Are men the only ones who find it hard to be faithful?

So you make friends happy by having sex with them? Just trying to understand what you’re saying.

No not really……... when I am in a relationship I draw a line of things I just don’t do with other people than the person I am with no matter what.

If I went past my line I would feel as though I were cheating and it wouldn’t be acceptable to me.

Of course not.

Mostly not having sex. Just being there for them. Like a boyfriend would. Its more like i’m being their boyfriend for them. The way a good gentleman would.. no perverted acts..

Mostly not having sex. So are you having sex or not? Like a boyfriend would?
Does your girlfriend know you are unfaithful?

Being faithful isn’t not having arousal, curiosity or attraction to others than your chosen partner, being faithful, having fidelity between you is a choice and it’s more difficult for some than others.

What you’re proposing is entering into an emotional relationship with your “friend”, everything but the sex would be one thing but you’ve just written mostly not having sex which is a slippery way of saying yeah, you’re going to choose to cheat on your gf and have sex with your “friend”. You’re already cheating in your mind, trying to justify why having a little sex is ok.

@yungbeefy what do you mean by making them “happy”. Being faithful should not be difficult at all.

Oh and by make them happy I mean like be a friend to them.the kind that’s there for them when they are feeling down. The pickle is that I find myself kissing them when I didn’t want that to happen at all.

Yes, what a pickle you are in.~

This will be a learning experience for you. Just because you care and can give someone something they want doesn’t mean it’s your place at that time to do it. If you want to be that guy then break up with your girl and turn your attention to your needy friends.

Sounds like you’re not ready to have a steady girlfriend. There is nothing wrong with that.

But I love my girl.. its really complicated.. I know i’m not the same without her. She makes me so happy and I can’t see myself with anyone else.. its just that same mistake that happens over and over.. I hate that but I just wanted to know if I was the only one that went through this..

I’m the kind of guy that doesn’t use the word love lightly so when I say it I mean it.. i’m not the one that tells every girl he talks to that he loves her..

@yungbeefy you need to keep your kisses off the friend and the pickle in your pants.

If you “love” your girl, then you would not be kissing a friend just to make them happy. You are making You happy.

I smell a troll.

I seriously doubt your gf will give much weight to your words after she learns this is something you’ve done/are doing repeatedly. I’ve had many many male friends in my life but not one of them who’d ever gone so far as to be steady with his girl and tell her he loved her did what you’re up to.

I think you don’t yet value the trust and honor a loving partner brings. Chances are though, she’s going to find out, most cheaters are found out and you will have to explain to her why you took the chance of losing her because that’s exactly what you did the minute you kissed those girls or whatever. She’s going to hate you and wonder what about her deserved for you to mess around with “friends” who should be out with their own bf’s.

The girls you mess around with aren’t friends, they’re users too. The have also gambled the friendship might explode once the gf finds out and they’re ok with that since they went ahead and took up with you. With friends like that, you don’t need enemies.

@yungbeefy I have read them all. You stated “I’m not trying to justify it.. i’ve had sex before and it made me mad to kno I did that. So to this day I havnt done it again”

Repeatedly? Really? To make them happy? You are kidding yourself so you can get some on the side.

Really disgusting. If you really love your gf, you will man up and tell her about the serial cheating. That’s what you’re doing: cheating. She deserves the chance to decide whether she wants a guy life you in her life.

Apparently there are a lot of studies about infidelity. According to this article, the results of those studies are all over the place:

MEN THAT INDULGE IN EXTRAMARITAL SEXUAL OR EMOTIONAL ACTIVITY – These percentages varied from 40–70%.
WOMEN THAT INDULGE IN EXTRAMARITAL SEXUAL OR EMOTIONAL ACTIVITY- These percentages varied from 30–65%.

I don’t know what these studies were, so it is possible that this is a sloppy research job; god knows I didn’t put much effort into it, but still, even if the lowest estimates are true, 40% of men and 30% of women cheat. So you are in good company. Lots of cheaters out there.

The funny thing is that in the same polls, the consistent result is that 90–95% of both men and women think cheating is morally wrong. What this means is that there are a lot of hypocrites out there.

Now the reason why people don’t cheat seems to be not so much that they think it is morally wrong; it’s that the consequences of getting caught are so huge. There’s morality, and that’s all well and good, but when it comes to sexual behavior, the real world consequences of infidelity are what determine whether people do it or not. I.e., if you have an opportunity, it is the consequences of getting caught that stops you as much as the immorality of it.

So, people love to shout to the rooftops how immoral infidelity is. You’ll never get anywhere asking for sympathy for cheating or anything that smacks of seeking to justify that kind of behavior. If you want someone to support you, you might as well not even bother to ask.

The only thing you can do is to look at the data, and the data say that even though almost everyone thinks cheating is bad, a significant portion (perhaps more than half of all men and women) actually have cheated. Food for thought.

Being faithful is the easiest thing in the world. You either believe it’s the right thing to do, or you don’t. It’s that simple. And “pretending” to be a good man by acting like someone else’s boyfriend to make them happy is just pure b*llshit. If your female “friend” needs help, then you refer them to someone who can help them (therapist, parent, female friend, school counselor, doctor etc.) you don’t jump in there and start hugging and kissing them (even if they initiate it). That’s what you reserve for your own girlfriend. You know it and so does everyone else, especially your own girlfriend knows it. Things don’t just happen. You either allow them to happen or you don’t. It’s that simple.

Two words….. Bunny boilers! Nuff said ;¬}

Having sexual thoughts about others is normal. But, if you find yourself thinking this way a lot, well, sounds like an ego thing, need for attention, power trip fantasy issue.

A lot of women get off’ on seducing men for their own unhealthy reasons.

Being faithful is easy, if one really cares for their partner.

Otherwise, don’t be a fool, get out of the relationship and spare your partner the grief.