[NSFW] What do you do differently in video sex?
First of all, by “video sex,” I mean seeing and talking to a partner over the internet and engaging in mutual stimulation with the aim of having deep intimacy (and usually an orgasm as well).
Obviously, there are some taken for granteds. Video sex over the internet is all about sound and sight, but you can’t touch. Since you can’t touch, that changes the way you go about it. But how does it change it? What do you do differently? What tricks have you developed? What do you like about video sex that isn’t available in live sex?
It probably helps in answering the question if you have actually had video sex, but I know that won’t stop anyone who has never tried it from answering.
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No interest. I want the real thing.
Well, you can perform for the other person, which can be quite fun. You can dress up, use toys, and go to town. In addition to putting on a performance for your partner, you get to focus on your own personal pleasure. It definitely takes a certain level of comfort to be able to get on a webcam and just go at it. You can make it fun for the other person by teasing them with partially covered shots, which makes their imagination kick in as well. You both can use your imagination to make it as much fun as you want it to be.
For me, I liked that it gave us a way to keep that part of our relationship alive and well and still take care of each others needs while we were far away from each other. For me personally, I felt a lot of excitement with it once I got past the initial nervousness of doing it. There was a certain level of freedom that came with it since I was able to mostly focus on myself and give my husband a show. The best part was that we both enjoyed it and it was something else we could do together while apart.
By “do differently”, you mean not have sex?
This sounds more like mutual masturbation.
@dverhey More like simultaneous masturbation. But how do you go about it since you are not together in the flesh? How do you substitute for touch in order to arouse the other person or bring them to orgasm?
But how do you go about it since you are not together in the flesh? How do you substitute for touch in order to arouse the other person or bring them to orgasm?
That’s were it helps if you have had good communication before in the relationship and you have the ability to use your imagination. It’s also really helpful if you and your partner both are comfortable with masturbation and know what you like and don’t like. For arousal, you really have to rely on your ability to convey your thoughts through words and your partner has to be able to take those words, imagine they are real, and go from there. It probably wouldn’t work for everyone and I’m sure there are people that find that out through trial and error. In the long run, it really is masturbation with someone watching. It can feel like more, but it may not. That part depends really on the individual and how they process everything that happens and how they feel about it. For me, those times when my husband and I were on webcam together didn’t feel like regular masturbation because to me, they were about so much more since he was on the other side of the world and wouldn’t be home for a while.
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