Is this behavior common?

Different relationships get different behaviors. The one particular person might have done something to warrant the passive-aggressive behavior that they’re getting.

Are you talking about yourself?

I get that way when my Spidey Sense starts T~I~N~K~L~I~N~K.

can’t say if it’s common or not

All of your questions seem to be about the same thing/person…am I right??

Honey, isn’t there anything else you want to ask us?

@ladymia69: no. the questions are not connected. Can’t you see there is conflicting details? This is a general situation.

Sorry, the details in the last question you asked talked about a person being passive-aggressive. Damn, maybe I am just really confused??

@naresh28 Because you haven’t explained yourself on those other threads, that is why everyone is guessing that you are still talking about the same situation.

If this is a new situation, then it is disturbingly similar to your other situations. That makes us all suspicious about why you are really on here and what you are trying to get from us.

You need to clarify all of the different situations that are happening in your life. How do you know these people? What kind of a club or social organization do you belong to? Who is the person you are talking about now? Where do you know him from and what are the details?

Your “general” situations all sound the same. Either that, or you just have some serious problems where you attract weirdos.

If you can really explain all of the separate situations that you have referred to in your other posts, then we might be able to take you seriously. I’m still not convinced that you are not a troll.

nevermind, waste of time.

@Kardamom: you guys are confusing yourselves. Because instead of just answering the question directly presented, you try to connect the others, just because the terms are similar. I mean, take this question for example. If this was my first question, wouldn’t you just answer it straight? If yes, then why not do it now? This is not some continuing story. Just scenarios.

@FutureMemory: why do you need you need to tell me that? Are you or are you not interested in answering this question? Or would you rather keep confusing yourself about the other questions?

You may be perceiving their being distant to a person as“passive aggressive”, but they may not be PA, but rather just don’t like the person in question. The outgoing person may be leery of being drawn into the other person’s drama and difficult personality.

@naresh28 How about asking this site your relationship/social questions? Or this one? Really, there are tons of forums that specialize in social questions (about relationships romantic and non-romantic) that are better-suited to answering.

@ladymia69: are you CORRECTLY saying that this website is NOT about asking and answering questions related to relationships and so forth?

@naresh28 Questions that deal with relationships/social dynamics are just as welcome here as any other topic. Any suggestion to the contrary is NOT accurate.

@FutureMemory: agreed.

The biggest and most important task in this life is to know yourself.
Something, obviously, makes you uncomfortable in being clear and direct with this person.
It is your job to untangle what it is about this person that pushes your unconscious buttons.

Are you afraid if you confront them directly that the relationship will falter?

If that is all it takes, you are better off without them.

‘True’ friends/lovers always would WANT you to speak up about what bothers you.

I was just suggesting that if you are not getting the advice you want here, or you are getting insufficient advice, there are other places to try.

@ladymia69: you are still not understanding something. you are still connecting all the questions and think i am looking for advice. I am searching for opinions and getting some satisfactory ones, besides other rants and insults.

@naresh28 So are you telling us now, that none of these seemingly similar situations are real? They are just “scenarios” that you came up with out of the blue. That’s truly crazy!

Unless you can explain how all of these (so called) separate situations arose, where you know these people from and in what context, then it just sounds like you are making up crap to play games with us.

If you are not looking for advice why are you here? Are you writing a book, writing a screenplay?

Everything about what you have said (and not explained clearly) sounds extremely fishy to me.

Maybe those 2 particular persons have a past or something.

@Kardamom: are you interested to answer the question or not? make a quick decision.

”make a quick decision.”

lol.

THUD. Leaps in, feet first

The outgoing person does not like the other one

Personality conflicts occur every day.

Maybe this is why the good Lord made all of us speak a different language.

@naresh28 I’d just like to say, Welcome to Fluther. It’s not a written rule that you need to explain why you are asking a question here. Your question sounds legit to me without needing anymore details. I wish some wouldn’t assume all questions asked have to be connected somehow. Again, welcome! Ask away. =)

@Stinley: The outgoing person is the other one. Same person, but acts passive aggressive towards only 1 individual.

@jonsblond: oh, thank you so much. you are the first nice person i met here so far. Thank you for welcoming me. And you can be assured, I will be concise and to the point : )

Hi again @naresh28 I’m not sure I’m following your response but maybe I was a bit short in my reply. I thought there were two people in this scenario, one outgoing and one undetermined. That’s how I differentiated them.

I still think though that if someone is normally outgoing but behaves differently towards one person, it means that they don’t like them for some reason. It could be that they have had a private incident that others are unaware of. Or it could be that they don’t like the way the person has behaved but for some reason are unable to express this. What is the status between them – are they equals, is one in a position of social power ie the unofficial leader of the gang or actual group leader?

Also maybe what I think of as passive-aggressive is different to you. Would you be able to explain the situation a bit more? An example or scenario would help me (and others) understand I think. Also giving them names might help so that we can tell them apart! Thanks.

@Stinley : thnx for replying again. Well, its an older person that is passive aggressive towards a younger person.Male towards a female.

@Stinley I agree with your guess…sounds pretty rational. I mean, if person A gives person B a bit of the cold shoulder when he is around her, maybe he just wants her to leave him alone??

@ladymia69: how could he want her to leave him alone if she is not bothering him and she’s ignoring him most of the time? It does not make sense.

@naresh28 Here’s an idea: why don’t you just tell him how you feel?

It is possible only when he/she doesn’t like this particular person and don’t want to encourage any kind of conversation with him.