Has any one have/had a friend with hodgkin's lymphoma stage 3? If so how did you deal with it?

I want to show him he’s still heathy just in other ways. Anyone have ideas of certain activities that are safe for Cancer patients?

Careful. Your friend probably won’t appreciate being dragged around to do activities that he will probably find more tiring than fun. I think the best thing you can do for him is spend time with him talking, if he wants to talk, and doing low-key activities. Not sure how old you are or what his interests are but some suggestions are video games, board games, spending time sitting outside, arts and crafts.

I have not known anyone with this specific type of cancer, but through my own experiences with illness in general, I suspect I am right.

My cancer wasn’t Hodgkins but there were some on the ward with that. If your friend is going through treatment he is exhausted. Stage 3 is advanced, and he probably won’t have any energy for “activities”. He also probably puts on the best face he can for you and that, too, takes a bunch of energy. He needs his strength to fight his disease, spend gentle time with him. Don’t try to convince him of anything beyond the fact that you care about him.

I think everyone who knows someone with a chronic debilitating illness should read The Spoon Theory It pretty much explains what it’s like to have an illness that makes you tired all the time.

A lot of people don’t understand that even if you are on the mend and you aren’t terminal, chemotherapy just plain wears you out. It’s not moping around when you’re actually spending energy you don’t have just to stand up and smile.

I would literally have to lie down and rest if I went upstairs for something. It made getting anything at all accomplished a looooong process.

You don’t understand how tired he is or how painful cancer treatments are. Do something with him at his house, bring a movie over, read to him, get him caught up on the latest gossip. If he says he doesn’t want to go out, accept that. If he does want to go out, pick something that is mostly sitting. You drive, not him. A movie theater, a concert, a play, a wine tasting event, etc.

It looks like the spoon theory page went down.
Here it is in pdf form.

http://butyoudontlooksick.com/navigation/BYDLS-TheSpoonTheory.pdf