How can I deal with my parents' constant nagging?

How old are you?

Have you considered trying to sit them down and talk to them like an adult. Say something like “listen guys I know you want this stuff to get done and I understand that but I dont get why it needs to be done right this very minute. Maybe give me a little bit to get started on it, I promise you, it will get done. Give me a week with this new method and see how things work out and if you see me slacking or not doing things we go back to the old way.”

and then just make sure you do your shit that next week :P

Keep your room clean so they don’t have anything to nag about. Or just zone them out and continue doing what you’re doing.

And for the record, I actually nag at my fiance to do things all the time. I admit it, but only because after living with him for four years I’ve come to realize that if I don’t constantly remind him to do something, it’ll probably not get done for weeks until I get very angry and do it myself. So, maybe (and only maybe because this may not be the case) your parents feel the same way about you if in the past you’ve given them reasons be feel this way.

* I meant to say “to” feel this way

Talk to them at a calm time when no one is nagging or fighting. Come up with a solution everyone feels is reasonable. Maybe a list of chores that must be done by a certain day and time, and you get to decide when it is done, as long as it is done on time. If it isn’t done there is a consequence. Tell them you feel no power over your time, and that you feel like you are constantly criticized, which makes you less motivated. That you feel they have no confidence in you. Or, some self esteem thing.

Also, if things just stay as they are, if talking to them and coming up with a different solution fails, when you are cleaning your room, and they tell you to do your laundry, and then they get angry you are not cleaning your room, say back to them, “I understand you want me to do my laundry and clean my room, which is more important to you, which do you want to do first?” Keep putting back on them that you understand everything that needs to be done. Honestly, it will probably make you feel like shit to just let them decide which thing is more important and to comply, but if you can for a time, constantly make them aware they are bossing you from one thing to the next and you cannot win, and if you can ignore feeling like a truck ran over you, maybe they will get the hint that they are overcontrolling,

But, try to talk to them first, once you make them more aware of what they are doing, they might feel badly they were doing it, and want to change.

Maybe they have their problems.
Sometimes it’s good to help them to deal with their issues.

TRY TO UNDERSTAND THEM. ... and this because you seem to be interested only with your problems and not the big picture. Be smart.

When you’re asked to do something, make eye contact, agree that you will do it, and then ask, “I was planning on doing homework/watching television/time on computer for the next 30 minutes. Is it okay if I start it then?”

Also, ask when whatever your being asked to do needs to finished by, and then honor that commitment. Sometimes it’s helpful, especially in the summer, to ask for a list, so you can cross things off. It’s also valid to ask if there is a reason why something needs to be done by a certain time. Like, do you need to pick up your room right this minute, or does it need to be done before you go to bed because the house cleaner is coming tomorrow?

This also works the other way around. If you need your parents to do something for you, give them advance notice and time constraints.

With regards to your own things, it takes just as much energy to drop something in the wrong place as it does to put it in the right place.

“With regards to your own things, it takes just as much energy to drop something in the wrong place as it does to put it in the right place.” Im going to have to majorly disagree with that. It is far far easier to just put something down next to where im sitting than get my lazy ass up and walk to the other side of the room where it belongs :P

But when you get up, there’s nothing to stop you from taking it with you, and putting it in the right place as you pass it. That counts, too.

@uberbatman If you have to pick that item up at a later point in order to put it away, then it’s more effort. Getting into the habit of doing it right the first time takes less effort. It also prevents the seemingly overwhelming task of having to do so for multiple items all at once.

@uberbatman I find my biggest problem, which maybe might help you, is I don’t take the time to have a place for everything, I am very bad about that initial step. There is a saying, a pace for everything and everything in its place, and when you know where everything goes it is easier to just put whatever in its place. I kind of dump a lot of stuff into my home offce, and the mess and clutter piles up in there. If I had a file or cubbie, or shelf already available for whatever I am adding to the office, I would put it away right away and save much more time in the end.