No communication after a date? Is this always a bad thing?

Yes.

Unless he’s in the hospital or someone very close to him died.

If you are into someone, you call/text them immediately if not sooner.

I agree with Zen. I called my GF the same night after our first date, and talked to her for several hours.

Oh well… unlucky for me I spose.

Anyone that has been interested in me after the first date has called when they got home or the next day.

Maybe if all will use “wait for the other party to call FIRST” we’ll be happier [ NOT ]

SO take the step and initiate the communication [ in any way it suits you ]

If he’s smart he’s probably “playing it cool” and just casually not contacting for a day or two. I know it sounds stupid but I’ve personally seen it work to get girls more interested.

For example, you’re asking about it here on fluther aren’t you?

If he hasn’t contacted by day 3 you may have an issue. Otherwise, I wouldn’t make a big deal out of anything at such an early stage of a possible relationship.

If he doesn’t call by day three, @tedd – I don’t think she should take his call. That, imho, is downright rude making a girl wait for three days in the age of IM’s and SMS. Unless he was in a car accident and subsequent coma.

I don’t think he’s that into you.

@zen Hey I agree its dumb as hell… But its the game we play, especially at a younger age.

@marinelife LOL There should be an auto-response for date questions: after three days, fluther will simply remind the asker that.

The first date I had with my wife could not last long enough.

I called her as soon as I was home and she called me back, a short time later/

As you can see, your timeline means everything, in calculating your question.

You should make another attempt at communicating with him. You never know what might have happended to his cellphone.

He may have dropped it in the toilet.

I think yes. Every fantastic date I’ve ever been on, the person called me or texted to say they had a great time, let’s do it again soon, are you still up, can I call you, blah-blah.

I’d put your friend on the backburner for now and keep your eyes open for someone more interested. If this guys asks you again, great and if not then you still have your platonic friendship.

Boy, I’ve asked myself this question so many times…
...until I met my current husband. He found a way to contact me without ever having received my contact info, and we’ve talked every day since.

If he’s into you, he’d contact you.

I just looked at my second phone when I got home and had a missed call! Looks like I was worried about nothing!

No, people have things to do. My wife and I didn’t talk for days at a time when we first met/started hanging out. . . and now she’s my wife!

Well, from the look of the answers here, SOME people have things to do, LOL

@earthboundmisfit You must update us. Good luck.

I still haven’t spoken with him…. but I doubt the missed call was by accident. (In that case then I really am unlucky! lol) I’m just going to play it cool and see what happens. Can’t see a better approach to these things.

It looks like this one is sticking to those infamous ‘waiting to call’ rules. Ugh.

Thing is, I didn’t notice the call until very late so I sent a text acknowledging it… now this morning I have not gotten a response. This is becoming too much work!.

Now accepting bets: @earthboundmisfit will hit 100 lurve before she gets the call. 2–1

@zen I’m tempted to get in on that bet as well….