Is phonesex cheating?

for thata question, is cybersex cheating?
i think in some way yes, it’s knowingle betrayal, but why do yoy want to know? in trouble with the misses?

no buddy just curious

If talking to some hideously obese woman pretending to be the girl in the commercial is something a guy is into, he clearly has more important things to worry about in his life than if his actions are cheating, like developing common sense. His wife/girlfriend should dump him for being a moron, more-so than being a cheater.

Yes.

Phone sex isn’t so much cheating, as it is just really lame. I’d dump my girlfriend for the second more than the first, should the situation ever arise.

Herds something to think about,how would u feel if your gf had phone sex with another guy?enough said

Dont do what you would not want to be done to you. Your spouse or significant other deserves better than that. I do consider it cheating. Also, generally speaking if you have to ask a bunch of strangers if it is wrong, you probably already know deep inside it is. I certainly would not trust my husband if I found out he was doing that .

I’m wondering what “cheating” means for folks who are in this conversation. In other contexts, there are two definitions: 1) cheating means “breaking the rules of a game to win” or 2) cheating is depriving someone of their rightful possession “I was cheated out of what was rightfully mine. Land, property, etc.”

So, in other contexts “to cheat” is terminology from rule-based competition or property rights. Can someone take a stab at relating that to the question at hand? What or who is being cheated or what rules are being broken? Or potentially?

I think both definitions could apply – cheating on the assumed rules of the relationship (namely, the boundaries of fidelity, which both parties generally adhere to as it constitutes the meaning of a significant relationship – I choose to give myself to you and no other), and also being cheated out of your right to a fair deal – I played by our rules and you didn’t, thus being cheated out of an equal partnership.

I think the point is that each couples boundaries of what constitues fidelity need to be openly discussed and agreed upon together. And if some grey area comes up, abide by the Golden Gut Rule.

yes it is. Why does it need explaination?

@nocountry2: nice. I definitely agree with the statement about boundaries and discussion/agreement specific to the couple in question. And, having asked my question before, yours is the best answer I’ve received, I like: “cheated out of an equal partnership”.

@judochop: because I think without realizing it people often fall into the trap of treating their relationship and even their significant other as property, something they are entitled to regardless of their stewardship of the relationship. I don’t have some kind of weird ownership over my partner’s sexuality or emotions. For instance, it isn’t wrong to become emotionally entangled with someone outside your current pairing, or to fall in love. It isn’t even wrong to flirt, if it takes that to figure out what’s going on inside you vis-a-vis your current partner. My partner doesn’t own my emotions, nor I hers. It’s what I do with those feelings that matters, and where lines can get crossed.

NoCountry2’s response helps explain the relational boundaries and the idea of cheating without resorting to ideas of ownership. I like that.

It might depend on what you’re doing while engaging in phone sex. It also could depend how one’s mate views it. Some might think it’s just kind of pathetic, while others I know wouldn’t put up with it.

its not real sex so I say no

Hmmmm….Reminds me of “what is IS?”.....

Yes, but footsex isnt, also belly button sex = ] oh my favorite.