I think I'm being stalked?

WTH?
How did you meet this guy?

@lucillelucillelucille,
School…

I seriously doubt you are being stalked. He might have done a little research about you, but he can’t read your mind. So the stuff he told you that seems magical is because he is sensitive, empathic, and smart. If you those things, you can make an awful lot of good guesses about a person.

I’d say he’s quite interested in you, not stalking you. If you turn him down and he keeps pursuing you, then he’s moving into the realm of stalking.

Have you ever personally met with this person? How does he know your home address? Did you give it to him or did he find it on the internet? Lot of unaswered questions here.

I would say that he qualifies as a stalker. Have you ever warned him to stop? If not, you need to do so. Notify your parents. This is important. They may want to call the police and make a report.

This could be a serious situation for you. Do not let it slip by without telling your parents.

How do you know this guy? Were you talking to him online or in person? Does he have any mutual friends with you that could have given him any of this information?

You say you met him at school, but why were you talking to him? Did you think he was cute or nice? If he lives an hour away, where did this conversation take place? What did you say to him when he was saying all of this stuff?

Let us know a little more about what actually happened so we can advise you.

@AshLeigh -I would tell your parents about this person if I were you.

@john65pennington,
I have met him. He doesn’t know my home address. Haha. I’m not THAT dumb. Why would I give my address to someone I hardly know?
@Kardamom,
I know him from school, when I still went to school. Hah. We were talking online. We have mutual friend, but none of them would know that stuff. We were talking because he randomly sent me an IM. Yes, he’s cute and nice, but that’s beside the point. I mostly just said ”... How did you know that?” And he said ”Shrugs It’s a gift.”
@lucillelucillelucille,
I will, when she gets home.

He does sound a bit peculiar, and I suggest remaining wary about it. however, it may be possible that he may have seen you someplace alongside your relations which would explain how he’d know your siblings. And if he’s known you long enough (directly or indirectly, if he has friends that are friends with you, he probably could put together a general layout of how your train of thoughts work. Hell, peoples actions even give way too what is going through their head). it wouldn’t necessarily be too hard to figure out your train of thought. He could be genuinely interested for all you know or perhaps maybe having a little harmless fun. Nonetheless, I suggest remaining wary of him.

@King_Pariah,
Thanks. I will.

Aks him, quite seriously, to tell you how he knows those things or you will have nothing further to do with him.

If he gives you a reasonable explanation, accept it.

If not, he has probably been following you around. Tell your parents.

Tell him to knock it off or you will get a restraining order.

@marinelife,
I’ll ask him next time we talk.
Thank you.(:

He is either clairvoyant or clairsentient or both. Maybe knows how to use google too!

Okay, was taking a little walk when this popped into mind, though it’s totally based on an assumption.

I’m going to assume you’ve been in relationships. Would it be possible that he could have known one of them (possibly a more disgruntled one that wouldn’t mind getting “back” at you) and from them gotten this info you seem to keep very private? and like what @Cruiser said, google has a way of giving way more information than anyone tends to be comfortable with (yes from google he could easily track down info such as parents being divorced, and sibling along with their gender and age). And that would more or less fall under stalking, at the very least, prying too far.

You are not being stalked. Maybe he´s been eye-ing you for a little while now and you haven’t noticed. It could be that he is interested in you and so he did some research.
If I were you I would just wait a couple more weeks and see if anything else happens. If you feel uncomfortable about it then I suggest you tell someone about it – parents.

I highly doubt you are being stalked. Maybe he is interested in you like a crush or something and got some information from people talking around school. That is not stalking.

@Cruiser,
Google can’t tell you where I run to… Or what I think about. Or who my best friend it.
@King_Pariah,
My only serious ex moved away before this guy came here. They don’t know eachother.
@nailpolishfanatic,
That what I was thinking. But It’s just weird to me that he knows things you can’t find out by gooogling it, or evern from my friends.
@Mikewlf337,
Kids from school wouldn’t know all the things he does.
I know it’s probably not stalking. It creepy, nonetheless.

@AshLeigh maybe he has a talent… being psychic.

@nailpolishfanatic,
If you say so. :P

@AshLeigh I mean it. Maybe he is going to tell you sometime soon and you will be the first person he tells. Be ready ;)

@nailpolishfanatic,
Haha. I’ll be ready. XD

Do your write this stuff on Facebook or Twitter?

Try an experiment “Ran to a different tree today. Feeling I need a change.”
See who responds to it. .

