What is the real beauty of being married or living with someone?

Yep, you definitely accept reality. At least we do.

I think the “real beauty” is being a family. Growing up my family was always my parents, my siblings, my grandparents. Of course those people are still my family, but it is particularly special to have a family of your own. That is beautiful to me. When a person is not just your friend, not just your lover, not just your spouse.. they are your family.

Usually, we skip off to brush our jibs. Sometimes, we’ll go right at it and kiss with stank breath. With both of us having stank breath, we cancel each other out, haha! I love her bedhead and sleepy eyes in the morning. She has naturally curly hair and in the morning it looks awesome, haha! :) I love her natural scent. Even the smell of her armpits (first thing in the morning). She likes mine, as well. I love it when she gets up and is puts on some boxers. We get up, have our coffee and snuggle on the sofa all dirty, (naturally) smelly, sleepy and warm, and we cuddle. Feels like heaven.

Yeah, love me “warts & all.” Scrapes away all the bullshit & gets right down to the bare bones of a person. Although I have to say the sight of the wife first thing in a morning, no make-up, hair all over the place, is enough to strip paint off a wall from 100 yards away!!
She knows i’m only joking, don’t you darli…..owwwww!! :¬(

I’m sorry, but it never once occurred to me that I should be concerned with such things. The beauty of a relationship goes way beyond that kind of thing. It’s about being known and knowing, accepting and being accepted, loved and loving. That other stuff is too trivial to even think about.

I overlook those things for the many pluses of steady companionship. The shared laughter, the knowing glances. The warm feeling of love when your partner does something nice.

I was just away for two days, and he told me he didn’t sleep well without me. So sweet.

Even though I had a shitty marriage, I did like the idea of having someone there to be around. It seems very beneficial to have a companion when you are both on the same page and working towards the same goal. It’s not very different than having a team at work to accomplish a task you’re all passionate about.

Oh, sorry, didn’t read the details. After awhile, you just forget it.

Just great answers from eveyone. I see the real beauty of love is much more than just being cosmetic. Some of you guys have really found true love and that is just great. Whatever you are doing, just keep it up. john

Falling asleep and waking up to your best friend, the person you love, by your side. Having support and a shoulder to cry on when you need it. Having someone to laugh with and share memories with.

I like what @ANef_is_Enuf wrote about having your own family. There is no stronger bond.

@marinelife : Did you admit to him that you slept really well??? ;-)

“The real beauty of love only comes through when love lingers though there is no more beauty to behold.”

@JilltheTooth I did, grinning all the while.

My wife is always beautiful to me because I see her through the filter of our love.

I couldn’t be with anyone that didn’t accept theirs or my looks at any time of the day or night! Getting dolled up is one thing, but getting hot, sweaty and nasty is where the real fun is!! In the garden that is! ;)

Capt. Harley and Cruiser….....love the filter of our love. This is where its at. The nitty gritty of real love. And, garden time lets it all hang out…..sweat and all.

The other day, my wife tried a new piece of chewing gum. She said she did not like the taste and said to me, “open up, lets get your opinion”. It was not a new piece of gum, it was the piece she had chewed on for 3 minutes. The real beauty of love comes in many forms.

We never thought of these as downfalls. The beauty for us is being with each other more than if we were apart. We really hate, physically hate, being apart. Our bodies and souls are homes for each other. And we don’t like being away from home.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir

My wife and I feel much the same. It’s a wonderful feeling when “home” is always where she is. : ))

LMAO! @john65pennington : ))

If I did not truly love my wife (and she love me) we would not have made it through the first year of marriage, let alone the next 23!

Marriage is a commitment. If you really love someone you would do whatever you had to do to make it work. Your partner should be a part of you. The most intimate secret to companship is comfortability at it’s finest.
My husband taught me everything about love even tho it was in a shorter time than most. I miss him dearly. (RIP). It’s like losing legs.

Well, that feeling of letting your hair down is definitely part of it, but to me, the real beauty of a relationship is being able to read each other’s moods. How your partner can look at you and know how you feel just by watching your body language, and then offer comfort with a look or a touch of the hand.

But I’m rambling and not answering your original question. It is nice to wake up beside someone and know that both of you can accept those little morning flaws you mention. I would kiss in the morning, but it would be closed mouth kisses only until we brushed our teeth (there are reasonable limits, after all).