Would you accept a legitimate gift from someone you hate?

Take them and say thanks,you will enjoy the concert and look at your ex in a positive light you will feel better regardless of past with him the baby is the centrepiece and will feel the tension its hard but you will get there :)

The choice is yours. Why he did that is beyond me. I don’t know what happened between the 2 of you to make a good enough conclusion.

First of all, I don’t hate anyone. There are a couple of people I would gladly push underneath a rutting bull that just had it’s balls skewered, but no hating here. Anyway yeah, in the unlikely event that any of those would give me a gift, i’d most likely turn it down. That’s just me though…..stubborn.

No.I am more stubborn than@ucme and would tell him to shove those tickets.

I’d turn ‘em down. I’ve always had the mindset that someone who wants to give me something or do something nice for me is playing an angle and they are using the gift/gesture to hook me in some way. By that I mean people not in my close circle of trust.

@lucillelucillelucille But I gave you those tickets in good faith. Now i’m a sad panda :¬(

It depends on the reason for your hatred toward him.

If he mistreated you and/or your child/ren, then I’d take the tickets and not even bother thanking him.

E.g., if he owes you for spousal support, then the tickets could be considered a form of interest due on the delayed support.

However, if accepting the tickets could mean more contact or association with him, and if the undesirability of that would outweigh the enjoyment of the concert, then I’d decline the gift.

Evaluate why you hate this person in the first place. Perhaps he’s giving you those tickets to have a, “you owe me” or “look what I did for you” attitude in the future. Be wary. You dislike him for a reason.

Accept them.

my 2 cents

In your particular case, why do you think Baby Daddy, gave you the tickets? Do you think he is trying to turn over a new leaf and be kinder to you? Or do you think that he got them for free and thought he might “look good” by giving them to you? Or do you think that he has some other alternative motive for why he gave them to you?

If you really do truly hate him (there’s a couple people from my past like that, but they weren’t my boyfriend or husband, they were people from my job that were in positions of power and they abused that power and hurt a lot of good people) then you should probably just say thank you, but I cannot accept the tickets.

If he’s just a run of the mill loser, and your hatred doesn’t stem from reasons like he abused you or your child, then you could just take them and enjoy yourself, but don’t feel obligated towards him in anyway. If he’s just a douche-bag, that didn’t step up to the plate, take the tickets and have fun. Or take them and sell them.

If you are not in a position to be able to help him to turn over a new leaf (because you just don’t care, and that’s perfectly fine) just let him know that you aren’t doing him any favors.

I would certainly consider the “why” part of his giving you the tickets. Even if he’s doing it, to try to turn over a new leaf, you are not obligated to help him with that task. If he hurt you so bad, even though he might be trying to be a decent guy, that’s not your problem, it’s his problem. Some things are just un-forgiveable.

Generally a horrible and selfish idea to keep a child from an interested parent. Make sure you’re doing what’s right for the child and not just what’s right for spite.

Anyway, as for your question I would say: Take take take and enjoy. Unless there’s some sort expected trade off that you’re unwilling to barter.

Just go. You’ll enjoy it and you’ll have fun. If you don’t go, you’ll probably be sitting at home stewing over the fact that you didn’t accept them and he’ll be on your mind even more. Wouldn’t want that to happen, would ya?

@noelleptc Honey, break out of that shell. If you look like an ass, who cares!? You’re a FANTASTIC mom, you love Rio with all of your heart, and if someone doesn’t see that, then they sure aren’t worth your time. Just go, have fun, and take a little time to yourself! You deserve it!

@noelleptc

“I’m giving GA’s to all of you.”

Thanks. I always prefer getting GA’s to getting GAs. ;-)

@noelleptc if you wanna go then accept them faster ^^

You 2 will have a lot of time to talk about you issues [ but the concert won’t be around forever ]

@noelleptc I am so jealous.

Ok I tried posting this about 50 minutes ago, here it goes:
If you want to go, accept them.

You can give him the (fuck-you-very-much) glare while you say thank you, if you feel that’s necessary. Or you don’t want to thank him, don’t thank him. I think you have earned the right to be “ungrateful.”

You could even say that you look forward to the concert about as much as you anticipate him catching malaria. [Cough] That is, you mean, you can’t wait to go. :D

[Edit] Plus it may be seen as childish to refuse them. It doesn’t cost him anything extra since he’s already paid for the tickets and you don’t get to go to the concert as a result. And as much as it may insult him, it only injures you.

Benefits of going to the concert:
Britney
Nicki Menaj
Generally fun night out

Costs of going to the concert:
You don’t get to tell him to shove the tickets up his ass

I think it’s probably worth it to go.

Hell no! I only hate people if they hate me, so if a person I hate offered me a gift I wouldn’t dare trust it. It may blow up!

So you didnt take No Doubt tickets???!!!!!??? hope you felt vindicated and justified that it was worth it heard theyre excellent in concert, if you regretted not accepting No Doubt tickets take these, have a fun night out.

Thank goodness, he seems pretty out there to buy you concert tickets, presumably two? so you can take a friend? perhaps take these recent tickets and sell online.

Hehehe

If he’s just douchey, then I think it’s fine for you to take the tickets. Just don’t let him try to use “his gift” as a way to maniuplate you down the line. If he tries to, just say that you thought he gave the tickets to you to be nice (even if he didn’t) and you didn’t expect to become obligated or to owe him a favor. So take them and go and have a nice time.

Do his parents realize that he seems to always put your daughter in second or third place? Are his parents involved with your little girl? It’s too bad that he won’t take some parenting classes. Have you suggested that to him? Even if he’s a crappy dad, don’t ever let your daughter know that you think that. As she gets older (if he doesn’t shape up) you can dole out bits of info to her in a clinical way, that doesn’t make it look like he’s being a crap dad on purpose or that you hate him (even though you do) It’s OK, when she’s older to let her know that you were very disappointed in him, but don’t tell her or show her that you hate him.

When she’s old enough to see him on her own, she can make that decision for herself. Maybe by then, he will have matured and turne over a new leaf.

You must look at him sideways as you accept them. or give him the Jew staredown the way Larry david does in Curb Your Enthusiasm.

Take them and thank him. Little gestures like this are important since you two will always be your baby’s parents, sharing responsibilities and occasionally helping each other. You don’t have to ever like him but to be as civil as possible will make it easier to get stuff done.

Thank Rio when he’s holding her. Tell her it was very nice of her to tell her dad that’s what she wanted to get you for Mother’s day. It was a nice jesture, and does deserve a pleasant thank you.

If I really have problems with a person, it would seem hypocritical of me to accept a present. No matter how much I wanted that present. There are times though when a present could be seen as an olive branch and the only way to get past bad feelings, is for someone to offer the branch and another person to accept it. So, if you feel this is the case, consider whether you can at least try to get things to a point where you can speak and be civil? It really depends on why you feel as you do and whether you are ready to let bygones be bygones though and only you know that.

Hatred is such a waste of energy. It takes effort and that what sets it apart from disinterest.

I feel it shouldn’t be so weird a gesture to give the mother of your child something for mother’s day. My suggestion: take the tickets, thank him for the tickets and enjoy the evening.

Maybe down the line you should wonder what’s so special about him that he deserves to be hated. Probably you’re better of not caring so much about him.

since it was mothers day was it not just your daughter really giving them to you? Thats how mothers day worked in my family. Dad buys gifts. We give them.

Yes, I would and I have.
Think nothing of it and enjoy yourself and be happy you don’t have to go to the concert with him.

I would politely accept the gift. Assuming that you have to see the person again, being civil will make future interactions much more peaceful.