@laureth What you’re saying is absolutely right, it is mainly a matter of cultural mindset, which is exactly what I was trying to point out. as for your questions:
Can you tell us about how alcohol is introduced to young people in Italy or elsewhere?
I can only tell you about Italy and France and pertaining to my personal experience, but here it is: I don’t live in a very alcohol drinking family but whenever we are at a restaurant my father asks for a quarter litre of wine (red or white depending on the food he ordered) and I’ve been having some of that since I turned 14. One of my oldest friends is the son of a Norwegian sommelier and he too has been introduced to fine wines (only the best in his household) since he was even younger than 14. Neither of us have a drinking problem, firstly because we actually can take quite a lot of alcohol since we’re used to it and secondly because to us it’s just another drink. A good, very expensive drink that occasionally makes you act like a moron if you drink too much of it. As I already mentioned, I had to drink a half a litre of badly mixed screwdriver to actually get drunk, and even then I didn’t vomit, I went to a kebab shop, bought me a kebab to soak up the alcohol in my stomach, sat down on a bench and started telling all my friends that I was drunk and laughing like an imbecile. That’s it.
Is the drinking-age birthday a bottoms-up throwdown of drunkenness?
Nobody actually cards you here if you ask for alcohol, so if you’re actually that desperate to try it you can do it whenever you want, there are cases of very young people (read younger than 14) who start drinking a lot, but they’re rare cases where the parents live with their heads up their asses and allow a 13 year old to stay out alone at night.
Do parents generally teach responsible consumption even before the kid is allowed to do it legally himself?
Mostly, at least in my experience
Does alcohol have the allure of the “forbidden fruit” that you have to sneak around to get, or by the time they’re old enough is it like, “Meh, no big deal?”
The latter. Basically if you live in a normal household you probably will have at least tasted wine and beer before you’re 14, and in some cases even grappa, like in my case (I was veeeeeeery annoying when someone didn’t let me try something, I basically went through catechism only to try the communion wafer).
Since here it’s treated as something adults drink regularly in small quantities, we also see it like that. Restaurants often offer you a glass of Limoncello or red Mirto after you had your meal, some even on the house, and wine during the meal is generally the norm when you’re with family or colleagues or otherwise not in a small group where not everyone might drink it, and even then it’s just not to waste it.
@woodcutter It’s the drunk kid driving that kills. Drunk kids themselves are no more a problem than drunk midgets, drunk adults and drunk geese. And that’s why there are laws against drinking and driving.
The fact that your kids are more likely to break that particular laws is not necessarily dependent on the fact that they are kids. Here, you can drink at 14, you can’t drive until you’re 18. You’ve got plenty of time to get drunk off your ass before you can damage anyone by ramming into them with a car. And this is basically due to the fact that our cities and even our small towns have a good state financed public transport system that makes cars unnecessary or, rather, replaceable, for the most part.