@Facade the stuff that @rOs is talking about is nice, but in my experience, it just makes you feel like roommates who do things together. For me, it’s sex that makes me feel like we are special.
However, it is different for everyone. For you, sex isn’t as special as it is for me. You have friends who are sex partners, or even roommates who, presumably, are more acquaintances than friends. But you help each other out.
You have to find what works for you, and it takes work. You have to get back to that place where you think your partner is really special. One of the relationship gurus out there says that there needs to be a ratio of life 5 or 6 to one in terms of good experiences and bad experiences.
You have to create good experiences. You have to remember to compliment your partner every time he does something you appreciate (and even at other times, a propos of nothing). You have to do fun things together. You have to talk and get into interesting discussions. You can use fluther topics for this. You can see friends. Go to parties. Go to concerts. Walk in parks. But you can’t just do these things. You have to do them with a conscious effort to appreciate your partner.
And then there’s sex. I guess there’s physical sex and there’s spiritual sex. This is part of the appreciation theme. Your goal is not just to have an orgasm, or whatever your usual goal is. Your goal is to fall in love with your partner and use the good feelings of sex as a way back to that loving feeling.
The emphasis is on looking in each other’s eyes, and going slowly. Touching gently and appreciatively. It’s not about getting your rocks off. It’s about teasing a smile. Being bashful. Flirting. Making each other feel recognized and appreciated and special.
And this is not a one-time thing. You have to do it all the time. You have to nurture your relationship.
If it goes too long without this, it could be over. If both parties aren’t into it, it could be over. If both parties won’t give something the other wants, it could be over.
My wife and I did this, and for a while, it did rebuild our relationship. And then, somehow, we let it slip. Got complacent. Now we’re back to where we were when it was getting bad. I don’t know if we can save it this time around.