When should I take a pregnancy test? And do you think I am pregnant?

2 weeks after he ejaculated in you, you should take a pregnancy test.

And I must add this. USE A CONDOM. Trust me, it’s worth it.

Pills take a month to work, not 7 days.

It said 7 days. lol. And that’s not really why we did it. We weren’t thinking.

What do you think this is? Answerbag????

Well, anyway, to be safe, you should use a condom AND a spermicide for a while longer. Did your doctor tell you 7 days?

Though the pill is highly effective and you shouldn’t need any additional protection once the pill kicks in.

@Rarebear is a doctor. I’d trust what he has to say.

Take the test. If it’s been two weeks since you had unprotected sex, the test should be accurate.

The pill isn’t 100% effective. Ever. If you want to be sure, you should always use two methods of birth control, especially when you’re young and can’t handle the possibility of having a kid.

Ok alot can be going on, your neves, the change in hormones because of the birth control pill.. I would wait until your the day after your period was due, it sounds like your getting your period is coming early with the spotting your getting but I don’t know until it fully starts, the 14th is only 4 days away I would wait until the 15th to take the test just because I think you are actually getting your period. Until you get a postive result from a pregnancy test think good thoughts here and I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

I would also listen to @KatetheGreat and use a condom as well as the pill because you are also protecting yourself from std’s… your young and I would hate to see you get something that could alter your life for ever

Do you think I am pregnant? :/

Nobody can answer that on a web site. You really need to see a doctor…

I can’tt..

It’s always possible. Any changes you’ve noticed in your body could easily be due to other things, though, like the hormones in the pills you’re taking, or the fact that your body is still developing.

If you think you can’t see a doctor, you’re wrong. Go to Planned Parenthood or a similar free clinic.

If you think you’re mature enough to have sex, you need to be mature enough to accept the consequences.

I know I need to. But I don’t have any adults to help.

By the way, I thank everyone for helping, SO much. I had so many questions, and NO answers.

@jenhuntsketchupp You either find a way to get a pregnancy test, tell your parents about all of this, or you have to play the waiting game. Those are pretty much your only options.

I would choose what you think is the most responsible way though. It will make you feel much better.

I’m going to get a test. But when is the BEST time to take it? I’m dying to just find outt. If I took it now, would it be accurate?

Do you have a Planned Parenthood near you? They can give you a pregnancy test and give you condoms and stuff. Even if you can’t get your @$$ there, they can answer your questions over the phone better than we can.

Yeah, I have one just down the street from my school. But I don’t support abortion one bit,, and I really wouldn’t want to support the clinic. I knowwww. I shoulld. But I can just buy one at walgreens. But I want to know, if I take it like tomorrow will it be accurate?

You can take it at any time, basically.

Planned Parenthood is not about abortion. Planned Parenthood is about sexual health.

The thing with pregnancy tests is that they’re not always 100% accurate, either. Store-bought tests can show a false positive or a false negative. So yeah, the test might be accurate, but it might not. It sucks, I know. Personally, I’d wait until you know whether your period is late.

No one’s telling you to get an abortion! That’s up to you…

No, I know. I just don’t want to go to a place that gives abortions. And, Alright.. I guess I’ll just take one when I can get one? I might have my boyfriend go to the planned parenthood and get a test from there.

I probably wouldn’t trust the pregnancy tests you get at the Dollar Tree for a dollar. Get one from a pharmacy. Best time to take the test is your first urination of the morning.

I’m going to get one from walgreens.

If your period isn’t due until the 14th, it may still be too early for a positive to show up on a home pregnancy test. You might want to wait until some time after the 14th to take the test. If you test before then, and your periods are still messed up and off, you might want to test again in a week or two. When you test, you want to do it first thing in the morning.

Since this is the first month you have been on the pills, it could just be your body reacting to the hormones. I’m curious, if you can’t get to the doctor and you don’t like Planned Parenthood, how did you get the birth control pills? Regardless of what happens with the pregnancy, you need to talk to your doctor about your periods if they don’t become regular once you have been on the pills for a few months.

