If you had a second chance to speak with a deceased relative, what would you say to him/her?
If I had the chance to bring my mother back for even 5 minutes, I would tell her I was sorry I didn’t produce any grandchildren for her while she was alive and how they will never get to know her and her them. I would tell her I should have listened to her better, because if I did I may have done more for her before she passed. I would apologize for not being a better son, even though I felt I was there more than my brothers. I would tell her how I miss her opinion, support, and counsel when I needed it and was low. I would tell her I was sorry I did not live up to my full potential and it was of no fault of hers. I would tell her that at least
Given another five minutes, who would you speak to an what would you tell them, good tuff or tell them off?
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I would really like to ask my grandmother about my grandfather and his and her families. I didn’t have the opportunity to do this and my grandfather died when my father was very young. I would like to know more about my history.
My grandma, to whom I was quite close, died in 2000. Since I was actually able to visit and talk with her as she was dying, I did get to apologize for not giving her any great-grandkids. (She understood.) But 11 years ago, I was not in the same space as I am now in my life. I’m much more grown up now, and I think I would like for her to see how I’ve turned out. I found someone to be very happy with, I quit my stupid job at the grocery store, and I’m considering buying land, all things I think she would have liked. I wish I could let her know how she influenced the person I’ve become.
Her husband, my grandpa, is dying right now. I’m at least glad that he got to see these things before he goes. But I have a feeling that in 10 years, I’ll be even more different, and I’ll wish he could see that, too. I wish I could project into the future and let him know that things will go well for us. :)
Past those two, I have a great-grandpa that died before I was a year old. I don’t remember him, except through pictures and stories from other people, but from what I understand, he thought his baby great-granddaughter was the absolute best thing ever, the bee’s knees. (See?) If I could chat with him, I’ll let him know that the entire family enforced his dying wish, that I graduate high school. (He had to stop his education in 4th grade and be the “man of the farm.”) I’d also let him know that I plan on starting a minifarm myself, and that he and his advice are welcome there. I’d like to think he’d be proud.
I’m sorry that I didnt have the words or the motivation to make things better. Our life became such a minefield that I simply chose to devote my energy elsewhere – toward more rewarding pursuits. I’m sorry you were a casuality of that choice but there was no separating you from her in any fashion. Perhaps I should have tried harder. Perhaps you should have tried at all. I miss you terribly Dad, even if your head was always buried in the sand.
To my mother: “If I was the cause of you losing your hearing, I am sorry. At the time, I did not realize that my loud drum practicing, was having an ill-effect on your hearing. If I could go back in time and practiced my drums elsewhere, I would”.
My grandmother: Tell me the truth about my mother. Tell me everything. Tell me about my grandfather. Tell me what things were like for your family in the 60s. Everything.
My family, it seems, has no idea what things were like in the 60s and 70s as my mother was growing up, and her candy coated version leaves something to be desired.
I would want to speak with my nana (my dads mum), as she died when i was only 2 years of age.I would like to tell her how much I missed her even if I didn’t get to see her and to tell her how much everyone has missed her and how everyone loves her. I would also tell her that pop (her husband) has gone down hill every since she left as he misses her to bits .. more than anyone.
I’d probably tell them the same thing as before…
“Let me call you back after I get this big job completed”.
@laureth Awww…....that was sweet. You can’t use “the bee’s knees” there actually might be a smart young’n here and you will have carbon dated yourself :-P
My grandma she passed away 5 years ago from breast cancer, I would love to see her one last time and tell her just how much I miss her and how much I love her, not just me but my mum (her daughter) and my pop (her husband).
Remember watching her come in and out of hospital all the time, nothing was making her better, watching her lose so much weight, watching her through her last days. If only she could be here now and we could be able to cook something up again. I just wish I could of told her how much I did love her before she went. R.I.P <3
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