Why do people come into our lives?

Why yes,I have…
I am certain there is a reason too.
I wonder why all the time.
Sometimes I actually figure it out :))

Can’t say it something I think about. You will meet people if you are not a hermit. It’s a case of if not person X then it would be Y. It has to be someone. It’s a random(ish) chance.

coincidence. what about all the people who you had no connection with, or little connection with, or medium-high connection with before you met the person with the seemingly fate-like super duper magical and lovely connection with.

There is no reason or purpose. As @trickface implied, we just remember the ones that make an impact.

Yes, I ALWAYS wonder about this. If I was put into someone’s life to help them with something or vice versa. As for feeling connections with people, for as crazy as it sounds I get the feeling I have some kind of connection to certain people every now and again. When I was younger I used to want to seek out all of the “Hows” and “Whys” these things were presented to me, but now that I’m older I just take them as they come and look forward to the myseries.

I truly believe this is true.

I believe my children whom are adopted were both sent to me for different reasons but I think they were each sent for a reason. My oldest is just like me and my family that she fits right in like she were born to me. We are so alike in so many ways you would never realize she wasn’t born to me. My youngest I believe its because I was suppose to help her grow to her best potential, she has so many medical conditions that doctors have told me that if I weren’t so on top of them like I was she may not be have been alive today.

I don’t believe that people get “sent” into your life for a reason. Just like with everything else, everything happens because something else happened before that. Life and the universe are just a series of chain reactions. People really want to believe that things happen for a reason. Because it’s easier to deal with and you don’t have to worry about it. But I just don’t think that way.

I always just think that I got really lucky (meaning: I was in the right spot at the right time) when someone good comes into my life. There doesn’t have to be any bigger meaning behind it.

This is what humans do. We create meaning. Meaning-making is what makes humans different from all other creatures, I believe.

So when someone comes into our lives and we connect with an incredibly amazing connection, then there has to be a reason. The reason is that we feel there has to be a reason. Then we make up a story to make that reason apparent to ourselves.

It’s a function of the powerful feelings we can have about someone. They raise as many questions (these reasons) as they answer. Why does your soulmate appear in your life when it is half over and your marriage is 21 years old and you still have two kids in the house? You can not be with her or him,. They are married, too. But you’ve got this connection. What does that mean? How can this be? So close and so far.

Well, people tend to come up with stories to make meaning out of events like this.

I blame bad karma.

I was taught that there are no chance encounters.

You either have something to teach that person
or they have something to teach you.

@SABOTEUR I agree with you there!

@SABOTEUR & @creative1 – Wow, you guys must really struggle to get through the day, with all that hidden meaning and predestination to unravel. That’s a whole lot of spiritual yarn to unpick every day!

Agree with @gmander

Just by interacting with one another, we teach and learn. It is part of the human experience. No other meaning behind it. And of course, we learn positive thing from the nice, positive people we come accross, and viceversa, we learn about negative stuff from people we have bad connections with.

@gmander (laughing) No struggle at all! Just a recognition that we usually carry predetermined ideas of what relationships are…when in reality we don’t have a clue.

@Porifera agrees with you, but if you read carefully we said the same thing. Nothing mysterious…merely the process of approaching all relationships with an open mind so that you “get” whatever it is a relationship has to offer.

Hi @SABOTEUR
What you said and what @gmander said are two different things. I agree with his 1st & 2nd posts.
I read carefully and what you said in your first post was that you were taught that there are no chance encounters. And what he said is that is a ramdomish event to which I agreed and proceeded to add that from ALL encounters we teach and learn.

I stand corrected, though I would say seemingly random because you don’t know what circumstances evolved to bring you to a relationship where you learn or teach exactly what’s appropriate for that moment.

But we quibble over irrelevancies. What’s important is however you “happen to meet”, you allow the relationship to evolve in whatever way is mutually beneficial. Hopefully the people involved will be “better off” afterward for the experience.

I might also add that I was taught it is more beneficial to build upon what one has in common than to emphasize the differences.

Maybe it’s because we don’t push them out.