My mom found out I lost my virginity, and took me to get on the pills. But I can’t tell her about this, Because I’ll never be able to see my boyfriend again, and if I find out I am pregnant, I will move out. Because they are only my gaurdians, and have custody of me. So, I will move out if they try and keep me from him.

You know you can’t legally move out when you’re 14, right?

@jenhuntsketchupp I’m sorry, but you’re 14. You can’t legally move out at all. Your parents can retrieve you at any time unless they have given specific permission for you to leave.

@jenhuntsketchupp Do you have any other adults in your life that you trust? School counselors? School nurse? You could tell your mom just that you are bleeding when you aren’t suppose to be on the pill and you want to go talk to the doctor about it. You don’t have to mention the sex to her. I don’t think that’s the best way to go about it, but you can do that.

I’m not saying move out on my own!!!!!! They are not my parents. They are like a foster home. I will have my real dad fight for custody of me. Or my boyfriends mother would I’m sure.

If your mom was okay with taking you to get you on birth control pills, she will be okay with the talk you need to have with her. You need to find out more about sex and birth control and the prevention of unwanted pregnancy.

No, I don’t. I’m a very independant teenager. Because my mom was killed and my dad was a meth head. I don’t have anyone. But my boyfriend.
My mom will go into the room with me and then I couldn’t talk to the doctor.

Well, we can’t tell you that. Sorry.

@jenhuntsketchupp Well then find out yourself. We can’t tell you. Quit getting all angsty.

I didn’t ask you if I was. I asked the questions above. and those are the only answers or comments I needed.

You need to calm down, the hormones of the pill can do alot to your body and your period especially when you first start talking it. If your wanting for the most acurate reading on a pregnancy test you want to wait until the first day after you missed your period which would be the 15th. Look at your birth control pills there are usually 7 pills that are a different color that allow your period to start have you begun taking them yet?? If you have then the spotting you are having is probablly your period.

@jenhuntsketchupp If you tell the doctor that you don’t want anyone else in the room, they can ask you mom to leave the room and wait outside. You don’t have to have her in the room if you don’t want her there.

If you want to know if you are pregnant, wait a week and take the test. Like I said, if your bleeding keeps being irregular while on the pill, you need to talk to the doctor about it. Good luck!

Some tests can tell you up to 6 days before your missed period. Yet, since you are spotting, I suggest you wait and see if it does come. Stressing can also make you miss your period. Here are a list of side effects. Some of the things you are concerned about are listed in the side effects. Here is another list of side effects. The doctor may to prescribe a different brand if the side effects do not lessen. I suffered bad side effects on one brand and little on another.

Yeahh, I took my 2 different colored pill yesterday. But if it is my period does that mean I am not pregnant? or could I still possibly be?

I mean my 2nd different colored pill

It would mean you are not pregnant if you get your period and it sounds like your period is starting since you have started taking the different colored pill. What that pill is a pill without any progestrone so that you can get your period. So if you were pregnant you still would not get your period.

The last 7 pills in the monthly pack should be the placebo pills.

Okay, Thank you. The bleeding still seems to be very light, and like, not constant. Before if was a thick brown, like normal spotting, but now it is brighter red, and not so thick. so it’s more period like.

I am glad we could figure this out for you and put your mind at ease…. Going forward your boyfriend may not be happy with this but condoms are a necessity these days with all the diseases out there…. I beg you to please protect yourself from not only pregnancy but from diseases for your life as well

Yeahh, We usually do use condoms. But He was my first, and my only. and I was his first, and his only. So we don’t worry about diseases. But I know of course in the future to ALWAYS use a condom if I’m ever going to sleep with anyone else. But I don’t plan on it (: haha.

Just and added FYI the pill is not 100% and be aware it looses its effectiveness if you go on antibiotics and different medications so be sure you use a condom if you go on any medications to protect yourself as a double precaution. I don’t want to see you with a baby before you are ready for one. Live your young life and get all you can out of it before becoming a parent. I loved mine and I even got to travel a bit and can’t wait to take my kids to some of the places I have been when they are a little older. If you have them too young you don’t have those experiences to pass to them.

