@zenvelo Once again, you start with an imporoper premise. The U.S. is not a single consciousness with a collective view of sexuality. The US does have de facto positions it takes. In many other areas it does not seem to keep pace with the rest of the planet, or a good deal of it. IMO Yankees can be counted on, at least 75%, to be repugnant against inbreeding even if it is 2nd or 3rd cousins, also if by marriage too. Just say siblings, and by blood, or by marriage it is a no-no. Anyone under 18 coupling up with anyone older than 18, they older person is just using the younger for sex or harboring some twisted fetish, and the younger member of the couple is just plain stupid and inexperienced to know what they are doing, as with Doug Hutchison, and Courtney Stodden. You can count on Yankees getting the heebie jeebies over polygamous marriages when it is more traditional over the centuries and nations second to one-man-one-woman unions. The US has set itself up to represent that near universal. It is just the rest of the stuff they get squirrelly on.
@Mariah But I think many (not all) Christians feel guilty about being innately sexual. Their religion tells them that modesty is virtuous, yet they have urges and that disturbs them and they feel they must repress them. To try and pin it on religion or people of faith is going for the low hanging fruit. Christians are told to be modest in public, but the Bible commands and instructs that one be passionate in the bedroom. The only difference is it is with a partner you plan on being with for life, not just renting emotionally for the night, the week, several months or years until things get stale, then like a car you no longer want, traded for another model. There are a lot of non-faith people that are not onboard with sexuality they should be OK with because there is nothing prohibiting them from it less their own mind.
I think this is the main reason for the confused sexual identity here in the US; it’s taboo, it’s something to feel guilty about, but it’s still there, everywhere. There are really only certain sexual activity, etc that is really taboo. Many I have spoken with or know don’t have no compunction of having sexual partners in one month, one week, or even daily, if they could find them. They are more put off by nudity than boinking with whomever, whenever. Almost as if sex was the litmus test to proving who was cool and desirable and who was some unattractive geek, cretin, or mud duck.
Most of Europe was chalk deep in Catholicism for centuries, if not still to this day.
@Coloma As long as one is comfortable with their own sexuality what difference does it make?
I don’t follow.
Because what 15 feel is OK, another 3,100 feels is repugnant. If many people from the same family and the same nation immigrated here to the US and cobbled in the same area, because they enjoy the sense of belonging and shared culture, and they thought nothing to having children preteenish swimming naked together mixed genders, and with adults too at time. Many other people wound be having a cow and slipping a tie rod. It is not about just being ok in your own skin. There was a thread about a week and a half ago about a mother being arrested, because her son was running about on a hot day naked when the hydrant was open. The mother might have been comfortable with it, her son surely was comfortable with it, but her neighbors wasn’t.
@FutureMemory One particular area that I find irritating is the notion that a person cannot be viewed as a sexual being until they reach the age of 18, yet puberty generally occurs at what, 11 or 12? Why am I a pervert for simply noticing a female has a sexually attractive physique, but happens to be under 18? I’m sorry, but biology trumps whatever our culture presently dictates. Yankees have a hard time going with biology, it has been a cultural identity to keep young adults as kids as log as possible. I do not know how this came about, maybe people would feel too old too fast if their offspring was considered grown and was able to fly the nest after 13–16yrs. If you took the age of consent worldwide and averaged it out, it would be around 15yr and change. Between 12 to 16 most normal growing males and females become women and men, young and inexperienced but still women and men. If you imagine civilization was young and in more of a clan and tribal setting, around 13ish there would be a ritual or ceremony taking the person from child to adult. Because they are new adults, the elder people of the clan, tribe, etc. would mentor them letting them know where they fit, what was expected of them, teaching them to grow into wise mature adults. That is too cognizant for most Yankees to grasp. People often want to use and refer to biology only when it suits their needs and dismiss it at all other times.