Have you done anything to make sure people know what happened if you die?

I just kinda figure that KatawaGrey will tell anyone that needs to be told.

Yup. My mom is a bit of a worry wart. I have a webpage with a single button. If I don’t click it once a day it sends her a e-mail. This is pretty easy with some PHP, MySQL, and CRON.

She has all my banking info and website accounts and instructions.

I wrote this answer some minutes ago and i think i can write it here again: might be a good idea to develop an app for.
If your smartphone hasn’t moved for two full days, it’ll send an message to Facebook, Twitter, etc. that you have composed before.

Um, we care if you disappear. Fluther goes on, but there is a big hole left, an absense. Look how often we mention pdworkin, I miss him. I am so glad I am facebook friends with him, so at least he is not totally gone, but it is not the same.

I haven’t planned for an internet notifcation if I die. I hope my husband would let some people know, and then the word would get around I guess.

My brother knows all of my usernames and passwords, so he can go onto accounts if need be! But he doesn’t know about Fluther. I have one real-life friend on Fluther who never comes on anymore, but maybe she would come to announce it here. And I’m facebook friends with one Jelly who would see the news on facebook if my brother posted it. What a sad question!

Word would get around on Facebook through family and friends. On here, my girlfriend would contact one particular jelly and that jelly would probably post something on Fluther.

Milo’s in charge of all that.

No,I haven’t.
I will just show up at their homes as a friendly ghost that pulls their hair and laughs….whaaaa haaa haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! ;)

@lucillelucillelucille lol, l lurve you!

I would want something that could login to every site I tell it to to make the announcement. I would want it to be triggered only by positive confirmation by two people. I.e., it’s not a dead man switch triggered automatically by a failure to appear or something like that. Two live people would have to confirm that I have died.

The problem is that each site has a different login system, and some don’t seem to have email addresses. Even if there were an app that could log into fluther, would it be able to ask a question?

How would you word such a Q anyway? ”Hey, Did you know that @JilltheTooth is dead? Anybody want to help me wish her a happy A) Afterlife B) Oblivion C) Eternity Burning in a Fiery Hell (pick one)” That would be a lurve-fest for sure!

Nope and I have no plans to, either. The sun will come up without me.

No.

I think my 6 year old would notice and he’s smart enough to get online and write something. I also think that my husband might notice after the dishes pile up in the sink and his clothes don’t reappear washed in his closet. I’m sure he’d get on my laptop and have a look around to figure out why I did it.

Create a “Last Wishes” list. Include that certain sites be notified, and how it should be done, or at least to close the account. My SO and I know where we keep our own user IDs/passwords and know which sites should be addressed, for the most part. The lists would guide us.

@wundayatta Yes, it does matter to us. If you went MIA, it would be noticeable immediately. I for one, would be really pissed if you up and leave without letting us know why in some way, shape or form.

@gailcalled While I trust Milo’s typing skills, is he capable of turning the computer on? Does he know how to access your account should he move to another location?

@JilltheTooth How about requesting to have your profile updated with the status instead of having it announced in a question?

I once belonged to another website where one of our online friends went MIA. A few of us knew something was up. On the 3rd or 4th day, the only friend that knew his last name and where he lived did an internet search and found his obituary. The news worked its way through those in the online community that were friends with him. The place where we all hung out put up a virtual banner in his honor, and there was a live tribute online for him.

The friend who found out considered driving up to attend his funeral service, but decided it would be too hard to explain to anyone who asked who she was and what the relationship was. A couple of months later, I was planning a trip that passed by her town, and she invited me over. It was a healing experience to sit in her kitchen and discuss our friend and the loss we both felt.

My advice to everyone here is to not underestimate your role as a member of Fluther. While the sentiments may not be shared through words as often as they should or could be, I have no doubt that they exist. While it may be a Q&A site, it is also a caring community.

@Pied_Pfeffer : My response was directed to @wundayatta‘s last line.

My apology Jill.

But admit it, it would be a lurve-fest! ;-)

Yes, I have all my important usernames and passwords (along with the usernames of some people that are important to me on the social websites) in a safe place. Both my partner and mother know where this information is in case they need it.

I haven’t planned anything for my online accounts aside from Facebook. I’ll just “disappear” from most sites (including this one) when I die. I don’t care too much.

I’m more concerned with my donor status being honoured. I am officially registered and it’s on my license too and I’ve told pretty much everyone in my family. I’m young and my organs are healthy so I think it’s VERY important that they be harvested if I die.

It makes me think of a kid who used to be here all the time and now hasn’t been for several weeks. This kid occasionally talked suicidal thoughts. I wonder where this kid is and hope that they have found a happy life outside of fluther. It doesn’t seem the most usual place for a kid with the whole world in front of them to be. I think it sometimes attracts the ones who don’t fit in too well with real life.

But no I haven’t done anything. If I disappear you will know I am dead or bored, hehehehe, actually not too much difference between the two.

There is a great facebook application: If-I-Die
that allows you to do just this: record a message, and have it published on your wall only after you die.

That one time I got super sick and missed a week, one of my kids let Andrew know what was up. If I died, they’d handle notifying Fluther… maybe they’d do the same on FB, but I’m not sure they’d think of that.