When you start birth control, you are supposed to take your pills for a full month before it’s somewhat safe to stop using other forms of protection.

Since you just began the birth control, you are likely to see a few changes until your body adjusts to the hormones. Spotting is normal, so is tenderness of the breasts, mild headache and mood swings…

No one here can tell you if you’re pregnant. You either need to take a pregnancy test or go see a doctor.

Okay, let’s assume for the sake of argument you’re pregnant. What are you going to do?

I have not read any of the answers above thoroughly, but here is my answer: I do not think you are pregnant if you have been taking your pills correctly, I think you are having breakthrough bleeding. When you are on the pill you are on it. The reason the first month is less protected is because usually women are told to start the pills on a Sunday rather than a certain day of their period, and women many times screw up taking the pill consistently when it is a new routine.

No matter what you need to call your doctor because that pill is not right for you. If you are not pregnant, and I think you are not, you need a stronger dose pill so you don’t have this crazy bleeding. Make a doctors appointment let them confirm you are not pregnant with a blood test and get a new prescription.

@jenhuntsketchupp I think the pill is a good idea. Are you taking a pill that has two different pills? 21 days of one pill, and 7 days of placebo? Or, some sort of triphasal? I took the pill for years, never gained a pound, never got bigger breasts, and my period was exactly the same as always.

Yeah, it’s tri-nessa. it has the two different pills. I just hate medicine, and I don’t like taking pills. I would much rather get a shot every three months.

@jenhuntsketchupp Change that crap. “Tri” anything sucks in my opinion. I don’t know one women who did not have problems on those pills. Have them put you on a pill that has a constant hormone for 21 days. Pill is better than shot in my opinion. Shot all the drug is in you, and you cannot get rid of it if you feel like shit. With the pill, if you feel you need to stop, or are having side effects you don’t like, you can stop taking it or switch pills.

I am not a doctor by the way, just someone who has been on probably 7 different pills over the years, and know many people who have taken the pill.

I understand, (: Thank you for the help!

‘It said 7 days. lol. And that’s not really why we did it. We weren’t thinking.’
Of course you weren’t thinking, you’re 14.

Of course I wasn’t thinking, I’m 14 (: a 14 year old who has been through probably more than you’ve been through in your entire life. So I think you can back off with the rude comments, Thanks. <3

Look, you asked the question. Older people who’ve been around the block a few times are commenting on the question. Deal with it. And you made some rude comments of your own, so you need to chill with the attitude.

Exactly, I asked the question, To get an answer, not a smart ass comment, and when I get one, I’m going to give one right back. Deal with it? Obviously, I did.

Sorry you took that as a rude comment. Maybe you are not 14, if you think you have been through more than I have. To have been through a lot you would have learned a lot. Thus I say of course you weren’t thinking, you’re 14. At my age, I think before any course of action I partake in.

You’re acting like a child. If you can’t control yourself when someone mentions your age in regards to sex, you’re not old enough to be having sex.

Don’t complain about other people making smartass comments when you’re being a smartass yourself. “People who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks.” Ever hear that? Nah, you’re probably too young.

Haha, Because I stick up for myself when people say something to me that is offensive I’m acting like a chid? well, okay then.
I deffinitely am not 14.

You can always go to Planned Parenthood by yourself if you need to see a doctor or are unhappy with your current doctor.

Everyone should lay off with the snide comments, sounds like she wants to be responsible. Give her a break and let’s try to stick to advice about birth control and pregnancy and not make judgements.

@JLeslie THANK YOU (:
I think if you claim to be an adult, it’s pretty childish to comment on a young girls serious question, making fun of her.

Will planned parenthood do a free blood test to see if i am pregnant?

@jenhuntsketchupp I don’t think they are free, but they are very inexpensive. Maybe they do do tests for free if you have no income? I have no idea. Call your local office and tell them your concern and see if they can help you.

