Is there a way on this website to get someone to leave you alone?

Contact Augustlan.

The magic answer for everything, lol! Thank you @Simone_De_Beauvoir…

In addition to contacting Auggie, you may just have to force yourself to ignore the person. I know that’s easier said than done, but there isn’t any way to ignore their posts, so you have to do that part yourself. If their comments are actual attacks, they can be removed by the mods and if they start contacting you via PMs the mods can handle that issue by talking with the person involved. But, if it’s just that you don’t like what they have to say, you kind of have to just not read it/ignore it.

Okay, thanks, @Seaofclouds. Sheesh, I just wanted some friendly feedback, that’s all…I didn’t mean to start anything…

That wasn’t directed towards you, by the way…

@yankeetooter Unfortunately, when we post things in a public forum, we open ourselves up to all kind of feedback. There’s no way to ensure you’ll always get the friendly feedback that you want. Hang in there…

Okay, thanks @Seaofclouds…I appreciate the encouragement.

Ah, @yankeetooter , there will always be those that bug you here, that’s one of the problems with a public forum. All of the advice above is gold, and don’t worry, you didn’t “start anything”, it’s a legitimate concern. Definitely talk to Auggie about it, especially if you feel you’re being deliberately targeted by any Jellies. I know there are some I often want to poke with something pointy, I try not always successfully I’m afraid to resist, and I’ve gotten better at ignoring their posts, as @Seaofclouds suggests.

Thank you @JilltheTooth. I’m usually pretty good at ignoring…I work with emotionally disturbed kids all day who will curse you up one side and down the other, and some of whom are really good about pushing one’s buttons.

Maybe I’m so sensitive about their posts right now because of how I’m feeling…I don’t know, and I feel bad about the whole thing, but I don’t understand why someone continues to respond in that way when they know they’re getting to you…

Civil litigation.

Thanks @bob_ lol!

now go make @bob_ a sandwich

I’m too busy reviewing my case…

@JilltheTooth silly girl, you can’t avoid me, I won’t let you.

Hey, I know to never try to hide from Molly’s fabulous tracking nose!!! ;-)

I’ve checked into this situation. While you may feel hurt by some of the responses you’ve received in your other questions, none have risen to the level of a personal attack. They could have been worded more gently, yes, but bluntness is not the same thing as an attack.

Now, if someone is following you from thread to thread just to mess with you, or sending you unwelcome PMs, please do let me know. Thanks!

That is happening today @augustlan…

@yankeetooter : Because we are notified that questions we are following have new posts, and go back to see how they’re progressing, I don’t think people are necessarily following you around, but just posting again on questions that they are following. I’m often repeatedly involved in threads, so it could appear that I’m following someone around, when I’m in reality just following the Q.
And there’s a former English teacher of mine spinning in her grave because of the number of times I just used the word “following”. Sorry, Mrs. P!

This seems pretty intentional, @JilltheTooth…

Harassment can be a subtle thing…

I have now asked to be left alone by this person…let’s see if she respects my wishes…

I’m sorry, @yankeetooter , but your references above make no sense at all to me as I have not been following and memorizing everything to do with you.

@yankeetooter No offense, but in that thread you just posted from, you continued to post back and forth. Anyone that doesn’t know about the tension between the two of you from your one question would not pick up on the back and forth between the two of you in that thread. I get that you want that person to leave you alone, but it goes both ways. You can’t expect him/her to stop when you continue responding in a way that will bait him/her into a response. Doing so could actually be considered flame bait on your part. That’s why I suggested ignoring said person.

Well I am totally lost… I didn’t understand that stream of quotes or what was offensive at all. I suspect @Seaofclouds is correct. I don’t have the back story.

I see. Thank you @JilltheTooth for the explanation and back story.

Such a kerfuffle! Time for a glass of wine.

@Seaofclouds When someone keeps responding behind your posts like that, you get to the point that you have to respond…

@yankeetooter You don’t have to, you choose to. I’m not trying to lay blame on either one of you, just pointing out that you were continuing it by responding. The best thing you can do when you feel things are personal digs at you is take a step back, breathe, and ignore it. I know that’s easier said than done, but it’s the best way to avoid things like this. If you feel it’s a personal attack on you, before taking a step back, flag it and the mods will look at it. Once our personal feelings come into play, we see things a bit differently than those that aren’t involved with it. I hope you guys can agree to just avoid each other.

