Am I making a mistake by asking questions on Fluther?

No and No. You should do what is right for you. If you have a question, ask it. If individuals amongst us don’t like your questions, we should ignore them. If you ask a question that doesn’t meet the guidelines of Fluther, it will be removed. No you should not leave. Of course you shouldn’t!

@lucillelucillelucille is lovely, but so are you in your own way.

Josie, I am still relatively new to the site, but when I sit down I wish that there were more questions. I find myself asking something I think will start a conversation because none that appeal to me are open.

I think I would enjoy the site a lot more if more of the experienced users asked questions more often.

@Imadethisupwithnoforethought
You’re beautiful

I think asking questions is a service to the community. I hope you keep on asking them. Probably people don’t tell question askers they appreciate them very much. I appreciate your willingness to ask questions!

Fuck popularity.

I like your questions, @josie. =)

As someone who rarely asks questions themselves, I can understand where you are coming from. However, what popularity I have is not entirely because I am witty, knowledgeable, or nice; there are times when I will hit a hornets nest on purpose just to spark a little thoughtful debate.

Sure, sometimes people get a bit cranky (myself definitely included), but remember, it’s only the internet. Occasional spleen-venting is part of the fun. So stick around, keep asking questions, and remember to duck.

Why do you have to ask? Stand behind your questions and your presence on here. It is not a popularity contest.

Man up.

@marinelife
That is a challenge that is tough to ignore.

Hey @josie I like you. I like your answers and often your questions. Don’t leave! If you want to try laying back and acting more like @lucillelucillelucille, then do. But don’t leave.
Look—you have followers!

HA! If you wanna see some questions that were “mistakes”, just go through my list!! I often ask “weird” or “controversial” questions, but I really don’t care if it makes me unpopular.

Ask whatever you like, as long as you don’t ask “is this unhealthy” or “am I pregnant” every single day!! Lots of jellies adore you, @josie, so don’t worry about it! Keep on asking, keep on commenting, and keep on being Josie!

As for the part about “Should I just get out of here?”............ don’t make me hunt you down and yell at you. It wouldn’t be pretty.

If someone’s giving you a hard time, you sweet hunka man you, just come to me and we’ll gripe together about how awful they are! :P

Never thought @josie would be the kind of person that would ask such a question to make everyone beg him to stay. Stay or go. Just do it. You don’t need to talk about it.

Jumping Josephat! What have you been doing? Wringing my brain out while I slept!?! Many of those are my sentiments exactly. Asking questions around here is as safe as using a Roman candle in a hay barn full of hay at high noon when the temp out is 105deg fahr. So many get to emotional and take it personally the OP gets lost in the hysteria. Even if you answered only questions and never asked any you are still not safe, believe me, I know. I follow you a lot and think you bring a certain flavor to Fluther. I guess not being popular is a byproduct to not sucking up. Many don’t have to because they possess some natural charisma, the rest of us either suck up or die on the vine. But what fluther would be truly complete with out its Irukanji? I say SHAKE THAT DAMN TREE and let the apples fall as they may. Be a voice, not a mouth piece. Rock on @josie, rock on!!!

Just be yourself. :) You don’t have to agree with everyone, and not everyone has to agree with you. Life is like that.

I don’t agree with all my neighbors, co-workers, or even all my friends. And all of them make me think.

Guys. Thanks first of all for being so friendly.
But, I am not indulging in self pity, except I can see why it might look that way, so ignore the last part of the question.
It was sort of sarcastic, but you can’t see my face, so you don’t know that.
But the rest of the question is legit. Love to hear what you have to say.

What do you want me to say? Who cares really. If you like it here, then you like it here. It’s not up to me to make you feel special or popular. I think people’s perceptions of who’s popular are varied.

No keep on asking. There is always something interesting or answerable to someone out there. I know how you feel——there seems to be always an idiot out there who “just has to” counter your question or answer——ignore them. What may seem uninteresting or silly to someone may be very intriguing to someone else.

Who says you are unpopular. I love hearing the other point of view, engaging in the banter. I would not want all of fluther to be of one mind. Then what is the point?

Every jelly has his or her own quirks that tend to agitate or enraged another jelly. Yet life goes on and respect, understanding, tolerance and love still abound and easily trump all manners of spite. Life goes on in Fluther. As long as the questions and answers keep coming, life goes on here. And don’t forget the laughs. I’m mostly here because of the laughs. : )

@mazingerz88 Me too!

@josie Yeah, getting annoyed with a jelly or me annoying another is no reason to leave here. Love to think we have more similarities than differences. It does keep my faith in my humanity and other people’s humanity. Learning while laughing in Fluther. Only sex could be better. Good sex. Ok, great mind blowing sex. Sex with Megan Fox or something…

@mazingerz88 Got it. Megan was OK but she was a little immature.

As to the first part of you question, it depends why you are asking questions. Surely the point is to canvass different opinions and ideas. As such, sometimes there will be disagreements. Surely the whole purpose of fluther is not to gain consensus, but to tease out all those variable so we can learn from each other? Sure the fluffy questions are fun, but I like to at least read some of the more controversial questions and answers.