I am not clear, does your pill box have 28 pills? What day pill are you on today?

My pill box has 28 pills, and I had 5 pills left. But I just took one, So now I have 4. haha.

Wait…. You’re “definitely not 14”? You said you are 14… confusing.

And don’t start with smartass remarks yourself, if you don’t want to get them in return, okay? That’s something you’ll learn as you get older.

You’re apparently also not old enough to realize that @AmWiser was NOT being offensive; she was making a simple statement, saying that most young teenagers do not stop to think about what they are doing before they do it, because they do not yet possess the wisdom to consider consequences before taking action. That’s what she meant by her comment “Of course you didn’t think, you’re 14.” She wasn’t being rude to you.

You’re right. It’s time for me to leave this thread because I can’t stomach a petulant 14 year old who acts like she knows all and is ready for everything life is going to throw at her, when clearly the opposite is true. Have a great evening and a great life.

@jenhuntsketchupp And the last 7 are all the same color? So, it would be likely to start your period yesterday or today, maybe today more likely since you take the pill at night. Call your doctor tomorrow and tell them how fucked up your cycle was, and that you want a different pill, one that is not triphasal. Those tri pills habe very weak hormones during part of the month, that is probably why you are bleeding. Also, many women I know feel a little nuts on those pills, I did. Never felt crazy on any of the others. See if they will just call in a new perscription. Are you seeing a gynocologist or a GP?

Yeah, I’ve had crazyy mood swings. :/ And no, I am not.

@WillWorkForChocolate I’m with you. I was in the middle of typing a rebuttal but it’s really not worth it.
@jenhuntsketchupp goodd luckk and I hopee you figure thingss outt.

I’m really not interested in friending you on Facebook, sorry. I was asking what your plans are if you’re pregnant because, frankly, you joined Fluther and brought it up.

Just go to the drug store and get a pregnancy test and test yourself. If you’re positive, deal with it. You were mature enough to have sex, now you need to be mature enough to deal with the consequences.

@jenhuntsketchupp You are not seeing a GYN? Is that what you meant by your are not? I think you should be seen by a GYN. I’m thinking Planned Parenthood again.

I’m not seeing a GYN yet no, But I think I have an appt set for like november with one.

November?! I’d rather you see a doctor who prescribes birth control all day long every day, and who does pelvic exams and is aware of how common STD’s are, and hopefully has a microscope in the office. Some GP’s regularly care for GYN stuff, but all too often they are not in touch enough with teen sex in my opinion.

So you’ve finished your first month of active pills and are now taking the placebo pills. Your maybe-period is very different from others. Because of that, you are worried you could be pregnant. So you want a pregnancy test, but are afraid to let your mother know you want one because she’ll do something nasty to you—keep you away from your boyfriend or something?

So the idea about where to get it is important. You should get it at Planned Parenthood, because they are free and they care about women and know what they are doing. However, because they also provide abortions, you seem to think that makes them all bad because you don’t support abortion. So, even thought they will give you the best information about everything related to sex and pregnancy and birth control, you won’t go there. Not a wise decision in my opinion. Especially since you could keep if from your mother that way.

As to a pregnancy test, you are just impatient to know. It sounds like you want to be pregnant. My advice would be to wait a few more weeks and then take a test. You don’t need to know this second. If you are pregnant, you plan to keep the baby and you will have a whole new set of very serious problems to deal with—ones that challenge every 14 year old to the limit, including the really smart ones.

It also sounds like you’ve had a lot of shit in your life. Your dad is (was?) a meth-head. Your mom is I don’t know where. You are living with foster parents. You have ideas about which parent you want to live with so long as it allows you to stay with your boyfriend.

You’ve been abandoned over and over in life, and so your boyfriend is your lifeline, and if you get pregnant, I bet you fantasize that that will keep him bound to you forever.

