Has anyone actually been hurt by someone on FB?

There was a minor incident involving students at my daughter’s school, one kid was mad at another and his rant got shared and passed around. The other kids was pretty upset, but it all got settled in about a day.

I’ve seen and read about things like that – students starting a “I hate so and so” page etcetera. FB bullying.

I am asking about us jellies – adults – we were discussing privacy and the use of a real name and photo here. Has anyone here used their real photo as their avatar and written their real name (usually only first name) only to then be hurt by it – here or on FB?

That’s why I haven’t linked to FB from Fluther. I keep my FB profile very private. Linking another site to FB opens up my FB profile too much.

The worst that has happened is getting a bunch of stupid junk in my newsfeed. Some people still see me but I don’t see any of their posts. I’ve blocked all farmville posts and many all of the other games.

There are a few people on Fluther who are also on FB, but FB to me is my online “real life”. A bunch of people from work are on it, and so I am really careful. Ironically, I can be myself more on Fluther.

In answer to the question, though, my FB has been pretty innocuous.

About the strangest thing that has happened to me is having people I banned here (for some really horrible stuff) later try to friend me on FB. Two of them I was pretty friendly with prior to the banning, so it might be innocuous. However, any warm feelings I once had for them was completely destroyed by the way they treated me during/after the banning procedure, so that’s out. Another one was a total stranger to me, and was busy cussing me out in Fluther emails about being banned, while ‘friend requesting’ me on FB at the same time. Not happening.

I don’t belong to FB.
And I’ve never seen “Titanic”.
I rarely use my cell phone.
I still buy books. No Kindle.

I don’t like Facebook and don’t use it much. I keep it separate from Fluther. I have never experienced anything unpleasant there apart from junk requests. I still buy books and I do own a Kindle.

I added someone as a friend that I’d been playing Scrabble with online for quite some time, and he posted a bunch of nude photos of women to my wall and made some racist comments. I called him on it, and dropped him. He got really irate that I “didn’t have a sense of humor.” I dropped him immediately.

For a long time, my daughter had problems with cat fights erupting on FB with her friends. She finally learned not to put everything out there, and to block people from her wall.

I have some of my daughter’s friends whose comments I keep off my wall because of language issues. I don’t want people from work reading expletives on my wall. Nice kids, but rough language. Some of the people I work with post thinks that I consider too risque – I really don’t want to read that a collegue wants a lap dance from his wife for his birthday. I’d rather read that here on fluther.

This involved MySpace, not FaceBook, but it is the same basic thing.

You know @zen, there are people on the internet who are not who they claim to be on many different websites. They like to mess with peoples minds for whatever reason they have.

I know of one particular jelly who deleted her Fluther account because she was hurt by someone here who used the personal information she gave him against her. You’d be a fool to say nothing like this ever happens. People are cruel, and women especially should be careful about how much information they share about themselves and their personal life on the internet.

I was on jury service and the crime was harrassment through Facebook.

Sure, but it would have been the same off FB – in that friends have hurt me and it was from an FB conversation but the same could have happened of FB.

@augustlan If you ban me here, does that mean you’ll “unfriend” me on FB? :P

Nope, but I barely spend any time to begin with. But I’m totally heartless anyways, nobody can hurt me. XD

Yes, but I’m not sharing the details in a public forum.

I do have a friend who is gay but wasn’t ready to come out to his family. When FB screwed up the friends list privacy, posts from his SO suddenly became visible on his family members wall. That was tremendously sad. Bad form, facebook.

<—- Jon Wilcox bitches. Do your worst.

and of course don’t forget to follow me on facebook

@Blondesjon; You’re one of the ones whose posts I don’t want my real life friends to see :-)

@Judi . . . You are one of the few people that I would tone it down for.

the fact that you would never ask me to is why i would.

@Blondesjon ; If they can’t handle that I have a wide variety of friends then that’s their bad. I still might blush a little though.

if you haven’t been on tonight i’m mostly being cute and punny

Facebook, IMHO, is like a gazillion other things in the world, like a gazillion other things in the history of the world: it is neither inherently good nor inherently evil. Anyone who doesn’t like it or find any value in it has no obligation to use it and like many things, many things online, many things in the world it can provide ways for people to bring trouble upon themselves should they choose to use it in an unwise way. It can also provide all sorts of good things and good interactions. It is a tool that can be used to bring you something you deem beneficial or can be a tool, used without good judgement that can bring trouble.

@WillWorkForChocolate If you don’t cuss me out too harshly or harass me over it, you’d still be my friend. :)

Okay then, I’ll try to keep it to an absolute minimum should the situation arise, LOL.