(NSFW) Is it easier for you to orgasm if it has been a while since your last one?
I understand that men experience a refractory period immediately after sex, such that they can’t have orgasms one right after another. Let’s call this the absolute refractory period.
It has also been my understanding that, even outside of the refractory period, if a guy has already had an orgasm recently, for instance earlier in the day, it will often be harder (but not impossible) for him to orgasm. Let’s call this the relative refractory period.
At least according to wikipedia, women do not experience an absolute refractory period. In your experience, as a woman or someone who has sex with them, do women experience a relative refractory period?
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No, not easier but the orgasm will be more intense.
For me, If I have just come, it will be easier for me to orgasm again. They kind of build on one another, and I quite often have multiple orgasms during a single sexual encounter. However, If I am masturbating instead of sharing the experience with another, I can usually only come once.
Yeah. I once went without masturbating for a week (that was not fun) when I was on vacation, and started again as soon as I got home. I was expecting a mind blowing (ha) experience, but I was pretty disappointed after 4 minutes.
My experience is the same as @FluffyChicken.‘s If it’s been a long time, that’s actually more of a hindrance than a help, because despite feeling like a strong wind will send me over the edge, it really doesn’t.
I think I have a fairly short refractory period compared to most guys. It is common for me to masturbate to orgasm three times a day. I suspect that some people might consider that evidence of sex addiction, but my psychiatrist says he doesn’t know what sex addiction is, I guess because it’s not in the DSM IV.
Most of the women I’ve known have had one orgasm at a time with me. Oddly, several have said they’ve had rather large numbers of multiple orgasms when masturbating while thinking about me. I don’t know exactly what to make of that.
So no, it’s not easier for me to have an orgasm if it’s been longer since the last one—at least if we talking about days. If we are talking about hours, then yes, if there’s less than say four or five hours refractory period, it can take longer to orgasm than it might ordinarily.
On the other hand, if it has been more than a couple of days since the last one, then the orgasm is somewhat more forceful, which is kind of nice. But really, what makes my orgasms the most enjoyable, is having them with somebody rather than on my own. Something that, rather sadly, occurs far too rarely, which makes me feel much too lonely. It seems to work just fine for her. We are seriously mismatched, I think. But there are other things to a relationship besides sex and I’ve been subsisting on that for a long time, while relying on my right hand to fill in the long, long gaps. If only I had a chance for the refractory period to be relevant. :(
Yes, it’s easier, and sometimes the intensity is enhanced.
Is it some women get too sensitive after the first O?
It took me a little while to figure out. If I go very lightly and slowly for awhile after the first I can get lots more.
I’d say so, yeah. And it’s often more intense as well…
The more recent the orgasm, the easier it is for me to orgasm. If it’s been a long time it seems harder.
I can manage two in the same day, but I don’t think it’s necessarily easier if it’s been a while. I think there are other, more hormonal factors at play.
It’s easier for me to have an orgasm after I’ve just had one. In fact, I’m hornier right after having sex.
I guess that’s what monthly periods and childbirth will get ya!
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