I am sorry about your past. I know those kinds of childhoods can really fuck you up for a long time. And things like addictions get passed down from father to daughter. And if you hope a baby will keep you and your boy together—I have to tell you that the odds are against that. I’m sure you will deny that’s why you want the baby, but check back with me in thirty years after you’ve has a serious amount of therapy and let me know what you think then.

I could be wrong, but I am a damn good guesser.

Here’s my prediction: I don’t think you are pregnant. I think that you and your boyfriend will no longer be together this time next year. I think you will have pissed off one set of guardians or another and will find yourself kind of moving from home to home, and missing school and making things hard on yourself.

I think you would benefit from therapy of some kind to help you understand the deeper things going on in your life. Much deeper than this pregnancy test issue. I think it would be great if you could understand yourself better. I think that will really help a lot.

I hate it when people judge others for this kind of thing. “You should have been more careful. If you are capable of choosing to have sex, you should deal with the consequences.” Sorry. That’s not helpful. But that’s pretty typical for here, so don’t let it bother you. I think people mean well. Although I’m not sure how berating you for something in the past will help you. They are totally missing the point, since it seems you are happy to be pregnant. You want the baby. Unless I misunderstood you.

If you are pregnant, then, as @JLeslie said, you need to seen a midwife or a gynecologist right away. You will see them once a month. You need to learn a lot of things about how to have a healthy pregnancy. It should be your first priority to take care of the fetus, no matter what kind of trouble that may get you into elsewhere.

But like I said, I don’t think you will find that you are pregnant.

Starting to take the pill can alter your periods. You are throwing your hormones into a false state of pregnancy in order to prevent you from getting pregnant. As a result, you can have some symptoms that seem like you’re pregnant. If your period is due on the the 14th, you should wait until at least a week or two after that date to do a pregnancy test. Keep taking the pills. Don’t have unprotected sex, because you’re not sure what’s going on with your ovulation.

From my parent soap box, like it or not, Sex = Babies. It is the biological intent of intercourse. Your body wants you to get pregnant. Birth control can and does fail. If having a baby at 14 = Your Worse Nightmare, then you might want to act accordingly.

OMG!
Goodd Byye!

That last comment was to @wundayatta by the way!

@jenhuntsketchupp By the way, your period is not due on the 14th. It is due the second or third day of your placebo pills, which is the last seven pills in your packet. So, that would be day 23–24 more or less of your pills.

Just to straighten some things out, I think @AmWiser was just trying to be understanding that you are young and may have made a mistake, or may not have understood how the pill works. I understand why it feels like she is beng critical, maybe she should have realized how a younger person might not appreciate the sarcastic remark, but I don’t think she was tring to be condescending. And, @wundayatta was understanding also that you are young, and he felt people should not criticize you. We all know what it is like to be 14. You might be a mature 14 who has been through a lot, but we are in our 30’s 40’s 50’s and older, so we have some perspective also. I don’t think you want to be pregnant, somehow Wunday misinterpreted something I guess.

You can buy a $2 pregnancy test from Dollar General. It confirmed my pregnancy with my daughter 8 years ago.

Holy crap, you’re upset with @wundayatta? S/he (sorry, don’t know gender) was being really nice, and was defending you from what I said. If anything, you should have been upset over my comments!

Anyway, good luck. Agree with Planned Parenthood.

Depending on the pill some are effective almost immediately. If I remember correctly, when I was on the pill I started it on the first day of my period and by the time my period ended, the pill was supposed to have been effective. Still, waiting a month is always a good idea. Better safe than sorry. Since you already made the mistake of unprotected sex, all you can really do now is take a test. Buy a 3 pack. Take one now. Take one in a few days. Take one after the 14th if you still haven’t gotten your period. Bleeding doesn’t necessarily mean you’re in the clear. I’m pregnant and I started bleeding like a normal period a few weeks into my pregnancy. Also, some say the cheap dollar store tests work. I played it safe and bought an expensive digital one. I conceived the baby on or around December 24 according to the doctor and I took the test on January 1st. It came out positive. That’s how sensitive those things can be. Also, I went to planned parenthood just to confirm my pregnancy. Never did they mention abortion. Thats not the sole purpose of their services. They can help you in many other ways. Go there. Good luck with everything.

