Is there a way I can fix my hair without my trusty sidekick (details) ?

There’s this trusty product I’ve used for many moons, a trick my friends and I used to keep stick straightened bobs in place. It’s called Murray’s hair wax, comes in a round orange tin can with the pics of black man and black woman faces on the front, kind of 70’s looking. That stuff works so well, it still has a place under the sink for whenever the humid weather comes round to frizz up the hairs on the sides of my face by my ears and the silly ones that don’t fold into the rest on the top of the head. Murray’s has many converts.

I have to ask. If the “black girls” brush is effective, why are you giving it up?

@JLeslie I’m giving it up because it’s starting to fall apart and makes my hair feel funny. And my friends make fun of me for using it.

Don’t worry about your friends opinions…it’s your hair tool. A girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do! If it’s falling apart and it works, invest in a new one.

@blueberry_kid Your friends are being mean girls and sound racist. I am not saying they are racist, obviously you all are very young, and this is typical girl teasing, but it is not nice at all. Not nice to you, and not nice for them to imply being black is something to look down on or be ashamed of. They are purposely trying to make you feel bad an elevate themselves, they like to think they are better than you, and better than black people for that matter. If I was their mother I would make them apologize to you, take away all their styling products and tools for their hair for a week, and hopefully I could come up with some sort of punishment for them to learn not to judge anyone by how they look.

@JLeslie Thanks for the words of encouragement! My friends are always like that though. Sometimes I make fun of their stuff too, even though I really shouldn’t. I only use that brush because my hair is soooo curly. But, I have had that brush since…practically birth. I just feel I’m getting to old to use it. I want to try to only use a wire brush but I want to find out what other styling products can be used with it. AND I can’t find that brush ANYWHERE! I’ve looked online, hair stores, everywhere. They don’t sell them anymore. It’s pink and I don’t know what it’s called. Unless you can find it and tell me where…it would be FANTASTIC.

@blueberry_kid Oh, I understand better now. Do you have a picture of the brush you can link? Have you brought it to a hair salon to see if they can order something similar? Does your mom or an adult relative also have curly hair who can help you? I am going to assume you are a young teenager, and at the age when girls start focusing on hair and makeup more. Sometimes parents don’t realize their daughters need some guidance. Maybe if you ask for help, your mom can help you?

Also, next time you get your hair cut ask for advice on how to style and products you can use. If you don’t have a regular hair dresser, go by the salons and pick a woman with curly hair who has a nice style, who will really know how to handle curly hair. My husband has curly hair, and when he lets it grow long, there have been only a few people who could cut it well. Sometimes I put straightner in his hair to tame it a little.

@JLeslie I feel like asking my mom isn’t an option. She’s always criticizing, and isn’t very helpful. But here’s a link to the hairbrush I use. It’s not a normal one though. It’s like…prickly and good for pushing back hair.

@blueberry_kid Are you in America?

@JLeslie Yes I am!

Those Goody brushes are easy to find by me at Walgreen’s & Wal-mart.

Here’s a list of them on Amazon I also very much love their “ouchless” brushes for curly/wavy hair and their “ouchless” hairbands.

@SpatzieLover That isn’t the hairbrush I was looking for. Those are wire brushes, this one isn’t. But thanks for the link! I might get a new wire brush while I’m at it.I’m the kind of person who waits at the very last moment to get something new.

@blueberry_kid This one was on that list

From the photo, it appears yours is nylon…Yes? EDIT: I don’t see a single wire brush. I only choose plastic/nylon because they tend to cause less friction and frizz for my hair.

@SpatzieLover I was just looking on the Goody website before I saw your post, and I could not find what the OP wants, but the website is awful. On your link I don’t see what she needs either?

@blueberry_kid I want to suggest again getting your hair done at a salon and getting advice there. They probably sell brushes also. It will be a little more expensive probably, but brushes last a long time.

Also, younger children tend to use brushes like that because they have very fine hair and delicate scalps, maybe you are right and you can use a different brush, and need different styling products now. Mousse, and a different haircut?

@SpatzieLover I see it now! Oh yay! Thank YOU! Maybe I don’t have to give up my sidekick.

@JLeslie If you click on the link, it’s more towards the bottom. I found it. I don’t think I’ll give it up. And I am going to go to a salon regardless. Thanks!

Oh good. I think do both. Great idea. Fluther to the rescue again!

And, my hair is too short, I don’t want to cut it anymore. I even asked a question regarding my hair length.Here

Oh yes, I remember now. Did you ever go to the doctor about it?

@blueberry_kid I saw that Q. Definitely go to a good salon with a “master” stylist that is familiar with “black” or curly hair. A great cut will help you be able to control your hair. As @JLeslie said, he/she will be able to offer styling tips, and direct you to proper techniques and products that will help you.

To grow your curly hair out, you will need to be patient. Many with naturally curly hair have trouble with breakage. The stylist can help you learn to prevent that.

@JLeslie I haven’t actually. I just forgot to ask the doctor about it…I kind of feel a stylist my give the same advice…maybe.

Is your hair very course and thick?

@SpatzieLover YES! Annoyingly.