What would you do if your best friend almost got you shot?

You need better friends,Mr Cagney.

I went off roading in a National Forest with my buddy in his jeep and we were taking these logging roads to nowhere using the National Forestry maps we had to navigate. On our way out we noticed a huge log across the road way now blocking our path. We both got out of the jeep to move the log when shots rang out and I hear rounds zipping above our heads. We spider ran/crawled back to the jeep and drove full speed with our head in our laps. I got mad at him for almost getting our selves killed but realized we were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Probably some pot growers taking exception to us recreating on taxpayer lands.

So it’s OK to rob someone as long as your friend doesn’t shoot you and you get to share the loot? What???? YOU are one person I hope I never meet.

Seriously? I’m a mature adult. Any friend of mine that would even consider speaking to me about anything of this nature wouldn’t have my continued friendship. Heck, I’d turn his sorry ass over to the police ASAP.

How old are you?

Seems he’s got himself in some messed up shit. Maybe it’s lucky you only see him twice a year, I would try to make it less. It doesn’t matter who you are robbing from, it still doesn’t make it right!

@snowberry and @SpatzieLover, I’m 22, and I had no thought what-so-ever of participating in that nonsense. I have too much going for me, and have never/ would never sink so low. Even if I hadn’t found out that we were going to be shot, it wouldn’t have changed that fact.

The problem is I don’t think Y has ever done something so immoral. He may have rationalized it because he is broke and the “target” is a bad person. That doesn’t make it right, of course. I’m wondering how to handle it. You suggest I ignore him forever?

Is he going through addiction or is there something I’m missing here? People don’t completely lose their moral compasses when they don’t have money.

Personally, I would not associate myself with anyone that ever even hinted at theft, let alone murder.

To clarify, it was X that was going to murder my friend Y and me after we helped. I would have turned Y in if he’d asked me to commit murder. My knowledge of the issue consists of one phone call I didn’t return and a voice mail explaining what he found out

I don’t think Y has ever even used drugs, besides alcohol. He was a good kid, but I guess I mightn’t know him that well anymore. Obviously he’s not the smartest guy in the world, maybe he just wasn’t thinking clearly? I feel like maybe I could ask him about it?

I’d tell Dick Cheney to hunt with someone else next time! Ha1 Seriously, it might be time to find a new best friend.

Learn to use the judgment that you’ve been honing all of these years.

Yeah, you all said pretty much what I thought, I just didn’t want to hear it because I am too loyal sometimes. Thank you for the honest replies. I assure you that, at the very least, that I will not be participating in any of his shenanigans- ever.

It’s not like he knew… I’d continue being his friend, and take the situation as a lesson NOT TO CONSIDER STUPID SHIT in the future… And I’d talk to him about it to ensure he learned the same damn lesson!

Sometimes friends get in trouble together. It could be that when you are with your best friend you feel less vulnerable, and you feel trustworthy, so you think you can do more… Think about it, if you were going to do something like the plan listed above… who would you ask to help, a stranger or your friend?!

It might be time to rethink who you are if you were even willing to think about doing this. Get a job. DON’T STEAL.

If you are known by the company you keep, what does that mean you are?

Me? If my best friend almost got me shot (in a more accidental fashion, of course), I’d go out and celebrate being alive with my best friends Jack, Morgan, Jose, and the like.

If you don’t know my best friends, I suggest you find some time away from the Batcave.

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. This is the time were you can really be effective as a friend, at least to him. You can logically point out to him how he was lucky. When dealing in shady deals like that even against people you believe are more shady, no one can be trusted. And if something goes bad you or he/them might be in the morgue or jail. Try to explain to him that things like that always have a way of washing up on shore like a big stinking whale carcass. If it was only because he was broke and not broke because of an addiction you can point out to him legitimate ways to turn a buck, might be slower but won’t get him shot. Also make him e see that if he was shot or jailed it would affect his parents and family. If he wants to continue on in that direction for your own benefit you might have to distance yourself on the friendship; but if he is really that much of a friend don’t condemn him because he made foolish actions.

Well, I don’t think friend Y knew about you both getting shot, he probably thought you guys were going to split it, but even so, the idea that he is willing to go through with it is indeed kind of disturbing. If my best friend asked me this, I would SO TOTALLY have a very serious talk with her. I would tell her that I am horribly disappointed in her for even suggesting in doing that. I mean, I know her pretty damn well and I know that she would feel horribly guilty after wards (she is also easily convinced into doing stupid shit). I’m not going to tell you to stop being friends with him, but I would definitely not let him slide on this and to think that you were at all okay with it. So definitely tell him everything about the way you are feeling and gauge his reaction. You know him better than us, so you can tell if he is truly regretful.

Time to find a new bud and tell this one to take a long walk off a short pier because it doesn’t sound like he’s going to have a long life if he keeps going about the things he’s doing. If you decide to be involved in it you will probably be joining him in that very short unfruitful life. So sad when there is so much potential in our young people that they could simply choose a better path, there are so many there to help if you just look around you.

I am asking you to choose your life and not a life cut short by a stupid act, you have a lot of potential if you just look at yourself you would see it.

Dad?

If your friend finds you credible, I don’t think you should let him go so fast. He might be hard to replace.

You do know that your participation as driver would make you fully culpable for all events resulting from a crime? If X had killed Y and you survived, you would be guilty of murder? Do you know in California, if it was in commission of a robbery, it would be first degree murder with special circumstances, and thus eligible for death penalty or life without parole?

Anyone who would ask you to participate does not have any concern for your welfare. And you owe your girlfriend an apology; she was keeping “in the loop” to save you from your own self destructive behavior. Treasure her, and stay the hell away from your “friends”.