What is the hardest choice that pit one persons needs against another's that you ever had to make?

The hardest choice I ever had to make was to give up legal custody with my daughter between the ages of 17–18. It was only for one year.
She chose to live with her dad her senior year, several years after we divorced.

I had no say in how he was parenting her and I could not risk him potentially allowing her to drive or drink and risk losing my financial holdings.

It was a tough call, but one I felt was necessary to protect my assets in the event she got into trouble. Thank goodness those days are long gone and we all got through those rough post divorce days.

Hospice for my mom and removing my dad from life support.

It was when my sister was in the last stages of cancer. My supervisor said, “Head there now. We will cover for you.”

Her request was to be at home when she died. We enlisted the assistance of hospice nurse, who gave me a vial of morphine pills to ease her pain. At one point, I considered giving her an overdose. What I realized is that it would shorten the misery of those who loved her dearly and felt that she was suffering. I opted not to. She had cancer long enough to make out a will and a list of last wishes, and there was never any request of dying by the hand of another.

When I had one child in my arms in the sea in St. John and the older was swimming out to his father. He got partway there and started to flounder; my husband couldn’t see him or hear me. What to do? Luckily, a woman standing nearby said, “Give me the baby“and I was able to go rescue my older son..

Staying touch with my son even after he left his wife and children. I lost direct contact with him for many years, but still maintained indirect contact through his friends.

I helped his ex raise the boys, and she remained a member of our family, in spite of his absence.

I found myself pretty far along pregnant one year and thought how wonderful it would be if I hadn’t had any exposure to multiple meds, alcohol, nicotine, crap foods and if I had a partner I respected and believed in enough to be a responsible positive parent. I had none of those things and chose not to have a child.

I’m pretty young and inexperienced, but today was one of those choices, kind of. My boyfriend of 2½ years told me that he didn’t think he actually loved me the way I needed to be loved and that at the beginning of our relationship he confused Lust+Friendship for love. He said he just wanted to be friends. Even though I love him completely and have never loved anyone like I love him, I told him this was probably for the best.

As painful as it is, I would rather he be happy without me than miserable with me.

@FluffyChicken: Trust me, having someone’s default love, sympathy love, deference love, obligation love- all that is crap. Get yourself feeling good and strong so someone worthy will see you are available. It happens!

There’s a cheesy oldies song about love not always being on time but it’s so worth the wait.

Oh my goodness guys. @FluffyChicken you are worth more than that. You will find someone one day who realizes that.

@Neizvestnaya so sad. But I hope it taught you something my friend. Life is about tough choices. Keep strong.

@YARNLADY well, that explains alot to me. I always wondered about your grandson. Did his girlfriend move in with you guys?

@janbb, that should be written down. Your sons should know that story from your eyes and your husband’s eyes firsthand. What a story.

@Coloma, tough love sucks. I hope it was affective. Man, I know that was tough. You are a good Mom. If you raised a teenager to be independent, that is one of the chances you take with a divorce. I think you did the right thing.

@Pied_Pfeffer, I’m glad your supervisor gave you time to go to your sister. Watching someone you love leave this world, well; that is an honor and something we never forget. It makes me appreciate life and the time we are able to spend with others we love. I’m so sorry this happened to you but I’m glad you came through so great. <3

@lucillelucillelucille, you’ve been through a lot of crap. That is why I love you so much. I’ve seen where others here have actually met you in real life. You sound awesome. smiles

@bkcunningham The girlfriend has not yet moved in – they are still trying to make plans for late summer, but I think it’s mostly off.