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NSFW: Fluther, can you help me with an extremely embarassing situation?

Asked by rockfan (14632points) June 23rd, 2011

Well, as I said, this is an embarasssing situation. I was at my local gym yesterday, and I was the only one using the showers. The assistant manager of the gym knew I was the only one using them. I’ve talked to her many times, so I know her pretty well. Well, she randomly walked in the men’s showers to grab a couple of clean towels, and glanced over where I was showering and said hi from a distance. While I had an erection. I was beyond embarrassed. She just laughed and walked away. Is this normal? Ladies would you ever do this? Or do you think she was sending me a signal?

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redfeather's avatar

Seems like she did it on purpose. If I were going to grab towels, I’d run in grab them and run out. Staring at the floor the whole time. That she said hi to you seems like she meant it to be something else.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

You should have asked her if she wanted to join you.

MyNewtBoobs's avatar

I would never go into the mens locker room (especially as an employee), that’s really inappropriate. I would find some guy to do it for me, especially if all I needed were some towels. I mean, maybe if the place were on fire or something…

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I agree with @redfeather and think she came in there on purpose.
What was she thinking?Hmmmm…For her to laugh was probably a nervous thing and I wouldn’t be worried about it at all.
I wouldn’t walk into the men’s showers to “grab towels” unless it was empty.

marinelife's avatar

It does seem like she did it on purpose. Are you interested? If so, asking her out seems appropriate.

Blondesjon's avatar

Why in Christ’s name did you have a boner while showering alone in a men’s locker room?

Seelix's avatar

She may have forgotten you were in there, thought the showers were empty, and once she realized that you were there, decided to say something in case you noticed her and thought she was creepin’.

Still weird, though.

JilltheTooth's avatar

You say she “knew” you were the only one in there…maybe she was distracted and forgot? Maybe she had other things on her mind and just wanted to get the towels? Maybe she said “hi” to be polite and laughed from nerves when she noticed that you were…er…distracted? I don’t think it means anything.

gondwanalon's avatar

Forgetaboutit.

flutherother's avatar

I think you were sending her a signal ;-)

WasCy's avatar

Although I’ve never actually put it into words before this moment (thanks for taking me into uncharted territory) I make it my firm policy (no pun intended) not to help men with erections.

But if you’re interested in her, and if you know that she saw what you’re embarrassed about (and I also second @Blondesjon‘s rhetorical question), ask her if she saw anything she liked. And be sure to walk into the women’s shower when she is showering, “just to grab some towels”.

erichw1504's avatar

Since she knew you were the only one in there, she obviously did it on purpose. And as a bonus saw your boner.

Russell_D_SpacePoet's avatar

Here is your sign…..Come on. She is interested..

poisonedantidote's avatar

On second thoughts, I wont answer this one, I’ll only make things worse.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Lets look at our best Columbo, you and her speak often, she knows you are the only one that really uses the shower, she is in there to grab some towels. Who messed up the other towels? Were they clean towels she was taking to the women’s locker room? If she forgot you were in there, why didn’t she hear the shower going? Were you in there singing or humming as many do? If she was going to be embarrassed that you seem her see you with a raging boner why would she say “hi” from a distance?

It might be nothing but enough evidence there to investigate further. She could have called out if anyone was in there if she had the hint that there was any present. She worked there long enough to tell the condition humidity and heat wise as to the shower being, on or just been on. Even if it were clean towels she was after I am sure she had to know you were in there before she got to the towels since the towels were where she can see you and you here. She could have said excuse me, or are you decent? I would talk to her as if I didn’t notice and try to gage if she wanted it brought up in the conversation and go from there.

erichw1504's avatar

The real question here is: Why did you have a raging boner?!

atlantis's avatar

I’d get worried if you were underage. But I’m assuming you’re not. So in that case I second @Blondesjon

atlantis's avatar

@Hypocrisy_Central Way to break it down!

ucme's avatar

Sounds like a piss poor porno plot to me.

Cruiser's avatar

You were the one with a boner in a public shower which IMO would invite a myriad of responses from either sex. If that was me walking in to the shower, you would have hear a very loud WTF man!?! That being said, I would read her laughter as a clear sign of her disappointment of what she thought she might see barging in on you!

ucme's avatar

You missed a golden oppurtunity to shout…“Hey love, hang your towels on this bugger!”

wundayatta's avatar

Even if she was interested in your body, she can’t have expected to see you with an erection. It does seem like she was manufacturing an excuse to see you naked. Makes me wonder what you’ve talked about in your many conversations.

Do you have a rep of some kind? Because if you do, maybe some of her friends dared her to go in a check you out.

Whatever it is, it sounds a bit puerile on her part. Unless there are relevant things you haven’t told us like why you had an erection. Do you make a habit of whacking off in the shower? Could she have found this out? I think there’s more to this story than we are being told.

breedmitch's avatar

Yeah…I’m gonna have to call bullshit on this question. There’s no way a female gym employee would ever go into the men’s locker room and get to keep her job.
Fake question.

Jude's avatar

Maybe, he had an erection thinking about her?

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

Maybe she was laughing at the size of his erection?

_zen_'s avatar

Maybe she was laughing at the towel hanging from his erection.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

1. Why would she walk in, unless she was expecting to see you naked?
2. Why did you have a stiffy at that moment?
3. Why would she not be fired for walking into the men’s shower room?

erichw1504's avatar

Maybe he was laughing at the size of her towels. what?

rebbel's avatar

Sometimes we interpret crying for laughter.

erichw1504's avatar

It’s funny how if this situation were the other way around, there would have been a lawsuit involved.

nikipedia's avatar

I also have a lot of trouble believing this. The female employee entering in the first place is pretty weird. Then you bill this as an embarrassing question, and do a complete 180 and ask if she is trying to fuck you. Are you embarrassed or turned on? Pick one.

Also, if I was a gym employee who wanted to fuck a customer, the last last last way in the world I would attempt to do it would be to “accidentally” walk in on him in the shower, hoping all the while he had a raging boner.

SuperMouse's avatar

My support for the phony question theory is the fact that he mentions that she laughed and walked away. Seriously? Why on earth would this female employee laughing and walking away make you think she is interested?

Plucky's avatar

I think what she did was highly inappropriate. This kind of behaviour should be reported to her superiors. The least I would do is at least talk to her about it. I don’t care if the person is male, female, transexual, genderless…whatever, it was unprofessional and inappropriate.

josie's avatar

I’ll repeat the above. Why do you suppose you had a hard on in the men’s locker room.
Plus, what was she laughing at?
I would seek answers to these questions before I made any other decisions.

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Carol's avatar

The chick has ISSUES.

breedmitch's avatar

The original poster sent me a pm saying that his friends talked the female employee into going in the locker room while he was in there.
Yeah, bullshit.

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