@worriedguy,
Nope. I didn’t put it on Facebook.
Haha. I’ll be sure to do that. Making it my status now. ;)

Just doublechecking… other people see this guy, right?

@6rant6,
Hahahaha. Yes. Other people see him. :P

@AshLeigh I don’t understand how he would know all this if you don’t anyone about it. Maybe he knows a sibling. What bothers me is how he knows you run to a tree and sit under it. How would he know that? He knows too much info then and if he knows what you don’t tell to others then you should be concerned.

@Mikewlf337,
I don’t understand either.
The only sibling he could know is one of my brothers. All the others are in different states.
I have no idea how he would know that. It’s weird.
I am concerned. :/

@AshLeigh The good news is that you know what he looks like. If you see him following you everywhere then you will know you have a stalker. He knows too much and that is creepy.

@Mikewlf337,
It is, indeed, extrememly creepy.

I don’t think you’re being stalked. As @wundayatta some people are good at reading people and some people are very susceptible to being read. He might be playing you.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir,
Probably. He did say some really weird things like “You’re going to fall so hard for me. :)” I told him that was a curious thing so say…

One thing that I found out, is that if you look up someone’s name on the white pages (online) it will often give the names of the parents and kids and your home address. The way that this info gets on there, is if anyone (you, your parents, your siblings) fill out any kind of forms, especially like sweepstakes or the forms you fill out to get a card at the grocery store. Those companies, sell that info to other companies.

This fellow may have known that you like to run, either because he knew about it from you or someone in your PE class, or someone else that you know who may have just mentioned it casually. Then he might have followed you and saw where you ran. That part is a little creepy.

Anything that you post on Facebook or Twitter, can be potentially seen by anyone else. Even if you have privacy settings, if another person (like a friend or relative that does have access) saw anything on your page, they could inadvertently share it with someone else. You can find out all kinds of things about people pretty easily.

The question in your case, is why did he find out, and how did he find out and what’s his motivation. If you talk to him again, let him know that you feel a little bit uncomfortable, because he seems to be acting secretive. Let him give you a good and true answer, and if he doesn’t, tell him to please leave you alone and tell your parents immediately.

Here is the link to the white pages If you do a reverse address lookup, you can also get info. You might want to check on here to see if you or any of your family members are listed, and then get them removed if you don’t want it to be public.

There are other websites like this that will also be very likely to have your name, address, phone number and names of family members. One of them is called Spokeo If you go on this site, you can check to see if your info is there. If it is and you want it removed, go down to the bottom of the page and in little tiny letters you will see “privacy” listed on the menu. Then you click on that, if you scroll down a little bit you will see an option to have your info removed, then you have to fill in the boxes (one of which is the actual page on Spokeo where your info is) to get it removed. You should talk to your folks about this too, because I think they only allow you to remove 2 names per person (per e-mail address) so you might need your folks and your siblings to do the same thing.

Sounds more like hypnosis/cold reading/magic/google than stocking.

“He even knew things that go on inside my head, that I never talk about with anyone.”

Looking in your window doesn’t let someone see in your head. Maybe you blab more than you realize.

@Kardamom,
Thank you. I will check it out.
@everephebe,
Hah. Either way it’s freaking me out. XD
@johnpowell,
I’m not saying there’s not an easy explanation for some of it. But I do have secrets. Everyone hides something. I didn’t “Blab” a lot of the things he said.

Like @johnpowell said, sometimes you give all sorts of little (and big) clues about yourself when you are talking to someone, without even realizing that you are doing it. That is how psychics make their money, by picking up on subltle cues of what the client has said, or even what kind of clothes the person is wearing and mannerisms. You can make a lot of deductions based on those things. That’s also how police interrogators find out things about potential suspects. It’s learned observation.

But since this fellow, seems to be doing this to make you think he’s “magical” it does sound a little bit creepy. You should try talking to a couple of your closest friends and ask them how they think a person might deduce some of this stuff from you, and ask them if you think that this guy knows any of your friends (or friends of friends).

Here’s something a little far-fetched but possible. Do you write this stuff on your PC? There is Keylogger software that regularly sends an email of everything typed on your keyboard.
Lowlife stalker men/women use this occasionally to gather info before a divorce case.

Has anyone worked on your PC recently? If yes then his cover might already be blown.
Consider today the day you decide to make him crazy. 40% of everything you type should be true. Change passwords from another computer and access email elsewhere.

