About a month ago, we made friends with a family we met who were visiting their father/grandfather here in Florida. The mother and her now 12-year old daughter were in a house fire when the little girl was 14 months old. 14 MONTHS OLD. I can’t imagine. Both mother and daughter were burnt so badly their bodies are deformed and some of their appendages are missing.
We met the little girl when she boldly walked up to a place beside the pool where we were playing shuffleboard. She had never played and joyfully joined us when we asked if she would like to learn. My husband’s 14 year old twin niece and nephew were visiting us and we all became fast friends.
I was humbled by the reaction the young teens had with each other and how appearances made narry a difference to the kids. I was humbled at the faith, strength, wit and joyfulness of the mother and daughter in life.
The mother told me stories of how the little girl, even to this day, is stared at and ridiculed in school. She said when her daughter was ready to start her first year of school, friends and family begged her to home school or send the child to a private school. She said, “You know B.K., I said to them and to (my child) when she’d get off the bus every afternoon crying about things people said and did to her, ‘There are good people and bad people in this world. You are going to meet them everywhere you go. I can’t protect you from that. What you can do is ignore and move away from the bad people when you meet them and just look for the good people.’ ”
She and her daughter are now written in my book of Life Lessons. My husband said he could imagine how they would have looked without the scars, skin grafts and missing parts and he said they would both have been beautiful. I can’t explain this and I know it will sound strange, but from the minute I saw the little girl, I thought, wow she is really gorgeous. She has long honey colored hair and her eyes are as blue as anything I’ve seen.
When she got to know me, she’d put her stubbled scarred hands on my knees, bend into my face and start by saying, “B.K., do you love me?” She looked into your eyes and everyone of us said privately she could see into your soul. I’d laugh to myself because I knew she wanted to stay at my house while the niece and nephew were visiting or go to the pool with us or the movies or just ask me to let the niece use my phone so the two girls could text.
You know what? I really do love her and think she is one of the most physically beautiful people I’ve ever met in my life. It humbles me to think about her and the Life Lessons she taught me.