Should I contact last year's lover?

I’d welcome it.

<—- guy.

Go for it! If you guys had a great time before then there is no reason no to pursue it again. Yes he had drama, but it doesn’t mean you should avoid making him happy. If you both want each other and you love him and his daughter, then that is all that matters.

Sure, try it out.

I think that he could be in a really different place a year later. Sure, get in touch casually, and see how it goes from there.

Yes, get in touch with him. The worst that could happen is he could say no. The best is that he says yes.

@marinelife‘s got it, I think. Contact him, but keep it casual and don’t create any expectations in your head about what happens next.

Thanks everyone! I guess it’s ironic how hard he had to chase me to get me interested and now I’m the one that’s wondering if I should chase him. I guess asking can’t hurt… just afraid of looking like an idiot if he’s seeing someone.

Even if he’s in another relationship, that he knows you still have been thinking about him may weigh on the seriousness (or not) of what he’s now doing. He’s had time to progress so give it a go and see if he bites.

@fastfox528 Don’t make it sound like you want to date him. Make it sound very casual as @marinelife has said. You shouldn’t look like an idiot for wanting to pick up on a friendship.

Definitely contact him and if everything is clear be as upfront and honest with him as you were here. Nothing ventured nothing gained and he will appreciate the honesty

Yes, go for it!!! You don’t know unless you try.

Just do it!
Good luck! :)

Let us know what happens.

You could contact him and just say something like, “Hey Rick, I really enjoyed the time we spent together last summer and I realize that you were in a difficult position with having recently been divorced and trying to make sense of everything and trying to do what was best for your daughter. Just wondering how things are going and if you are in a better situation now, where you might consider us dating again. I understand that you may already be preoccupied with a new relationship and I don’t want to get in the middle of that. Just wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you and how much I appreciated our time together. Let me know what you think.”

This way, it’s completely polite and gives him the option of getting together with you, while at the same time, giving him a way out, if he’s involved with someone else. But it also tells him exactly where you stand, without you appearing wishy-washy or coming out of nowhere.

Good luck. Hope it all works out.

Update! I pulled the trigger and text him today. He responded and told me he’s been thinking about me. I said he’s welcome back to my pool along w/ his daughter and he said he’d love to and would like to get together and catch up soon. Some mild flirting. I’m happy that my text was well received and I don’t feel like an idiot for contacting him lol. He said last summer feels like forever ago so maybe he’s doing a little better w/ more time after his divorce. Thanks for the encouragement everyone!

@fastfox528 So glad it worked out well, I hope the second time around is the charm for you both

@fastfox528 Let’s hope this is the start of something grand!