(NSFW) How to accommodate different sizes in the bedroom?

women stretch for a reason, think we give birth to a baby… it will get better in time

Haven’t you ever heard of JJextend? It’s a product that extends, well, you know, so that you are now the perfect size for Mr. Gargantua!

No, it is not doomed. The situation that you are talking about is unusual. Practice. Go slow with penetration, use a lubricant at first. Have the guy engage in a lot of foreplay to moisten you.

@wundayatta How does it work??

Another part of the problem is that we won’t get to see each other very much, so any progress we make one weekend might be lost by the next.

@sliceswiththings You don’t want to know. It involves three wooden matches, a paper clip, and the unabridged version of the works of William Shakespeare.

@sliceswiththings that can be an issues, especially with your situation. Just make sure you and he communicate throughout sex so he knows what’s comfortable for you. A lot of foreplay is also really important.

@wundayatta Ahhhh anything but Shakespeare!

@sliceswiththings Then I bow to the superior wisdom of the other responders on this question. ;-)

It depends which way his manhood is too big. If its girth (ie normal length but very fat) then what you need is foreplay, patience and large amounts of lubricant. If it’s length then an easy way to avoid the problem is to experiment with different positions so as to limit the depth of penetration.

(Google may be able to give you some sugestions but you’ll probably have to dig through a ton of porn to find them).

Both!

My last boyfriend was better-endowed than most. All I can suggest is relax, be patient and take your time, and use lots of lube. You will get used to it in time. Enjoy!

@Seelix I hope your current b/f doesn’t read these forums, that will be a morale killer.

@tedd – He doesn’t, but I think after 10 years together he knows that it’s not all that important to me.

@Seelix That’s fine and dandy and all. I know my size, and I know where I fall… I know I’m bigger than most but definitely not the biggest, and quite possibly not the biggest my current or any former g/f’s have had…. I know they are into me for other reasons, and that in the grand scheme of things it really means nothing and may even make no difference….

But as far as I care to know, I am by and away the biggest they’ve ever seen, and them telling me otherwise would suck :) lol

@tedd – I know what you’re saying. Mr. Fiance is below average size, and he knows it. So he probably knows that the other guys I’ve been with have been bigger than him. And I don’t think he cares. I would never outright say anything, though.

@Seelix Good :) ... lol…. I would never tell my g/f straight out, because then I would know she was just doing it for my sake, but continuous reassurance and comments about how big it is are very welcome….. Even if they are lies or half-truths… lol

@sliceswiththings Lengthwise your guy is just going to have to be careful not to go too deep. Hitting the crevix is a real no no. Otherwise lots of foreplay. What’s the downside to that?

@Adirondackwannabe Do you know how much of a no-no that is? Like can it cause any real damage?

Some women yes, some women, no. We’re all different sizes, too.

Take it slow. Lots of making out to get really wet. Add some KY Jelly if needed. Tell him he’s so big it’s going to take time for you to stretch to fit him. Believe me, I don’t know of any guy that would be offended to hear that. And tell him that the stretching plan involved you being in control of penetration. Till you get used to his size, it might be good for you to take top, sit astride him, and ease down a bit at a time till it’s inside.

Like the bull dog told the bitch in heat, after you get past the big knot at the top, there’s a long smooth part you’re gonna just love.

@Facade I suppose if a guy hit the cervix hard it could cause damage. I do know it hurts like hell.

@tedd I can speak from the guys angle on the cervix issue…. I’ve been with a few girls where I would bump it if I wasn’t paying attention….. we’re not fans of it either, it hurts, lol…. So don’t worry, most guys will try to avoid doing that.

When I first saw my bf’s penis I freaked out. I wasn’t used to big ones, and to be honest I prefer smaller ones. My uterus is pretty low and caused me problems during my past pregnancies. My bf is average by anyone else’s standards: 7 inches, but to me that was huge. It took me a while and different positions before I became comfortable with him. In fact it was less painful anally than vaginally at first. Now my body has shifted to accommodate him and all is well.