@JLeslie…I just know from experience. I got divorced years ago and was essentially a “non-entity”, I had no credit record which was just as bad as “bad credit.” (This is what I mean.) Then, I had a child to raise on my own and found myself having to scramble here and there to stand on my own two feet. My husband had a great attorney, I had no one. I will spare you the gory details, but it did not end well. My settlement? 2000 dollars for ten years of marriage, our family car (he went out and bought a brand new one for himself) and nothing else…no house, no assets, nothing. He was making a six figure salary. Things were “touch and go” but I was working really, really hard at an underpaid job and attempting to come to grips with my life, taking care of my child and sometimes, bills were late (not unpaid) but late. This is what I am talking about…it took years to get things smoothed out.
I don’t know that with today’s standards, I would even be employed in the US if I were faced with the same situation. Back then, as a young mom, they didn’t do credit checks for jobs. And I know there are lots of women in the same boat. I hear stories of men who are “taken to the cleaners” but no one ever hears about the women who are left without representation because they cannot afford it or can’t afford the high-priced lawyers that their spouses will employ. Most women are not “Real Housewives of Beverly Hills” who are faced with wrangling about weekly spa trips at the divorce court tables. They are just trying to make ends meet and get enough to make sure they can have a decent transition into a new life.
I think that this whole “credit check” thing in the US for a job should be contested and/or a class action lawsuit brought to bear against these companies. If you think about it, why are there no jobs in America? The greed of the very corporations who decide whether or not you are “credit worthy” to work.
So many Americans are hard-working and want to find a way to get out of whatever trouble they are in and sometimes juggling which bill to pay (when you have lost your job) is part of what has to be done. There is no option.
All I can say is this….when you look at your child’s face who is anticipating a meal every day and you are not on any benefits/welfare or any handouts and you look in your cupboard and it is fairly bare, yet you are working a full-time job and attempting to stave off the wolf at the door…it is a humbling but soul-wrenching experience. That’s why I don’t judge anyone on their credit backgrounds and/or their money challenges.
My story (eventually) turned out fine, my child is successful…but those were lean and difficult days that I would never want repeated. And that’s because the economy in those days (8o’s) were bad but not even close to what is going on in America today.
My prayers go out to everyone who is struggling. I’ve been there.
PS And if you are on welfare or food stamps..didn’t mean to dis that. I just didn’t even have the benefit of that help because I fell into that “gray area”...making too much money for aid, not enough to make ends meet. The cost of my little apartment/utilities took almost ¾’s of my paycheck. And it was not in a “nice neighborhood” or anything like that.
Wishing better days and renewed hope for everyone..and a world where no child or mother goes hungry or lives in fear.