@worriedguy,
It’s a new laptop. I’ve had it for like a month. I never typed anything about running and sitting under a tree. :O The main thing that I think is weird…
@noelleptc,
I know! WTHeck? Creepy creeper creepin’. DX

These two are so going to get married one day. I just have a feeling ~

@noelleptc,
that would make sense. Except the tree is in the woods behind my house, and I’ve never seen another person back there, unless I took them.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir,
What? Haha.

Who would want to marry someone who studies someone so much before actually knowing them? It is not romantic, it is just creepy.It won’t lead to a marriage, maybe to a restraining order but not a marriage.

@noelleptc,
That’s kinda sweet thoug. :) I’ve had that happen before. It is slightly creepy. I hate anonymous!
@Mikewlf337,
EXACTLY! Hahahaha.

Whether this guy is a ‘stalker’ or participating in a cruel practical joke, it’s just plain creepy. The same goes for if he truly is interested in you and is attempting to capture your heart by putting on the mysterious act. So far, it only seems to have captured your attention, and not in a good way.

I agree with @lucillelucillelucille…talk to your parents about it. And since your brother may know him, I’d include him in the conversation. Personally, I’d want to confront him the next time I saw him face-to-face. And I wouldn’t respond to anymore of his IM’s.

By the way, if this conversation took place via IM, can you be really sure it was him on the other end?

@noelleptc,
Hahaha. Maybe ot was a friend.
Stalker advice? Hahaha. Wow. XD
@Pied_Pfeffer,
I plan to talk to my mother once she gets home from work. My brother never really comes around anymore, so he’s out of the question. XD
Even if it was someone else, it’s still creepy, and weird.

@noelleptc,
Good point. XD

@noelleptc,
I’m just going to ask him one more time, and if he doesn’t tell me I’ll block him.(:

Thanks. XD

@AshLeigh That is why I also said he could be either clairvoyant or clairsentient or both.

@AshLeigh I hope this works out well for you. Sometimes us men use very little judgement when it comes to women. I never went that far lol. Hears hoping that he is just a harmless creeper with lack of judgement and not a psycho.

@Cruiser,
This is true. Hah. Thanks.
@Mikewlf337,
Thank you very much. XD

Tell him that you’re neither flattered nor intrigued by the fact that he knows so much about you. Have you googled your name? Find out what your internet footprint looks like and change passwords, screen names, and set up another e-mail address.

It’s more likely some two degrees of separation thing, like his mother knows your aunt, or something like that. Find out who he’s dated in the past, and check out his creepy factor.

I tend to research people I’m interested in. Although not always. Sometimes I don’t bother, figuring that whatever they choose to tell me is good enough. I don’t need any of that researched stuff. Still, it depends on the context. Work relationships get more research than social ones.

I will research a social connection if their story doesn’t seem to hold together. Then I’ll see if I can find anything that goes against what they have told me. But if everything holds together, I don’t bother.

To be very honest I am also one of those people who are really good at reading others. I can tell you all about nearly every person in my class, even the ones i’ve only talked to a few times. And I PROMISE im not a stalker.

@15barcam Would you be able to tell that a classmate who runs goes to a certain tree and then sits under it, unless you witnessed it or heard about it? If so, would you mind explaining how? Or at minimum, something similar based upon your experience?

@BarnacleBill,
Did you really just suggest I stalk him back? Haha.
@15barcam,
Perhaps. But do you go around telling them all of the creepy things you know about them? And would you know EXACTLY why they like to do a certain thing? Could you have told me that I run to get my mind off of my family, and to get away from my mom? Or that I ALWAYS go to the same place? Or have known that it was under a tree on the trails behind my house? If so, I’d LOVE if you would elaborate. :P
@Pied_Pfeffer,
^^ Agreed.

How exactly are you going to know who you’re dealing with? Of course people check out others on the Internet. About 70% of companies run credit reports and check out FB profiles, pictures, etc. on prospective employess. There is no privacy on the Internet; it’s an illusion. Someone I know found out through a job application process that her ex-boyfriend posted naked pictures of her to a website posing as her. When you googled her name, the pictures were the first hit. She had to hire an attorney to get them off of there.

You really need to mindful of what’s out there about you. Do you have a Live Journal site, or a blog that you use as a diary that you think is private? It may be less so than you think.

Do you have a clue as to how many ways this person could locate your home address??

Have you confronted him about his actions and information he has on you? This is the only way you will get to the truth.

No more mind melds at the bus depot. My advice.

@BarnacleBill,
No, I don’t. I hate live journals.

