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Have you ever looked yourself in the eye in the mirror?

Asked by rebbel (35553points) May 15th, 2011

The obvious answer is probably yes.
There are thousands of times that we see ourselves in the mirror, but I am talking about really looking in your eyes and being aware that you see your person standing there.
I hope that makes sense?
What happened?
Were you satisfied? Sad? Frightened? Happy?
Something else?
Do you look away when you notice for a split second that you look at yourself (in the eye)? Or give in?
I remember that i looked myself in the eyes when i was in my parents shower some thirteen years ago and was shocked.
The realization of my then psychological state made me cry out and that was the start of working on my depression.

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dxs's avatar

I couldn’t find myself! This really goodlooking guy was in may way and annoyingly followed my every move :(

gm_pansa1's avatar

I have, and I feel nothing at all. I just am.

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Yes, I have looked myself boldly in the eye in the mirror before. Many years ago, I would have said that I did it sheepishly, but I’ve grown since then. I’ve matured and worked on a lot of my problems. I’ve come out of the closet and quit drinking to name the 2 biggest ones.

I make a habit now of looking at myself in the eye in the mirror and telling myself that I love myself. Even to this day, I have a hard time believing it some days, but I say it anyway.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I have had to do that many times when doing drawings for assignments and just for practice.
Everything from just my face to full length nude portraits.
I know myself very well.
I also have photos of myself after I got done crying.That looked pretty raw and would scare the hide off a buffalo. XD

MilkyWay's avatar

Yes, I do that when I’m confused about something in my life.
If I look really close, I realise some things about myself are more apparent than I think. And I usually scare myself if I stare too long. The world begins to look funny.

KateTheGreat's avatar

I engage in staring competitions with myself.
But no, I personally haven’t stood there to “find myself”. It would just feel weird to me.

Sunny2's avatar

The last time I looked at my eyes in the mirror, I realized they were no longer brown! They are now kind of hazel or greenish bluish. I looked it up and it is not uncommon for eyes to change color as you get older. They may get lighter or darker. What does that mean as far as who I am? I don’t know, but it’s certainly not that brown-eyed girl I’ve always known.

Seelix's avatar

Yup, literally and figuratively. Last time was just a couple of days ago, when it really hit me that my 31st birthday is looming large and fast. I’m still not sure how I feel about that.

stardust's avatar

Yes, I have many times. At times I’ve felt saddened as I didn’t have a strong sense of self.

Berserker's avatar

I’ve tried, but I don’t really notice or feel anything deeper than what is initially expected to happen.
However, I find it gets really creepy if you stare at yourself in the mirror in the dark. Even in total darkness, once your eyes adjust, you’ll see a bit of yourself in the mirror, and if you stare long enough, it’s fucked up.

Blackberry's avatar

Yeah, it’s pretty surreal. I remember having mixed feelings the last time I did it. I told myself that I’m going to keep working to achieve what I want, and I’m going to be OK. I told myself that there’s nothing wrong with me.
Edit: I also remember having this strange connection with my brain, seeing my body as some foreign entity. As if it was my brain and “I” looking at my body as if it were some independent module.

rebbel's avatar

Thank you all for your sincere and open answers!
I am aware that even writing about it can be confrontational, so thanks again.

MilkyWay's avatar

@rebbel No probs :) It actually assured me I’m not the only one who feels weird staring at themselves in the eye…

Trojans40's avatar

I always try so hard to look at both of my eyes during the same time. The reason? My left eyes show bones such like those on Death’s hands. My right eyes shows a flower and water droplet, meaning living. In the middle of both of my eyes, are deep pits of dark blackness that covers the middle of what each eye thrive to reach.

Vincent_Lloyd's avatar

My my yes I’ve looked directly in my eyes thinking for awhile…I was….Sorta…disappointed…depressed I guess from the sight of what I saw in my own reflection. Disappointed at what I can’t do or haven’t learned. Depressed since it all relates to stuff like that and that I’m nothing like what I should be like. Anger from how much I hated (still have the hate for my own being locked inside somewhere) myself…But…On the other side I was happy from being in my skin, being myself and different from others. Sort of gained more confidence in myself since…(not to be narcissistic) But I do look sexy and have a sexy body. (again not to be full of myself.) But there was a lot of thought and emotion from looking at my own being from the reflection I saw in the mirror.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Yeah. I was fascinated with the pupil as a kid. The bathroom was small enough to be able to turn out the light, wait 10 seconds, then flip the light back on to watch my pupil contract.

dabbler's avatar

Louise Hay has some good work with the mirror. Recognizing the powerful therapeutic possibilities of mirror work is a good insight. It seems telling when it’s difficult to hold your own gaze, ans when it’s easy and peaceful.

Pele's avatar

Yes, it’s like saying “hello” to my soul. Then a smile, and life moves on.

gailcalled's avatar

Yes. That’s when I found my one and only chin hair.

augustlan's avatar

I have, a few times in my life. More often when I was extremely depressed (read: suicidal). I’ve felt different things at different times, and it’s always a little surreal. I don’t think I’ve done it lately. I should try it now that I’m in a pretty good state of mind, and see how it feels from this perspective. Thanks for making me think!

@gailcalled I have one of those, too. Hate that sneaky bastard.

Stinley's avatar

No.

From what you are all saying it sounds like a fairly intense experience. I will try it but not just now. I’m a bit stressed and trying to hold it together so worried that doing that might blow everything open then I’d be a mess at a time when I need to be together…

Earthgirl's avatar

Yes, I have really intensely looked myself in the eye in the mirror. This is something I uesd to do more often when I was an adolescent. I would get up really close and try to see myself as I really was, not how I would see myself casually or out of habit. Sometimes I would say something to myself too! If I were exasperated with myself or frustrated with life I would say “what am I going to do with you?!”
Backberry I have also had that surreal, disembodied feeling as if I am looking at myself i.e. my body with my mind’s eye.

markylit's avatar

No. It sounds like a good exercise. I think I am start working on this. Thanks!

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