If your friend calls you lazy is it an insult?

It could be.

I wouldn’t be happy about it.

If you’re offended, it’s an insult.
(Whether or not it was meant to be.)

I would take it in jest.

What is the full context of the statement?

It really depends…...
Maybe you are, maybe you are not. But eitherway if it was not said in jest it is their opinion or observation and they may not know a rats ass thing about anything.
Maybe they are just an incompetent opinionated asshole.
Aren’t friends wonderful!

Well my friends all call me lazy, but I kind of already know that I am so it would just be pointing out the obvious.

Then you probably shouldn’t be offended. I’d take Saboteur’s comment with a grain of salt. It doesn’t matter how you take it as much as how it was meant, though it does matter that you understand it. My point, if it’s insulting to you then you must think it untrue. If you don’t think it false, then where’s the insult? I think your friend, as friends can be (mostly for your own good), was just plain honest.

Or maybe they’re just jealous. :P

I would tend to take it as an insult.

Context, it’s all about context. Why did they call you lazy? Were they smiling? Etc.

No. I don’t think so. My friends call me lazy all the time.

Usually after I ask them to do something for me.

I agree with @Simone_De_Beauvoir ..it all depends on the context. If you are bothered by it, you should talk to your friend. Only she knows what her intent was. Ask her.

Context?

Please.

An insult is an insult because someone takes offense.

It’s the perception of the person who feels slighted that determines the insult, not the other way around.

Anyone with the awareness to examine a person’s intention prior to taking offense probably wouldn’t be insulted.

Anyone with awareness to examine why they would choose to be offended by what someone says would probably choose not to be offended.

The person who rendered the so-called insult may not even be aware that they’d said anything “wrong”.

On the other hand, a person may purposely say something with the intent to injure someone; but if that person chooses not to feel injured (doesn’t “take offense”) no insult has occurred.

I am having a hard time thinking of a context where calling someone lazy would not be an insult. Ok they could be saying it with a smile and insisting it is a joke but isn’t there truth to it most of the time when people “jokingly” hurl insults?

@SuperMouse This is because you can’t perceive of anyone choosing not to be offended. Contrary to popular belief, a lot of “how you feel” is a matter choice.

Allowing another person’s words or actions to determine how you feel is surrendering power over you to them.

It’s an awareness of being responsible for your own being.

YOU become Master.

You can’t hurt me if I choose not to be hurt.

Correction: In my previous post, the word “perceive” is incorrect.

The correct word should have been “conceive”.

You say you’ve worked on jobs for 35 years which in your mind would be contrary to what your friend said (which could then be determined an insult).. Because you’ve worked for so long it must then be selective so don’t take the statement as a whole but instead ask the friend in which way your considered lazy.. If their not jealous, if their trying to be honest (as they see it) they will tell you then you should determine if it’s true and change your way(s) if it is (as others who may not be as honest would judge you without you even knowing why) if it isn’t true then ignore it as an insult as it could simply be nit-picking or ‘she’ is determining it from what you do not do enough for her (romancing, remembering dates, etc.).. Women are serious in life, men are serious in sports.