Update:
I asked him last night how he knew all that stuff. He seemed sincere when he said “I read you… That’s all.” I said “Oh really?” And he said “Yes. Now go to bed. Night babe.”
I’m still not sure. (And it’s weird that he told me to go to bed. And called me “babe”)

You are under no obligation to take this guy’s calls, texts, or anything else.

@BarnacleBill,
I know that.

Don’t get mezmerized by thinking that you’re Nancy Drew and can solve some sort of mystery about this guy. If he creeps you out, he creeps you out.

@BarnacleBill,
Goodness. I never said that either. I just wanted him to tell me the truth.

Ashleigh, Stalking laws are written to your advantage, but you need to let him know his attention to you needs to stop. If he doesn’t back off after only a couple warnings from you, he is stalking and can be reported to the police. But, make sure and make it clear to him whats going on. Sometimes a guy is just stupid and oblivious and would back off if he knew how serious you were about wanting him to back off. Would suck if he got pinned with stalking if he was just being stupid.

@Season_of_Fall,
Yeah. I know. I’ll tell him he’s creeping me out, and needs to knock it off. XD

If you keep talking to him, you’re sending him mixed messages that you’re interested in him. Curiosity killed the cat.

Ashleigh, I think your need to be stronger than that. How about “Dude your now acting like a stalker, Stop it”.

I’m the wife of Season of Fall….I was stalked by a man in his late 30’s when I was only 18 years old. I didn’t realize he was stalking me for about 5 months. (I had sewn a button on his shirt for him at play practice and that was all it took.) The hard part is that someone has to catch him stalking you. You can go ahead and notify the police (just tell them exactly what you said here) and they will start doing drive bys on your school and home but until someone else can verify what it happening, it is difficult to do anything. My stalker wasn’t real smooth, he made it easy by leaving a letter addressed to my parents demanding that I marry him and he was put in a mental institution for a few weeks. Use your cell phone and record anytime he just “shows up” or is around for no reason. Start recording your phone calls and keep any hang ups listed by time and date. Just let him know that you are on your way to “somewhere” anytime he appears and head to someplace busy. Again, remember folks, I’m the wife…and I can’t spell to save my life MB

@Season_of_Fall,
That works too. Haha.

Season_or_Fall’s wife,
That’s scary. How did you get rid of him?
And your spelling isn’t too bad. Haha.

@AshLeigh the fact that he called you “Babe” has me worried that he thinks you two are a couple.

Tell your parents right away. And start TODAY by documenting everything: where you met him, what he said, how he IM’d you and what he said, and that he called you on the phone and what he said (try to get the dates too).

If he calls you again, put your Dad on the phone. If he IM’s you again, have your Dad write back to him and tell him to leave you alone or else he will contact the police.

Your folks might want to file a report with the police right now just to give them a heads up. Your parents should also contact your school (where this kid goes) and let them know what has been going on with their student. Your parents should find out if the school will contact this kid’s parents and tell them to make him stop contacting you (or whether you parents need to contact the kid’s parents).

If this kid is on your Facebook or e-mail address list or phone, take him off now and block him. But know that he could potentially contact you again, through somebody else’s network.

Be very cautious when you leave your house, try not to go out alone (especially do not go running by yourself). For now, only run in very public places, don’t run in rural or wooded areas, and always run with a friend. Let your folks know exactly where you are going and when you expect to be home and keep your phone turned on at all times. Pay attention to your surroundings and check to see if he or anyone else looks suspicious. If you see him, try to make a beeline into some public place and stay there, then call your parents or call the police if you have to.

You should let some of your close friends know what is going on and ask them to please tell you if they see this guy around. Tell your friends not to engage him in any conversations, and if they too have him on any of their networks, they should remove and block him as well. Let your brothers know the situation too.

You should read This Article This case was huge out in California last year. A young man killed two young ladies. One of the girls was a runner. She regularly ran in a rural area by a lake near her home, by herself. John Gardner killed her on a trail last year. Unbeknownst to anyone, this same guy had killed another young girl, who had been on the “missing list” for almost two years. The girls were named Chelsea King and Amber Dubois. Chelsea’s Law was put into place so that registered sex offenders would only get one strike instead of two. You can see a photo of Chelsea King on this link.

I’m not telling you this to scare you, but to make you re-evaluate the way you go about your business. You can never be too cautious.

@Kardamom,
Assuming I have a father.
Considering I’m homeschooled now, and he just graduated, there’s not really a school to contact.
Trust me. Haha. I don’t leave the house without my phone. :P
Assuming my brother comes around, anymore.
I will be careful. Thanks.