It sounds like you need to ease up a bit on the cheese and only have a small portion of nuts each day (about an 1/8 of a cup) if you are actually trying to lose some weight. You might also want to try step aerobics, fast walking and hand weights and isometrics.
For some healthy snacks, you might try getting some of Trader Joe’s pre-bagged fruits and veggies. You can get individual veggies like baby carrots, grape tomatoes and fresh pineapple, or you can get some of the bags that have mixes like carrots, cauliflower and broccoli. Make sure that you pack veggies and fruit into your lunch every day. Other good snack choices are pretzels, whole grain crackers, apple chips, Kashi bars (but don’t ever rely on meal replacement bars, because most of them tend to be very high in sodium and calories, some like Kashi are way better than others, read labels religiously) sliced fruit, dried fruit, including freeze dried fruits which are crispy instead of chewy (but don’t eat too much of any dried fruit due to the sugar content) dried wholegrain cereals like Kix, and Cheerios. Somebody yesterday (forgive me for not recalling who it was and giving them credit) suggested fat free cottage cheese with a squirt of hot Siracha sauce. Fat free yogurts are great too as are whole grain pita chips, pickled vegetables, whole grain and salt-free chips with fresh salsa or fat free dip (made with fat free plain yogurt or fat free sour cream, or home made bean dip or hummus). A hard boiled egg.
Sounds like you also need some more complex carbohydrates like whole wheat bread (for your peanut butter sandwich, light on the peanut butter) and try making some salads with whole grains (that you can put into your lunch) like Tabouli, wheat berries, quinoa and brown rice.
For dinner, you should always have a green salad, along with whatever else you end up making (but be very conscious about the amount and type of dressing you put onto your salad). Vinegars and lemon juice and sprinklings of black pepper are very useful to spice up your salads. Use lots of veggies (don’t use iceberg lettuce because it is practically useless, nutrition-wise) You want to concentrate your eating with nutrient dense foods. For your salads add: mushrooms, beans, carrots, broccoli, cauliflower, red bell peppers, turnips, radishes, dried cranberries and dried cherries. You can also use these same veggies as snacks in your lunch bag.
Decide that you may have to change the type of entrees that you prepare for your financee for dinner, or lighten up the recipes that you already have. Use ground turkey for meatballs and burgers, eliminate or drastically cut the amount of cheese, add vegetables from everything from chili, to soup, to meatloaf, to pizza. Make your spaghetti with marinara sauce and add mushrooms, but remove the meat. Instead of hamburgers, try grilling portobello mushrooms brushed with Balsamic vinegar. Make burritos with fat-free refried beans, lose the cheese and add fresh salsa and lettuce and fat-free plain yogurt on whole grain tortillas. Make 3 bean chili, instead of meat chili. When you make a pizza, use whole grain Boboli crusts, or roll out Trader Joe’s whole wheat crust, then add lots of marinara sauce, and barely any cheese (sprinkle a little bit of parmesan, instead of heaping on the bunch of mozzarella) then add veggies galore, especially mushrooms. Learn to roast, steam and grill vegetables (and make it part of your everyday routine) like sweet potatoes, golden beets, rutabagas and garlic. Slather roasted garlic on your bread, instead of butter, or switch to using Smart Balance Buttery Spread. If you want to cut the fat and cholesterol content of your mayo, but still want great taste and texture, try switching to Vegenaise
Consciously attempt to cut down the size of the portions that you normally eat. Most Americans eat way too much food, and restaurants are notorious for loading up the plates, and we always try to clean our plates. If you go out to eat, consciously decide that you will only eat half and take the other half home for leftovers.
Learn to love and embrace soup and start serving it as the first course at your dinners. If you eat a bowl of soup first, you are less likely to want or need to eat a huge entree. Salad does the same thing (just don’t add cheese, croutons, or creamy dressings to your salads, and try making some entree salads for dinner instead of making a steak) Start eating soup at lunchtime instead of a cheese and meat filled sandwich. Make sure to make and buy soups that are low in sodium, avoid cream filled soups and meat filled soups (unless it’s chicken or turkey) and try to eat more vegetable rich soups like lentil, tomato, black bean, minestrone and hot and sour.
Making changes is hard, but you will have to make some changes in the way you eat and the foods you choose to have any lasting effect. If you “diet” for awhile and then go back to your old habits, you won’t be doing yourself any favors. You have to learn to embrace new foods that are better for you, taste great (even though you may never have even considered them before) and are easy enough to prepare for a meal, make leftovers and prep ahead of time to pack into your lunch.
Here’s a few ideas that I think you will like:
Vietnamese Steak Salad (instead of steak and potatoes)
Chinese Chicken Salad (instead of mayonaise-laden chicken salad)
Cherry Burgers (adding dried cherries to your ground meat adds amazing flavor, while reducing the fat content and upping the antioxidant levels)
Honey Mustard Turkey Burgers (make sure to choose ground turkey made from the breast meat only, otherwise it will have almost the same fat content as ground beef. The spices and add ins you use, will determine the flavor and juiciness.)
Grilled Portobello Mushroom Burgers
Pasta with Escarole, White Beans and Chicken Sausage (this recipe uses a lower fat chicken sausage, whole grains pasta, plus the addition of fiber filled beans and escarole for added taste and extra veggies).
Curried Chicken Pasta Salad (this is great for taking in your lunch, a dinner entree salad or taking to a potluck party).
Kale Salad With Root Vegetables (this is my new go-to salad for potllucks and weekday lunches. The best root vegetables that I’ve tried are rutabagas, Golden beets, which do not leave a bloody looking mess in your kitchen, and turnips. Instead of preparing the nuts, myself, I just use Trader Joe’s spicy pecans).
Grapefruit Chicken Satay Salad
Black Bean Chili with Turkey (make sure to use ground breast meat).
Vegetarian Black Bean Chili (top with a dollop of fat free plain yogurt or fat free sourcream instead of grated cheese).
Hot and Sour Soup (the ingredients list sounds complicated, but it really isn’t, and this soup is so good that it’s totally worth it!)
Butternut Squash Soup
Nearly Non-fat Cream of Mushroom Soup
Fresh Tomato, Basil and Sundried Tomato Soup
Hummus (which can be eaten with toasted whole wheat pita triangles or sliced veggies like carrots and cauliflower)
Fresh Spring Rolls with Shrimp or Chicken