@ItalianPrincess1217 If you want to play it safe you go to a doctor. Any other test is a crap shoot. My $2 test worked, your $expensive name brand worked.

@jonsblond I agree. I was scared to even believe it was true until a doctor confirmed it.

@ItalianPrincess1217 She already started her placebo pills, I think it is important she knows she is not due for her period at the end of the 28 days of pills, so she doesn’t think she is pregnant every month.

@jenhuntsketchupp if a pregnancy test comes up positive, even a cheap one, it is 99.9% you are pregnant. If it comes up negative that is the crap shoot. If you take the test too early the pregnancy hormone might not be high enough to detect a pregnancy and the test gives you a false negative. False positives are extremely unlikely.

@jenhuntsketchupp You are new here. @wundayatta is one of the most understanding noncritical, open about his own flaws people on fluther. If he worded something in a way that upset you, give him a chance to explain.

@jenhuntsketchupp Wow! I’m sorry. I thought I was being friendly and understanding. Must be off my feed or something. I was not at all trying to say that you were “stupid and worthless.” Quite the opposite. I was pulling together all the information you’ve provided here and trying to make a story out of it that could make it into a coherent whole. I made a lot of guesses, but they weren’t intended to put you down. They were intended to try to understand you so that people could give you the advice you asked for. Which was actually given to you several times.

I told you what I told you not to condemn you but to show you things that might happen so you could plan better. If you’re going to have a baby, I think it’s a good idea to give it the best start it can give.

As others say, if you knew what I’ve been through, you might feel more like we have come through similar trials. I know my advice went beyond what you were asking about, and if I’m wrong, I’m wrong. I’m sorry I hurt you. I really want to help you if I can. Obviously that didn’t work. Sorry about that. I will no longer follow this question.

I still honestly don’t see what @wundayatta said that was so upsetting.

Thank you @wundayatta
And @Rarebear, You don’t neeed to know! I asked to just drop it.

for once, @wundayatta is not being an ass ;)

And since you want to know so bad @Rarebear
“Here’s my prediction: I don’t think you are pregnant. I think that you and your boyfriend will no longer be together this time next year. I think you will have pissed off one set of guardians or another and will find yourself kind of moving from home to home, and missing school and making things hard on yourself.

I think you would benefit from therapy of some kind to help you understand the deeper things going on in your life. Much deeper than this pregnancy test issue. I think it would be great if you could understand yourself better. I think that will really help a lot.”

THAT is what hurt. He really doesn’t know SHIT about my life. So to make a very ugly prediction of my life’s future, HURT. Especially at a time, that I am very fearful of my future. Considering I might be pregnant. And to say that I don’t know myself and need therapy to “Understand myself better” Excuuuuse me, but I think I know myself a little better than him.
And sorry, Maybe I’m being a teenager, who’s hormones are way out of wack. But either way it HURT. So I’d like it, to be dropped. and just get the help I need. Not the rude comments, or harsh opinions.

Just to try and sum up some of the advice given here that answers your original question

When should I take a pregnancy test?
Take a pregnancy test in the morning as you do your first pee – the concentration of pregnancy hormones is higher in the morning.

Take the test several times, especially if it is negative. Early pregnancy has weaker concentrations of hormones. If it is positive the most likely explanation is that you are pregnant.

And do you think I am pregnant?
You can get the symptoms you describe for a lot of reasons but the simple matter is – you could be pregnant since you have had sex. Any sex can lead to pregnancy. Take a test.

Hope this helps.

@jenhuntsketchupp Like others have mentioned, once you start the 4th week of your pills, you are suppose to get your period. Most women find that they start their period on the second or third day of that 4th week of pills. Also some women notice that the pills gives them lighter and shorter periods than they had before starting the pills. It can take a few months for your body to adjust to the hormones you are now putting into it and that could be why you had the breakthrough bleeding. Breakthrough bleeding just means you were bleeding during the first 3 weeks of pills, which are the active pills. The 4th week of pills are known as the placebo pills. So, since this is your third day of the placebo pills, you should be on your period now. It sounds like you are, so you are most likely not pregnant. If you want to test to be sure, you can test at any time at this point, just be sure to do it first thing in the morning.