Flagging did no good yesterday…apparently things are biased on here towards those who have been here longer.

@yankeetooter Things aren’t biased toward people that have been here longer, people that aren’t involved (like the mods) just don’t have the personal feelings invested in the situation like you do, so they see things differently than you do. Honestly, I’ve yet to see anything I would even consider an actual personal attack on you. When people get nasty on here, they don’t hold back. I’ve seen people call each other some pretty bad things when they get upset (bitch, whore, slut, etc). I know that’s not how you feel and not how you see it, that’s why I’m suggesting taking a step back when you start to feel like you are being attacked.

Everyone tells me not to leave Fluther, but no one has my back when I feeling harassed…

@yankeetooter I’m sorry you feel no one has your back when you feel harassed, but it’s hard to have someone’s back when other people don’t feel like what’s happened so far is actually harassment. I’m not prepared to take sides for either one of you because you both should just let it go and ignore each other. I get that you feel the way you do and I understand it, that’s why I’m suggesting taking a step back so you can get away from the feeling. What you feel is what you feel. I don’t personally see it, but that doesn’t negate how you are feeling. The point is, you have to take some control for your feelings and actions. Perhaps you just have a different definition of personal attacks and harassment than I do and some of the others here do.

Now you are just coming across as feeling sorry for yourself. All these people on Fluther, including me, gave you good advice about your question on chasing someone who is not interested in you. Everyone had your best interest at heart. No one wants to see you make an ass of yourself with this man. You feel this is harrasment. It isn’t. This is a question and answer site. If you don’t want answers that aren’t to your views, stop asking.

Both of you just stop. Sheesh… just don’t respond to each other anymore. It’s that simple. Both of you need to stop at this point.

I hate this site…I can’t even get on here any more without getting so upset it’s ridiculous…and it’s obvious who’s side everyone is taking…really a GA for that?

Oh. My. God.

Drama, LAWLS!

@yankeetooter: Dare I suggest that you find something to do tonight that brings you more satisfaction? Why behave in such a way that upsets you so much that “it’s ridiculous”?

Your perceptions don’t fit with that of a lot of people here; perhaps some more objective self-examination is in order.

“Everyone” is not taking sides. Several folks have chosen to respond to you, once again, although I feel, personally, that you have chosen to put yourself in the center of the traffic flow.

[mod says] Naming names is inappropriate. Please take the drama private.

@yankeetooter : When I went back through the Qs and posts I saw that dozens of people took the time to respond with caring and sympathy/empathy to your concerns, some even going to PMs to help you out, but you focus on one poster who actually started out with your best interests at heart. I find it more than a bit egregious that you now say that “no one has your back” and that there is bias in the modding procedures towards longer timed users. Would you have my back if I continued to insult your community in such a way and repeatedly ignored the efforts of so many to address my concerns? You’re painting us all here with a broad and nasty brush, despite the patience and caring so many have demonstrated toward you.

@yankeetooter You know that I have done everything in my power to try to help you with your situation (because I can relate completely to what you are going through). And so have a lot of other people. But there comes a point, that if you don’t accept any of the help that we have to offer, some people will become frustrated and give up, especially if you keep asking for more help. And some people, when they get frustrated might something very blunt too. Not to hurt you, but just to try to make you see something clearly. I’ve tried to summon up every ounce of patience that I have, and that’s why I’‘m still here.

I don’t want you to get hurt. Nobody wants to hurt you. Everybody wants to help. Nobody’s feelings get hurt either, if you don’t choose to follow our advice, but we are only human and we get flustered when we see a fellow jelly about to step into a pile of poop. We’ve all been screaming, “Avoid the pile of poop! Go around the other way! Go back, lay a jacket over it, but just don’t step in it!”

I don’t think anyone on any of the other threads (except maybe this one, because I see a bunch of stuff that’s been modded off before I got on here tonight) attacked you personally. A few people got very frustrated because you seemed bound and determined to pick a solution that would cause you futher pain and embarrassment and you disregarded 100% of the other solutions that could have helped to ease your pain.

I’ve done a few things in my youthful past that I have come to regret. I’m only trying to save you from some of the awful and embarassing situations that I went through. I’m trying to help you avoid stepping in the poop, because believe me, you’ll spend a lot of your time trying to dig that poop out of the bottom of your shoe.