Would you reveal your heart to someone you never got a chance to?

Well, this has basically just happened to me anyway. I know chances are I’ll hardly ever see this guy again. My feelings changed before our last meeting anyway, so there wasn’t much point in telling him anything. But even if they remained the same, I most likely still wouldn’t have said anything, just out of fear of his response, or possibly fear that the romance I’d imagined to be so amazing between us might just let me down in reality. I kept it a secret for a year anyway, so it wouldn’t hurt to keep it secret for another few decades or so, I suppose!

I believe in revealing your heart especially if you are feeling uncomfortable and like there is “unfinished business”. It’s always good to just do that…because you may end up regretting it later and it does help. If you know that it is probably over, then what can it hurt to do so? It may help you to heal and move on. Write him a note…or talk to him:

“Christopher, I know that there was something really special between us earlier this year and I just wanted to address that. I was really attracted to you and I felt that you were also attracted to me…I really, really enjoyed being with you and I had a lot of fun. I am not sure what happened and why we stopped seeing each other…maybe I scared you away or intimidated you. It doesn’t matter at this point. I just felt that I wanted to clear the air by just letting you know that you were really special to me and though nothing happened…I am still grateful for the experience. And who knows? Maybe someday our paths will cross again and we will feel differently. I am grateful for your friendship and the time we shared. You have my email and all that so I’m not that far away if you ever want to talk/chat. Thanks again. Love, Queenie”

Yes, I’ve done so in the past. I told my friend how I felt about him and while he was touched and glad that I told him, he didn’t feel the same way. Our friendship remained and he respected my honesty and bravery for putting myself out there like that. I’m glad I was honest and I’ve moved on happily.

I wouldn’t reveal my feelings because I can cause some problems for the other person.
If I didn’t have the guts to take action while we were close to each other there’s no way the relationship could evolve in something when we are apart.

I wouldn’t ever tell. For me, when I no longer like someone, there is not point in telling them about feelings I may have had at one point. A couple of years back there was this guy that I had a huge crush on, but he had a girlfriend and once I learned that I got over it. Six months later he broke up with her and a couple months after that he asked me out. I said yes, and was hugely thrilled. However, it turned out that I had no feelings for him anymore. I had moved on and he had made his move eight months too late. There is such a thing as too late in relationships, despite what anyone may say.

Once their feelings have changed, no. That’ll only make things more difficult if you want to keep their friendship and as @athenasgriffin said, there is definitely such thing as too late with love and relationships. I say if you have feelings for someone but telling them won’t get you anywhere either you should keep your mouth shut and forget about it in order to keep the friendship, or cut it off if you can’t stop seeing them in a romantic light but they don’t see you in such a manner.

I think I now have revealed my heart to someone, but, in case they’re still not getting it, yes…I would like to…

@King_Pariah but I changed their feelings… I flirted with other guys in front of him, I was rude to him and more… Because he wasn’t brave enough to open up to me. and that hurt me so much…. he was like a shy kid

Oh,hell no. ;)

Hahah… I was almost revealing, i added him on skype. but now you guys changed my mind :D although i feel like i should say sorry for the stupid things i’ve done

@QueenOfNowhere Oh, I’m all for apologizing to people you have hurt. I certainly think you should do that. I would personally choose not to reveal my feelings to someone so late in the game. But you know your life better than I do. So if you feel it will be helpful to tell him, then go for it. Sometimes you just need to get these things off your chest, right?

Apologizing is definitely a way to get things right eventually.