As to popularity in terms of questioning and answering, I often forget to click “GQ” even if I think it was a “GQ”. So if the majority are like me and remember to click GA but not GQ often, then the response you get to your questions in those terms may not be reflective of the appreciation of the group.

I keep my questions to a minimum, but answer a lot of them. Seems to work for me, though it’s partially just because I usually can’t think of much to ask. But hey, if you’ve got questions ask away, bro. It’ll at least lower the percentage of stupid questions about relationships and such.

Sometimes I think I should ask MORE questions. But, I just don’t have many.

I mean, I find my own answers a lot. lol

No. I think your ?‘s are always thoughtful and intelligent…that’s what it’s all about.

I see it differently. Fluther is a Q and A site which has become a little, close knit community in its own right. For anwers to questions, I’m with you: read the manual – or just google it.

But because we’re a community, we have to keep it going – and as we’re a commmunity based on questions and answers – we need questions. Or the place will close down. I have already been there, done that on two other sites.

I’ve asked, at last count, over a thousand questions. 99 percent of them in Meta or Social. Why? To keep this place going. I’ve seen many here attempt asking a question, only to “fail” miserably. Apparently, what comes quite easily to me, doesn’t to everyone.

I actually do not like asking questions, as I find them to be very revealing, more so than answers sometimes. But I know that if I, and wunday, and others here who consistantly try to keep the place going with (at times idiotic) questions – there simply would be no fluther.

Hey, without Social – it would be Yahoo/Google/Microsoft Answers.

@zen
Impressive.
Thanks for the input. Always liked your stuff from the day I stumbled into the site. I just can’t figure out how many of “you” there are.
Why doesn’t your ID turn red?

If you go,I’ll beat you up.
:)
XD

Don’t go changing to try to please anyone. I love you just the way you are.

@josie When you’ve been here for as long as me, and changed usernames a dozen times – your name doesn’t change with the @ sign anymore. It’s an award called “the zen”

What do we have? Five or six people who make it their responsibility to ask their three questions a day? Maybe a few more. These people are really helping Fluther to keep on rolling along. Yes, sometimes the questions are contrived, but the effort behind them always feels sincere (if only because they represent world views that annoy the shit out of me).

If it were up to me, I would take all those boys (and they do all seem to be boys—why is that?) out to dinner once a month. Or maybe just to the pub. Not sure I have the money to do dinner. Although the liquor bill could mount up very quickly, too. Fuck it! Let’s take turns!

There has been discussion over the years about whether questions are appreciated enough. I don’t mean by lurve, but by the real appreciation people have. Unless they don’t have it. Maybe there could be a way to thank Josie and Zen and Hypocrisy Central and the other ones whose names I am blanking on now without Josie having to ask a question to see whether anyone appreciates his efforts.

They are good ones. Ones who really support the community. They care. They really care.

Okay…who likes Stella Artois? lol

@zen Cool. I wish I would have thought of that.

@bkcunningham is singing your song. hahaha

I love you guys. Josie, Hypocrisy Central and my friend Zen; you never let me down before, I don’t imagine, you’re too familiar, and I don’t see you anymore.

I would not leave you, in times of trouble and I wouldn’t expect that you would do the same to me. Fluther rocks and we never could have come this far without you guys. I took the good times, I’ll take the bad times, I’ll take you just the way you are.

You too @Coloma. You always have my, unspoken passion.

I always thought you were one of the popular ones so I don’t know what to think about that.

“One of the popular ones.” What the hell is this, sixth grade.” Get a grip man. Get a grip.

@bkcunningham Thanks, I needed that.

You are welcome. I really do enjoy having you around.

Is it time to sing “We Are The World” now or is it “That’s What Friends Are For” ?

If people stop asking questions what will we do on Fluther?

Don’t leave, and ask what you want. Whatever you do, you can’t please everyone. I’m pretty sure that’s not the point, either. I think you know this. Stay with us, man.

Is this where I look for validation?

everyone seeks validation here in their own way…..call me a liar

Ask away & fuck the consequences! In fact, after all, there are none.

I always think of these amazingly intellectual and thought provoking questions to ask while I am walking the dogs. Then when I get home, I can’t for the life of me remember what they were. I am going to have to start using the record function on the iPhone.

I never viewed asking questions as a responsibility that comes with being part of the community. But it does have merit and I will try to do better in the future.

If you can’t take the heat @josie stay out of the kitchen!

IMO you need to stop sweating the small stuff and start taking notes on how to KSA ala @lucillelucillelucille when Jellies rub you the wrong way. Man up bro!

@rooeytoo i thought it was just me

If people want to be offended that is their right but it certainly shouldn’t stop you asking questions and I don’t think anyone of us should try and be like someone else here just because they are more popular with the other members. If people really don’t like what you have to say, they can winge all they like but, ultimately, they have two choices: a) answer your question, explaining why they are offended or b) move onto the next question. Either way, I don’t think you are offensive enough to give up on asking questions altogether.

No keep asking.
Did I ever mention that I have a crush on you?
oops!

:-)@Wilma… nothing wrong with appreciating the eye candy :D

@Bellatrix And Josie is some definite fluther eye candy. =0)

:D

Took me a few seconds before I realized this was asked 8 years ago. Lol

Except the return of his hero @lucillelucillelucille seems to have also brought back @josie. The plot thickens!