on facebook and is upset about all this, then he probably likes you and might have thought you liked him back. I think that if he’s that crazy when he’s jealous, you should do what @sinscriven said and cut all ties with him.
Danger, danger Matt Robinson!
He is a crazy controlling person, probably because he was raised by crazy controlling people. He needs serious psychiatric help.
Sooooo how old are the both of you?
(and kind of an OT, english isn’t your native language is it?)
He sounds like a really scary guy. You have to be very careful with online friendships.
he really has no right to comment on you commenting on others’ photos or posts on FB.
You need to ditch this guy right away.
I’d keep waay from that guy if I were you, he sounds unstable and controlling.
I think we need to understand your culture to answer this. (Or at least his.) Where is he from?
Oy – too much “noise to signal” ratio IMHO.
Hello?
Red flag. Red flag. Red flag. Inappropriate behavior leading to possible chaotic/painful romance. Wait…I hear the wail of a siren, too…and I don’t mean the ones sitting on the rocks waiting for Odysseus. It’s the wail of an air raid siren.
A man saying that you need to ask HIM permission to comment on other people’s photos??? I don’t think so.
Boy is friend. Boy is jealous friend. Boy is interested and jealous of someone he doesn’t even know. If jealous friend doesn’t know you…how on earth would he be as a boyfriend (which may be what he wants??) Run for your life, sweetheart, while you can.
(He may be a “man” not a boy…but he is acting like a child.)
It doesn’t look promising. Actually, it is a disaster in the making. And it isn’t what you need in your life.
Signed,
Been there (sort of) done that (no more.)
DR
Wait…I realize that I didn’t give my short answer to your question:
Your question: “Why did he behave like this?”
My answer: Because he is probably a controlling, manipulative immature man with more than a few problems that you do not need in your life…not now….not ever.
Although he deleted me from his FB, a few hrs ago, he sent me a message there saying: “maybe I miss u….I am even thinking abt u”. So what should I do. I feel kind of sorry abt what happened; and i feel sorry for him : (
Sounds like he’s very possessive of you, even though you are not his girlfriend. He’s probably super jealous and kind of an a*shole. You should be happy to get away from him as fast as you can. He doesn’t sound like a very good friend at all.
Even if he attempts to apologize, don’t buy it, he’s just trying to manipulate you.
Too much drama! Remove him from all of your social network, e-mail, phonebooks, addressbooks etc and move on. Sorry that some people suck so much. : (
He said, ”Maybe I miss you?” He’s probably expecting you to run back in tears demanding to know if he really, really missed you, and begging him to give you another chance. Do NOT let this guy know who you are IRL. He’s probably got a stalking rap sheet a mile long.
Get away from this dude in all ways possible.
OMG…he sent me a friend request again. i added him. i am so weak. but…...
Weak is not the word I would use.
@naresh28 You must not have heard the old saying, “Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.”
You disregarded a lot of good advice that might keep you safe in the future. Sorry, but now you have no one to blame except yourself. This guy sounds like a real douche-nik. Why are you attracted to that?
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