Can anyone give me a little input on socialisation?

The nature/nurture debate has raged for years. Most scientists now think that people are a product of both. In other words, who you are is determined both by innate characteristics (nature) and environmental influences (nurture). So, yes, the way someone is raised does influence the kind of person they become, but it does not entirely determine it. Also, this debate does not consider personal choice. No matter how you are raised, you have the ability to choose the way you will live your life.

With your screen name and the question, I thought for sure this was going to be about dogs. In pondering it, I think my answer is the same (you can substitute child for dog throughout):

Early socialization is important. The more often the dog is exposed to a variety of people and other dogs, the calmer the dog will be when they have similar experiences in the future. There are certainly breed types that are easier to socialize than others and, for some dogs who are just not wired right, there is no amount of socialization that is going to make a difference. Such a dog might be inappropriately aggressive.

Early training is also important. The dog has to know the owner’s expectations for behavior and can be taught what is good behavior (that will be rewarded) and what is bad behavior (that will be either Not rewarded or will be punished). Once the rules of the game are made clear and are consistently enforced, the dog is able to make decisions about his own behavior.

Yes, it is birth the nature/nurture dichotomy at play in ones development.

However, as the others have said, if one becomes aware of their not so self enhancing traits, how their upbringing and their cultural influence has effected them, they can choose to make changes that will further their growth.

I remember learning about that in Sociology. Gender Socialization is where a girl or boy is socialized by both parents and culture to behave in ways that are ‘correct’ for that gender. Examples of that are; girls playing with dolls, or being passive instead of assertive. And boys playing with ‘boys toys’ and being treated rougher, learning to ‘be a man’, instead of showing feelings.
The subject is fascinating to me.
Different cultures have different ideas and train their offspring, or ‘socialize’ them so that they look and act the way that they and that culture would approve of or like.
Just look at mid-Eastern women compared to us in America. Women are pretty much hidden away, treated like helpless children, and controlled by men. They are supposed and expected to get married young and raise children. They aren’t legally allowed to even drive. THAT would be gender socialization at an extreme, in my opinion.

But is it the case, some people are raise to be bad; ie the example/teachings from their family/culture or what happened to make them that way?????? Yes. People who grow up in families where one spouse hits the other are likely to become abusers themselves, whereas people who grow up in families where the adults talk their problems out are much more likely to have good communication skills and not be abusers (not that those are the only two options).

If you dont show a baby love and attention, does it grow up to crave attention the wrong way??? I hesitate to say “the wrong way”. It’s more unhealthy ways, or unfulfilling ways. But in short, yes. If, for instance, you don’t change a baby’s diaper in a timely fashion, the baby learns that they are not so important, and that they are not deserving of love, since if they were, wouldn’t the person who’s supposed to love them the most be there for them? In the first year of an infant’s life, the primary caregiver is responsible for providing the external stimulation needed to jump start various emotion regulation processes in the infant. Without someone rocking them and patting them on the back, the infant can’t calm down from the big scary noise. By not developing these basic skills, they cannot move on to more advanced emotion regulation techniques (and it doesn’t help that if a parent isn’t there when a child is an infant, they probably aren’t going to be there to help the child learn those skills in later years).

Both lead to adults who don’t have a full toolbox at their disposal for dealing with life, and who have various issues.