(NSFW)How would you feel if you were asked this by your significant other?

Would that not be a threesome?

Depends.
If I was held at gunpoint I might consider it.

Threesome, you mean?

Been there, done that in my early 20’s. Three females. It was great at the time (no emotion involved. It was just sex).

I have no interest in going there again. Emotions get in the way (for me, anyway).

Not something I would be interested in. No reason to get upset unless my S/O insisted or got mad if I wouldn’t join in.

If my fiancee asked me to have sex with him and one of his friends then I’d say no way! I would be a bit insulted and also feel really devalued that he’d want to see one of his buddies (or anyone for that matter) having sex with me. If he asked me to have sex with him and one of my friends then that would be more likely because my female friends are hot. It wouldn’t happen but I wouldn’t blame him for asking ;p

It sounds like a question that a man cannot answer without getting into conflict with their female partner. Let them take the lead and support what they want if I can.

He wouldn’t ask me that. It is very obvious when you interact with me that I am fairly conservative. He knows I’d say no and started question my relationship with him.

I wouldn’t be into it. Maybe if I were not in a relationship – that way, it’d just be sex. But I have no desire to share my partner with another person.

Nope, I’m not into that in any way. I think that fantasy is good as a fantasy and nothing else. YMMV, of course.

Depends on some very stringent circumstances.

Most likely, I wouldn’t, but I’m not entirely ruling the possibility out.

Depends who the friend is.

No threesomes for me.

Been there, done that, everyone had fun.

I would be irritated that they would think I’d want to.

If his friend was female, yes. If it was another guy, I wouldn’t be interested. We’ve done this before, it was fun.

No way. I don’t want to share my SO with anyone and hope she feels the same way.

However, I would volunteer to be @Jude ‘s beard bitch.

I’d ask how attractive the third person was and go from there.

If the SO was interested in the idea of a threesome, I’d rather he float the idea and then we look for a third together. Or he could phrase it as, “Want to have a threesome? If yes, then X is willing.” If you’re in a committed relationship, sharing a fantasy with your SO should be the most important part.

I just realized what’s iffy about the way the request was phrased in the question. It means that the SO and the friend have discussed the possibility of a threesome beforehand. To me, that has two problems. For him to discuss your private sex life with friends is disrespectful. He also should have asked you about having a threesome first, and if the answer was yes, then asked the friend.

Going behind your back to ask the friend first, before he knew if you were interested, is the wrong way to go about it. It makes me think that he’s overly interested in having sex with this specific friend. Ideally, there should be a lot of trust between everyone before you have a threesome. His actions wouldn’t inspire a lot of trust in me.

But hypothetically, if the SO and I had talked this over beforehand and we were on the same page about it, and both attracted to the third, then yes.

First of all, this wouldn’t happen even when Hell is paved over and a condominium has been constructed. Second of all, she has absolutely no friends that I am even remotely attracted to. Third of all, I really can’t imagine how we would fit in a third person, even if it was someone we knew.

I had several threesomes when I was in my twenties. It holds no mystery and no attraction for me, except as a fantasy.

I would be wondering if she’s wanting a break up. But then again, I’m currently happily/miserably single

I’d piss my pants! She is friends with Earnest Borgnine!

@Cruiser He’s still alive?

Sure.

My wife would never ask that, but hypothetically if she did, I wouldn’t like it because it breaches our sacred vow as man and wife, so no, I wouldn’t do it.

I think I would start questioning the relationship. However, I’m old, been there done that, and I think ‘polyamorous’ is just another word for ‘swinging’ and it all grosses me out- jmo- I respect all lifestyles, just answering the question

Ι would just leave them to it and walk out!

I never tried it and I don’t think I will ever go there. It’s not that the idea doesn’t sound nice but I don’t understand why does one need to be with 2 persons at the same time. It’s an intimate thing and you want others around? Well good for you and I hope you enjoy it but that’s not me. Even If I were to be asked this I’d have to decline smiling. Most of my real life friends know and understand why.

Or how @ZEPHYRA said. Let them have their thang and go away ^^

Ooh no, i’d feel shy with someone else watching & everyfum.
Besides, where would I aim? Spoilt for choice, confusing much.

I wouldn’t be upset if he asked, but considering we’ve already talked about it, I doubt he’ll ask. When we talked about it, we both said that neither of us was interested in sharing each other. If things change and he suddenly wants one, we’ll talk about it and go from there. As of right now, I wouldn’t go for it.

@Hibernate I think for some people, it’s an ego thing. It makes you feel powerful when two people are both paying attention to you. For others, it’s a chance to try out some homosexual love-making. Still others, it’s a chance to play out a fantasy they’ve probably had for a long time. In some cases, it is probably a way of expressing love that three people share for each other. Maybe some people feel like porn stars when they do it. Makes them feel cool and hip or even young. I’m sure there are other reasons as well.

Aye I feel you @wundayatta that’s why I said I did not do it or I won’t try it. It was just a particular case.
There are a lot of reasons that were not mentioned here but maybe some do not want to share.

He wouldn’t. Normal people wouldn’t ask that in a loving relationship. If it was just a casual fling kind of thing then that is different.