If you found out you were an adopted child (or if you are), would you (or did you) seek out your birth parents? Why or why not?

I know i have a different biological father. But I was never even slightly interested in seeking him out. It just holds no importance to me. A complete non-issue.

I just sent this to KatawaGrey. She’s not adopted, but her biodad was a vial of genetic material I purchased from a sperm bank. Hope that’s OK, even though it’s not quite what you asked…

@JilltheTooth – Of course!

I think it would depend on the situation and what information I was given when I found out I was adopted and what was going on in my life. When I was younger (teen years), I always wanted to meet my dad’s family (they stopped talking to my mom and dad when I was born) and even attempted to find them, but never did. Since then, I stopped wondering about it and really don’t think about it that much anymore. I wouldn’t actively look for them again at this point.

No. I am perfectly okay with the parents that I have right now. I mean yes sometimes I hate them for putting rules for me but still I am thankful for having them in my life.

I’m not sure. I’m not very ambitious to get to know very many people in my family, but when it comes to birth parents, I think I would seek them out.

No, I’d have better things to do with my life.

Definitely, because I’d want to know their medical history, plus my I’m overly curious by nature. I’d want to know what the circumstances were that caused them to give me up for adoption.

I knew my mother had divorced my biological father when I was just a newborn but I wanted to see him with my own eyes someday so I did. I never made him into anything he wasn’t but it was important to me to know his story because it gave me closure.

Of course. For all the emotional reasons and one more big one.
It is critically important from a medical history standpoint. I would want to know what I may have to deal with on a genetic disposition standpoint.

@blueiiznh is right, the medical history should be given more weight and consideration.

All for seeking the biological parent though there a catch.

Some people just procreate while others raise them.

When someone reaches a certain age he/she ‘ll make the difference and understand they were loved. [ that is if they really were raised in love ]

No. My adopted parents would have chosen me out of all the possible kids up for adpotion. That would make me special. My biological parents chose not to have anything to do with me. Fuck em.

If I just found out I was adopted and I hadn’t known my whole life, I would spend a lot of time not talking to my mother and I probably would try and seek out my bio parents. Now, I do know that I’m the child of a sperm donor and I have always known. I did try to contact the doctor who actually impregnated my mother but she never got back to me. I kind of take that as a sign from the universe that I do not need to seek my father so I am just going to let things lie.

I think I would want to know who they were. I’d want to know something about where I came from. I’d also want to know why they felt they couldn’t be my parent.

I know in the case of my kids I did an open adoption with the baby and have actually been able to get mom diagoised through the baby for genetic issues. For my older one I am getting a full medical history of mom, dad is totally unknown so we will never know what what medical concerns there would be. Since biomom is a violent type person I have gotten the names of each of the other children she has given birth to and my attorney who is handling her adoption also handled her brother who is 4 yrs older he is going to contact them to see if they would be willing to allow the kids to communicate when they get older. I would give her some sort of biological connection to someone if she finds she needs it. I know in this day an age of the openness of adoptions so much more is possible for adoptive kids.

If I were adopted, I would probably want to meet my birth parents, yes. I have no idea how much of a relationship I would want to develop with them, but I would want to meet them and get to know them a little.

@FutureMemory ditto on the medical history and curiosity. Maybe some surprises.
I have a relative who was separated as a child by divorce/adoption and didn’t fit in that well with her adoptive siblings. She was told her other parent was dead. But she found her birth parent alive as an adult and several facets of herself suddenly made sense, blessings and burdens.

Not adopted, but my bio-father was completely out of the picture by the time I was born. I knew his name from the time I was old enough to ask about my fatherless-ness, though. I waited until I was 18 and tracked him down. I just had a lot of questions about the other half of my genetic makeup (mainly medical ones). Honestly, I thought I’d end up hating him, but we actually became friends (though we never had a father/daughter relationship.)

I wasn’t adopted but would be curious to meet my bio-parents if I was.

I was adopted and I do not want to seek my biological parents. Adopted mean love to me and I have two great parents and one sister. Thank You, RTT

Thanks all, for your answers. I’m not sure how I feel, myself. I would want to know my bioparents’ medical histories, for sure, but I don’t know whether I’d want to meet one or both of them.

@Seelix: When my mom was trying to get pregnant, anonymous sperm donors were required to give the bare minimum of medical history. Because of this, there are some things I have wondered, such as if I am genetically set up to get cancer on both sides of my family or if my father’s family has a history of Alzheimer’s, but, for the most part, this doesn’t keep me up at night. There are some genetic oddities I notice in myself that everyone else in my family lacks so I know those must be from my biological father, but for the most part, I just chuckle at these differences and then forget about them. :)

@KatawaGrey : I wish I had your nose.

@JilltheTooth: I wish I had yours. And I wish I tanned in the sun. And didn’t get cramps. :(

<said in a deep, breathy voice: “Katawa, I am your father.”>