{nsfw} This is about what you and your partner do.

I don’t have sex when a woman is on her period, so that’s when I get a good ole blowie (lol). Or when I’m too tired to have any more sex, I usually just give her oral until my jaw locks up.

Hopefully both are satisfied in the all sexual activities through giving or receiving.

Doing it just to satisfy me or my partner? To me that is quite considerate and a sign of sweet affection. As long as neither of us does not mind that the other is not 100% revved up, I guess this compromise works. I have a feeling this happens in most relationships, not all. I would be interested in that kind of statistics.

I never suggest it, but sometimes she does. If she does, who am I to say no. Same also goes for me on occasion

Since she is much less interested in sex than I am, sometimes she will do something for me, although she never asks for anything in return. When I offer, she always declines. Our therapist suggested that she offer to “hold me” while I masturbated. That was worse than being on my own.

I want us both to be interested because otherwise it feels like theft, somehow. You can’t steal love. I guess you can steal sex, but I’m not interested.

I know she loves me, but it often doesn’t feel like she does. I guess this is the problem with differential libidos. But as far as I can tell, the therapists don’t have any decent ideas to help with this. Grin and bear it. Slowly slip into old age. It’s not really necessary. It’s bullshit to not express yourselves physically, and my wife knows it. I feel like I’m not allowed to touch her unless my hands are above the waist and not in front. Sometimes marriage is incredibly challenging.

Most of the time we try and make sure that both of us are satisfied but there have been the odd occasion when I have given him a blow job or he has gone down on me and nothing more is expected after that.

Like @Leanne1986 said. Sometimes it’s only that.

I met a few people in the past .. when we wanted just some particular pleasure we could ask each other for that [ especially for not having to use self pleasuring ]
Those relations worked so well .. to bad we drifted apart.

The sexual relationship between my partner and I is a bit different than the normal sexual relationship. It’s mostly all about him.

@KatetheGreat: is that your choice?

@jca Very much so.

Why do you want to know? What do I get out of it?

@Pandora, I guess I’m just trying to measure my own relationship against the norm. Our “evenings in” are sometimes very one-sided. His or hers. I’m kind of surprised at how closely we track that – not letting the quo fall too far from the quid.

@6rant6 Wouldn’t that be the quim?

Its not healthy in a relationship to compare. But I think in a healthy loving relationship it should all be about pleasing your partner. Once you both lose sight of that and make it only about yourself, then someone if bound to feel cheated.

@pandora, there are more than the two poles available.

@wundayatta Yes, I think the new standard should be “Quim pro quo”