Do you secretly have a favorite ______? (child, sibling, parent, aunt.. etc)

Same for all .. if I’d start making favourites then I’d start making mistakes .. I hope I’ll never do them.

I secretly enjoy my step-grandmother more than my grandma.

I don’t think I love her more, she hasn’t been in my life as long (well, she’s been with my grandfather for 30 years but I’ve only gotten to know her in the last 10 years or so), but I absolutely enjoy her company more than I enjoy my grandmother’s company: we have more in common, we view the world similarly, etc.

I would never tell my family this, but I email with my step-grandmother (or whatever her relationship is to me) way more often than with my own grandma.

I have one Grandmother that I feel closer to than the other and I have always been a daddy’s girl. It used to cause arguements between my mum and I that I “favoured” my dad but I think it’s natural to feel closer to some relatives than others. We guilt trip ourselves into loving them all the “same” but I think, in reality, this is fairly impossible.

I am the only child so there aren’t any siblings to favour. I do favour my mother though ;)

I feel equally towards my daughters, but in different ways. When younger, by older daughter required a lot of mental energy to stay ahead of her, whereas my younger daughter required a lot of emotional energy to manage. The oldest is electric, and when she is in the house, you can feel it before you see or hear her. The youngest doesn’t displace energy. I didn’t particularily enjoy the teen years for either one, because they constantly pushed, but now that they’ve passed that, I have to say that I enjoy their company equally but for different reasons. The oldest is still precocious but has shortcomings that her younger sister doesn’t have, so it’s impossible, and not fair to either, to compare them.

I have a favorite Grandma. She and I have always been very close. My other Grandma was kind of mean and really odd. I loved her but she just wasn’t my Mimi which is what we call my favorite grandma. As far as my kids, I don’t have a favorite, I love them both equally, I couldn’t pick a favorite. My daughter and I are close, especially since she’s 11 and starting to “change” puberty as she puts it. As far as my parents, I’m closer to my mom, I adore my dad, but we’ve never been super close, he and my sister are real tight though.

I feel awful for feeling this way, but…
I have a very challenging child. i love all 3 of them more than anything, and would give my life for any of them without blinking. But sometimes I don’t like my challenging one.

I love all of my siblings equally though growing up I was closer to my brother we did everything together, he included me in all he did with his friends thought I was the little sister and when one of his friends had a problem he would tell them “you don’t have to go, but she is going” My mother would always say to him you don’t have to take me and he would reply to her we have plans… it was always a given that he would include me in what ever he did. When I was born he gave me one of his teddy bears and it was my best friend all my life and I still have it to this day though I am now in my 40’s. We are all grown now and have separate lives but those memories I cherish.

I have a favorite sibling, but it isn’t a secret. Everyone knows my sister and I are closest of anyone in the family. As for my children I wondered about that after I had my second and third but I don’t have a favorite. It turns out that my favorite changes and at any given moment any one of the three will be tops in my book. That makes me really happy, I am even more pleased that it happened organically. My dad blatantly favored my oldest brother and youngest sister and it made me nuts.

Having favorites is one thing. Of course we all have family members we connect with better.
PLAYING favorites is something different. That is just wrong.

Growing up, my brother was definitely my parents’ favorite. He was a really pleasing kid, while I was more indepedent and told things like they were. Even though my brother got arrested for shoplifting and flirted with drugs – he was still my parents’ pride and joy.

My father died a few years ago and the favoritism was still evident. I flew 2,500 miles to be with my father and sat with him day after day for three weeks until he died. My brother would pop in after work (not every day), stay for an hour, and then leave (he lives about 15 minutes from the hospital). My father would comment on how great it was that my brother came to see him and would chastise me if I took too long for lunch. Even though I am in my forties, it still hurt, and unfortunately, it still impacts my opinion of my father.

My mother, on the other hand, has grown to appreciate me for who I am and the things I do for her.

I’m a step parent and yes, I have my favorite. My parents had a favorite and it was no secret. Any partner of mine who’s had siblings has always said his parents had a favorite (always him). I know among my aunts and uncles, they all have favorites so I think it’s natural.

The cool thing is the odds are pretty high you will be someone’s favorite.

Favorite…
Male sibling: Justin.
Female sibling: Erikah. (I have enough siblings to be allowed to pick a favorite from each gender)
Uncle: Uncle Scott.(:
Parent: Not too fond of either of them.
Aunt: Loria.