He's lost interest. What do you do?

Get over it. You were his online stripper. Move on to real people. Sorry if this was harsh but it is true. Good luck you can do better.

You’re both very unhealthy. Let it go.

You can ‘like’ someone online, but you cannot ‘love’ someone you have never met.

Fantasy game playing is not even close to ‘love.’

And, as if that;s not enough, you are pining away for someone that has jerked you around. That says a lot about your lack of self esteem.

To want someone that does’nt want you is masochistic.

You need to see your real life friends more. Step away from the internet and psuedo lovers and friends and cultivate new friends.

He is treating you as you treated him. He was not your main focus, and you are not his.

Wait to see how things evolve .. give him time .. if he acts he same then he definitely has issues. [ beside the ones you mentioned ].

You wash your hair, go for a run, head over to the soup kitchen to volunteer, meet a friend for dinner, write a novel, mow your lawn, baby-sit for free….

You lay in the bed you made. You didn’t respect him, now he doesn’t respect you. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander, right?

You can’t make someone do anything (like fall back in love with you). You need to move on.

Frankly, your Internet lifestyle does not sound that healthy.

If you are feeling devastated, you created that emotion, not him. It’s time to realize you are in control of your emotions. You need to take responsibility for the situation you’ve placed yourself in.

Get back in touch with reality. Your total perspective has been skewed (and not in a good way.)

He just gave you a dose of your own poison, move on and hopefully learn something from this.

“Then over many long online conversations, you fall in love with him. He’s needy; obsessed with you; and has no self-confidence. But you love the way he showers you with attention and you feel wanted and desired.”

“It seems to you that he has forgotten you in place of video games, his friends and other females. Your heart had melted and your self-confidence had shattered. He was once your man, the guy whom you knew would love you no matter what.. and suddenly he had no interest in you.”

You guys had an unhealthy, mutually co-dependent relationship. You were both in it for the attention and the ego-boost, not to have a healthy and whole relationship for another person. Work on your confidence by pursuing your own interests and doing work that fulfills your potential, and then you won’t need this emotional boost from an outside source. Once you’re feeling more confident and whole, you’ll be in a much better place to pursue a relationship.

Move on. Follow your own interests. It’s a big world out there for you to explore.
Why not now?

Chalk it up as a lesson learned on how to treat others as you’d like to be treated, your situation is kind of what happens when you don’t. People can talk out their bums all they want about how if it’s online then no one should get hurt but now you know that’s not true. Also be thankful you didn’t jeopardize a real life relationship that would leave you with horrible regret and/or consequences.

You treated him fairly poorly and enjoyed the attention he gave you but you didn’t return the obsession. Now he’s ignoring you and you’re obsessing.

How does it feel? I say what goes around comes around.

Once again, I should have read all of your other questions before I answered the first one that you posted today. This one or This other thread

You don’t know really know this person or anyone else that you meet in a chat room. You must be really desperate or just plain ignorant to not be able to realize that you have been played. You claim to be a married woman with teenaged children, but I’m guessing that you might be a troll, because you don’t sound old enough or mature enough to fit that description. Would you care to explain how none of this is true?

If you really are this desperate and immature, then you need to get into some serious therapy right now, because you are setting yourself up for lots of potential pain for yourself and your family and you are likely to get taken advantage of in a financial way, by some con artist who prays on your multiple vulnerabilities. Please get some help.

Once again, let me say that these stories are, to some degree, fictional. They are about real situations, but not situations that are necessarily mine. I am not asking for advice so much as for reactions to the situations. Please don’t take this personally. Please consider each situation on its own and give your best assessment. Trying to put together these questions is useless because they don’t all come from the same places.

However, the answers have been very helpful so far. I know we all like to read real people into the questions because it helps us answer them better. But this is not that kind of situation. The person in this question has no relationship at all to any of the other questions, and it is the same with the others.

I have asked for help, and I have received it. It is unnecessary and insulting to call me a troll. Have I offered an opinion on your answers, @Kardamom? I have read a number of them and there’s a lot I could say about you, if I chose to. So lets just drop the name calling.

If it matters, I would never seek to meet someone in a chat room. I just thought it was in interesting story.

It might be interesting if you stated at the beginning hypothetical…otherwise, I am inclined to the same OP as @Kardamom.

@Kardamom Thanks for the heads up!

@envidula61 No one understands why anyone would post questions on Fluther that are purely made up and hypothetical. Can you help us to understand why you would want to do that? Are you doing some type of research?

I’m not trying to insult you by calling you a troll, I sometimes assume that people are trolls because something about their questions doesn’t seem right, doesn’t make sense or seems way out in left field for no apparent reason, or the OP has left out some of the info leaving the situation really creepy and/or vague. That’s what trolls do. If you are not a troll and any of the people in any of these scenarios are real, I would say that each of them has some serious problems that need to be dealt with through therapy. That’s all.