@CWOTUS mentioned the aphorism: “Men talk to women in order to have sex with them, and women have sex with men in order to talk with them.”
That’s not all men do to get sex. They make a lot of money or they become sports or musical stars and they do a variety of other things so they can get laid. A lot of politicians get caught cashing in on this particular “benefit” of office. Who knows how many didn’t get caught? There was one basketball player—maybe Kareem Abdul-Jabar—who wrote, in his autobiography, that he had fucked over a thousand women.
Performance stars have groupies and it seems to me they boast of picking girls out of audiences for the purpose of sex. The girls seem to like the kind of reflected prestige they get from having had some rock star’s cock inside them.
These are extremes, but I don’t think they are uncommon amongst less famous people. How many male writers write to get laid? How many high school kids play sports and try to be stars so they can get laid? It must work because guys keep on doing it for those reasons. It must work for women, too, if they are willing to get fucked by some guy for those reasons.
Maybe it isn’t the men’s bodies, per se, that attracts women to men, but it is status and success in many cases—however those are perceived. Women may be sex objects, but men are “success objects” just as often. To the degree that a body is involved in a man’s success, I’d say that women use attraction to the body as a sign of a successful guy—someone who would be good to breed with.
I doubt if many women would be consciously aware of this underlying criteria: good genes, but I think it’s still operating in ways much deeper and imperceptible than our consciousnesses.
It’s not any different for men. Big boobs and an hourglass figure and a symmetrical face are all things that we correlate with good genes, although we’re not aware of it.
The focus on the body has generally proven to be a reasonable way to determine genetic suitability for both men and women. However, men and women also have brains, and many folks with brains look at other things besides body to determine genetic suitability. Things like intelligence (which is correlated with looks according to some studies), humor, abilities, and other intangible things like personality are all used by both men and women to decide who they are attracted to.
I suspect this has to do with how much thinking a person has done. I think those who have done more thinking (which I believe is correlated with education) are more likely to go beyond the biological indicators of suitability to these more abstract qualifiers. However, no matter how evolved (educated/wise) we may think we are, the biological factors are still in operation, to some extent.
That is something that I, personally, have struggled with most of my life. I am immediately attracted to a beautiful woman. I start thinking about sex pretty much instantly. I have to remind myself that there are other important things. But it’s a struggle. One part of my mind seems to be saying “fuck that stuff, let’s get fucked!” Another part says, “Wundy—that don’t work for you. Go talk to her. The only thing you got going for you is your brain, such as it is.”