Where you go for continued care is really up to you. If you don’t like the doctor you went to see to get on the birth control, consider giving Planned Parenthood a try. They do everything on a sliding scale, so things would be either free or very reduced cost for you. Good luck.

I’m a little confused by some of this. If you haven’t seen a gynecologist yet, how did you get a prescription for birth control pills?

Also, why don’t you call whoever prescribed the pills to have your questions answered?

Isn’t there information with the pills that tells you all about breakthrough bleeding and other possible side effects? If you know it takes 7 days for the pills to be effective, you should also have that other information.

I’ve never had a birth control pill prescription that took a month to work, not since my first pack of pills 15 years ago.

You might be pregnant, you might not be. The only way to know is to take a pregnancy test, and the best time to take the test is early in the morning after you’ve already missed your period. If it’s negative, you’re probably not pregnant. If it’s positive, you probably are pregnant. Depending on the test results, you can then decide whether or not to visit Planned Parenthood or your own doctor.

All of the symptoms you describe could be your body adjusting to the pill. Some of them will just go away after you’ve been on the pill for a while. For example, last time I switched to a different pill I got a lot of zits, felt sick to my stomach off and on, had bad heartburn, and spotting for a few days leading up to my period. These symptoms lasted about three months, then disappeared.

Breakthrough bleeding (bleeding before your period is due) can be more serious. In general, if it happens two months in a row you’d want to talk to your doctor about switching to another form of birth control. Still, this is really something you need to talk to a doctor about. If your mom took you to get the pill, why can’t you ask her if you can talk to the doctor who prescribed it about some side effects?

Finally, you should still be using a condom every time. I’m sure you know the pill doesn’t prevent STDs. You and your boyfriend should care about yourselves enough to take this basic precaution.

The reason you’re getting hassled about your age and told you are too young to be having sex is because if you were older you’d be able to handle this on your own. You wouldn’t be limited as much by money, your parents, lack of access to privacy, and an emotional maturity that is still developing. Someone older would probably already know how to get the information you are looking for without turning to strangers on the internet.

@MissAusten Although I agree with your sentiments, I have seen a lot of questions on here from people who are older asking generally the same type of pregnancy questions.

@optimisticpessimist You’re right, I’ve seen those too. It’s just that being 14 makes it harder to take a lot of the great advice here. I don’t know what I would have done at 14 years old if I had a problem like this.

@MissAusten That was what I was trying to convey. No one is giving her credit for trying to do the right thing. I know adults who are totally ignorant about their cycle, how birth control works, confused when they start their pills. Obviously the doctor did not tell her what to expect. When I took sex ed in 5th grade a teacher told a student who asked a question about birth control that the pill works because the pill makes a hard coating around the egg so the sperm can’t get in. Idiot.

@MissAusten @JLeslie Oh, I agree. My daughter is 14 and I can’t imagine her trying to handle this without any adult assistance.

@jenhuntsketchupp Just found this question today. It’s got everything a good story needs, suspense, drama, action…but I digress. I hope this situation has turned out okay for you since it has been two weeks, and I assume you have an answer now. I just wanted to throw in my $.02. Don’t knock therapy. You may “know yourself,” but that doesn’t mean you can’t benefit from it. It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you. It sounds like you went through an awful lot, at a very young age. That stuff rarely (if ever) goes away on its own. Talking to a therapist can be a good way to uncover and heal from emotional wounds you might not have even known existed. The human psyche is great at burying shit.

Take my advice as you will, but it isn’t intended to be insulting.

Everything has turned out okay. I’m not pregnant (: And I got off that pill. Soon to get on the shot.

@jenhuntsketchupp Glad everything worked out. Hope the shot works well for you!