I gave my daughter ( now almost 24) a few swats as a very young child, between maybe 2 and 5 tops. Always on the bottom with my hand, no belts or other implements of abuse.
Honestly, I can only remember maybe 2 or 3 times.
Once when she was 4 and I was in the process of selling one of our cars at the time, talking with the buyer.
A classic taking advantage of the moment thing, she went inside and got a box or cookies or crackers and was running around the yard throwing them to the dog and, in general being a complete little shit. lol Yes, after repeated requests to stop, and after I finished up the transaction with the car person and they left…oooh boy…the one and only real, over the knee spanking! not on her bare bottom, through shorts and underware.
I do not advocate spanking, and in general it is not an effective punishment, but, as others have said, a couple of swats is not the same thing as belts, sticks and hairbrushes.
Now my mother gave me a few spankings with the hairbrush, wooden spoon and once, with a pink yardstick. haha I do not feel I was ‘abused’ but, things have changed since the 50’s and 60’s. I can still remember her Coral pink wide hairbrush and the hot pink yardstick that nabbed me when I was messing around instead of practicing my piano.
Communication and other non physical ‘punishments’ are by far, the better way to go, but, I would never call someone who has given a child a few minor spankings an abuser, even though some might say otherwise.
If one observes animals you will see that they discipline with some physical corrections too.
The horse nips her foal if he/she is being pushy.
The cat swats her kitten, the dog bears her teeth and nips at her pups, the bear cuffs her cubs. Mild and modest use of corporal correction on rare occasion does not a child abuser make IMO.