@susanc, Wow. That belongs in a book.
I volunteered to crew a theater production of a rock ‘n roll version of the Nutcracker. The director and I for some time had a flirty relationship in development, which fluorished in the pressure cooking of rehearsals and post rehearsal partying. She sorta flirted with other male cast and crew, but I was her project at the time as was the Nutcracker lead, a strapping and totally cool black guy who was a bona-fide NYC dancer. Being from out of town, he was staying in her (and her husband’s) spare bedroom. We partied at her house that night, and it ended up being the four of us. Husband went to bed eventually having work the next morning, and from there it became a cuddle fest for the Nutcracker and my friend. Much of this time we were trading stories about our sexual pasts (as if, it seemed, hubby wasn’t, in fact, just down the hall). After a while, she started turning her attention towards me and followed me around the room a few times as I’d get up and move after she would try to curl up next to me.
At some point her husband left for work and at a different some point (before or after I don’t remember) I caved to her advances and let her sit on my lap, etc. After husband left for work, the Pas de Trois ended up with the three of us on the couch with me in charge of her top half and the Nutcracker taking care of her bottom half. Naturally, she played the role of a half asleep, half unawares, she-possum, so it became sort of this game of petting here and there, but not so overtly as to… well, overtly arouse her.
Getting some action from her (after weeks of a flirting arms race) was compelling, but the sharing part was really weird and uncomfortable. The last stretch of it fell just shy of a golden spike moment where had we each moved two more inches toward the epicenter we would have been shaking each other’s hand in her pants. When the game started getting redundant (or maybe at the brink) the Nutcracker picked her up and carried her to her bed. He went to his, and I went to the third. The next morning, I woke up in her house, maybe mumbled goodbyes and walked out the door just scratching my head at it all. (This was my first foray with a married girl).
Similar, albeit much less intense, things happened in the ensuing days, and the delicious flirt war subsided when the show ended, although we continued to hang out and work on the annual show for a few more years.