Will my girlfriend end up leaving me?

With your mindset….100%

@Cruiser I want it to work out, I just don’t know, I have a gut feeling and from what I’ve seen from simmilar questions its going to happen but I don’t want it to.

@Cruiser is trying to point out that your current mindset will be a self fulfilling prophecy. But why not talk to her now about what will be the best way to keep connected when school starts back up?

Be hopeful and enjoy the summer! Yes, a lot of people on Fluther break up when separated, but a number of them stay together too! don;t give up now, otherwise you’ll never know how long you might be together.

People on fluther tend to regret relationships they gave up on. Don’t set yourself up for regret.

p.s. you can get a cell phone with a cheap plan, even a pay as you go phone.

@zenvelo Those questions weren’t on fluther, i’ve seen lots where pople try to make it work but it just doesnt

Well, you’re right. In the end, it never works. One of us dies, and then the other, so what’s the point, right?

The point is in trying anyway, until that happens.

Without any ways of communication, definitely. The key to making long distance work seems to be a) the idea that it’s not long-term – they’re gone for a year or so, but it’s not a permanent solution and b) keeping in contact with each other – Skyping, video chat, texting, tweeting, just let each other know about the pointless and meaningless stuff that’s actually a huge part of your relationship. It’s really hard to feel close to someone when you don’t share things. Sharing that you got into law school is easy, it’s the stuff where you’re like “Omg, I should tell them” but when you actually see them, it seems so small and stupid, and you don’t want to make a bigger deal of it than it really is that actually makes up quite a bit of the relationship.

If you are truly friends, you never have to lose each other. You realize that things can change when you’re apart and that’s sensible, but keep the friendship. Life happens. Keep the good things and let the things, that don’t work, go without being overly emotional about it. You never know what’s going to happen.

@XOIIO I think you are smart enough to see the cards are stacked against you. Plus there is not a lot you can do here other than to play it cool. You never know she may be asking this very same question about you.

What kind of school is this – high school or college? How far away is the school?

High school. We are in the same city, and we wi;ll probably hang out on the weekends, my major concern is her finding someone else, we can communicate over facebook, i don’t know if she will find someone else though, that is my major concern.

Statistically, yeah, probably. Most high school relationships don’t last – even people who do end up marrying their HS sweetheart normally have other HS relationships that don’t work out. Hell, almost all relationships ever don’t work out – it’s only that one that lasts till death that doesn’t have some kind of breaking up. But that’s ok, most of us don’t want things to always stay the same. And, as Han Solo says, never tell me the odds!

What will be, will be. You can’t force her to stay with you. Be yourself, get on with your lives and keep in contact as you can. If she meets someone else, you can’t stop that. All you can do is be you and hopefully the love you both share will be enough to keep things going. Just enjoy what you have.

@MyNewtBoobs Iknow, its just that if this doesnt work out I know i’ll go back to the way I was, supressing all me emotions and knowing that its never going to happen again.

@XOIIO Well, just remember to breathe.

Just enjoy the time you have, however long it turns out to be. It’ll be ok, however it turns out. :)

Things do change when someone goes to another school, but lots of high school students do date people who go to other schools, and the relationships last for a long time. If not having a cell phone limits your means of communication, perhaps focus on what you can do to change that. Can you convince your parents to get you one so you can stay in touch with them? Could you get a cell phone that uses a prepaid plan?

If it doesn’t work out, then yes, perhaps you will go back to surpressing your emotions, for awhile. Just remember, you didn’t think this would work out and it did. Aspie or not, this has been a good experience for you. And you will want it again. But the relationship hasn’t ended yet, so focus on enjoying your relationship in the here and now.

I think the fact that you’ve had problems suppressing your emotions, as you said, but have managed to be more open with her is something to be proud of and something to build on with other people too, not just your girlfriend. All these experiences are shaping you and I suppose the trick in life is to let them shape you into the person you want to be. Not that I managed that

I recommend you go ahead and start dating other girls now.

Well today at lunch we talked about this, and she really does love me, I don’t think she’s going to leave me, and she said so becaus eI am the best person she has dated (she’s made some pretty bad choices.) I guess I was just in one of those wierd moods too. idk.

Be aware that it could happen, but don’t act like it’s going to happen. Sometimes we set ourselves up to fail in relationships by acting if what we think is going to happen is a sure thing.

Lots of people in high school date people who go to other schools. It works out fine. There’s just no kissyface in the halls between classes.

@BarnacleBill Lol none of that anyways, it’s a severly hands off school, like, no high fives even XD

Live for the moment @XOIIO. While you are spending time worrying about what might happen in the future, you aren’t fully enjoying the now. She loves you now. You are having fun now. The future will take care of itself. Just be the best person you can be today and enjoy her company now.

Look, not to invalidate your feelings or the relationship you have now, you’re both in high school. It’s very, very unlikely, despite both of your best intentions, that you have each found the person that you’ll want to be with forever. Maybe; it does happen. Romeo and Juliet are the exception, definitely not the rule.

Enjoy the girl’s company, and what’s even more important to your own maturity and self respect, be the young man whose company she will enjoy (and the memory of whom she will look back on fondly someday) and live in the moment. Create a nice series of moments, and you’ll be doing as well as anyone can. Don’t worry about relationships ending; that happens on its own sometimes as you each mature in different ways and at different rates – and often at different places and with different people. Just enjoy what you have while you have it… and accept when it ends, and that it probably will end. Don’t stress over it.

What many of us can also tell you is that relationships that end well can often resume later in life as your paths re-cross again. So… just be nice to her and be prepared to forgive her (and be forgivable yourself) for whatever might happen later.

@WasCy I know, statistically it is going to fall apart sometime sooner or later, but like you said you never know.