Is it ok for my husband and me to throw our own co-ed baby shower?
My mother-in-law lives about 4 hours away and wants to throw me a traditional shower where she lives. There are two reasons for this: 1)hubby’s grandmother is unable to travel and they hope that it will give her something to look forward to. 2) It is closer for friends and family from my hometown to attend.
However, I have friends where I live now who are not necessarily close enough friends to initiate throwing a baby shower for us, but who are interested in participating in a shower. (we moved here about 3 years ago). I think it’d be fun to just have a co-ed shower party.
Any ideas on this? I have never heard of anyone throwing their own baby shower…..
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Are you asking for permission? :) I see no reason why not.
I don’t see any reason why not either. Whether or not guys would come and whether or not people would like you to throw a baby shower for yourself is up for grabs. It all depends on the culture. Some people/ some guys just aren’t into that.
Not permission. Honestly, I have never really be too worried about tradition I was just wondering what kinds of perceptions people might have. Although, I don’t think any of our friends would care. It’d just be an excuse for a celebration! We are so excited! (maybe we won’t even do the gift thing.)
Anyone ever been to a co-ed shower? I would love ideas on how to make it fun and all-inclusive.
Co-ed showers are becoming more common. It becomes more of a party than a baby shower because most guys aren’t really into those silly shower games. Let’s be honest. A lot of women could do without them too.
Throwing yourself a shower is less common because it’s considered impolite—like you’re asking for gifts. Personally though, I think that’s silly.
I would just throw a Hurrah! We’re Having A Baby! party. Presence requested, presents optional.
Please accept my apology in advance if I am missing something. If the friends where you currently live are not close enough to initiate a baby shower, why have one there? Let them congratulate you and your spouse in their own way.
They are good friends, but probably expect local family to throw one….and local family is going to make the drive to the one my MIL is throwing…..and I am not going to ask one of them to throw me a shower, but they have been asking my husband if something has been planned. I don’t think they would organize to throw one, b/c they don’t know each other very well. I want to celebrate with them because they were support for us during our 3 years of trying to conceive.
Great idea, @Nimis that would be great on the invite!
Agree with @Nimis. Especially if you’re worried about perceptions, a “Yay” party will help dispel issues.
Congratulations KhiaKharma, big news my friend! I’m so happy for you both And I love @Nimis‘s idea. I relieves both the hosts and the guests of any pressure or the idea that you are throwing the party to get presents. And, considering where you live, does it really matter? It’s party! Hell, I’ll come down there and throw the party for you in my hotel room :-).
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