(NSFW) How do you ask for reciprocation?

Have sex only with partners who make it a priority to know and care if you’re as satisfied as they are. Seriously, in all my years there’s only been one encounter where the guy didn’t seem interested in my pleasure, most guys really want to get their partners to have orgasms.

Guys who aren’t willing to do their part can’t usually be taught. Proceed with caution.

Uhhhh…...Was your orgasm good? Because mine wasn’t….Oh yeah, I didn’t have one…..

I put things where they belong… so to speak.
I do hope this isn’t a habitual thing. That’s a bad habit.

Hummm, excuse me! I don’t remember saying to you I was done! You don’t get to relax till I’m totally done. Hope you bought your viagra.
Or, think of this as a horse race. Everybody doesn’t get to go home till all the horses are in the stables and everyone has been paid.
If I was a slot machine, you would be the joker and your cherries away from jackpot.
Or you could always stop just as he is about to come and get up and get some icecream and sit down and watch some tv. When he asks, whats up. You tell him your are and now you get to understand what if feels like to be left hanging. :p

Maybe you could ask?

Also, in the future, make sure you get yours first before you do him. Maybe I’m full of shit here, but it seems to me that when men finish; they are generally finished; whereas when a woman finishes, she can still take care of her partner.

Of course, some men can go on after they finish, but I don’t know how many there are. I’ll tell you this for free—before I’ve had an orgasm, I’ll do anything and for as long as pleases my partner, in order to keep me excited. But as soon as I cum, I’m not interested in doing anything until I recover.

This doesn’t mean that I don’t do anything. I’ll keep on going, but it isn’t the same as it was before I came. However, if you can hang on for maybe half an hour, then I’ll be back in that place where I’ll do anything.

“Was it good for you, ‘cause it wasn’t for me.”

I was watching what others had to say, because what I have to say is not really helpful. I have to agree with @Pandora about just getting up and getting some icecream.

Just cook him a nice big dinner, sit down and chug yours down, then just pick up the plates and say “I’m done” and take it all away. When he asks whats going on, throw the plate just over his shoulder and shout “You have never made me cum you selfish sack of shit!”.

@poisonedantidote Lol.

Hoping this is a young man that can stay stiff. Roll on a fresh Condom, straddle him, announce “OK,My Turn!” and ride him like a rodeo bull until you’ve had your fill -so to speak.

No one is getting satisfied by being shy.;)

@gottamakeart has the least ego crushing solution if you insist you really want to spend more time with this guy.

Yea, @gottamakeart is right, just rape him. :P

AHEM.

“Please sir, I need some more.”

It takes two-way communication. Please accept my apology in advance for this next statement, as I don’t know if you are female or not, but there are a fair amount of men out there that do not know when their female partner reaches orgasm. Some will ask, but not all. It comes down to honest, open and tactful communication.

You could always use a co-worker’s response the first time she had sex with her new boyfriend. When he was finished, she just looked at him and said, “Is that it?” Then she reached into her nightstand drawer and pulled out her vibrator. Gracious, I’m surprised that this shy guy didn’t run off, but they have been happily married for over ten years now.

As for a massage, What about something to the effect of, “How about giving me a massage, and then I’ll give you one, if you if you want one?”

@Pied_Pfeffer You’re right….its a foreign idea to females, I think, because it’s so obvious when a guy finishes. My boyfriend was completely oblivious until I told him about it. He simply didn’t get it….at all…

@deni I hope he does now.

It’s usually obvious when a female finishes too, you at very least get that mona lisa style smile that girls tend to have after, or you get full blown farting sounds, eyes rolling up in the head and flopping around like a fish out of water.

Also I find girls tend to want to hug and kiss much more just after they finish.

I could be wrong, just an observation.

Sheesh, just ask. “My turn,” with a seductive smile. “Can I get a backrub now?” with a little bit of eye contact. Doesn’t have to be a big deal. Doesn’t mean he’s a jerk.

Also, if your way of asking him to get you back is to give him even more, no wonder the poor guy isn’t getting your message.

I feel like I may have been unclear by using subtle wording in my previous answer. I don’t think anything needs to be said. Just direct body parts where you wish for them to be in a… friendly… manner.

I agree with @nikipedia. You give the guy an orgasm, give him a reward massage, and he’s supposed to get the message that something’s amiss? You can be both direct and nice.

Just say.“Listen Stupid,if you ever want to get laid again, then you will have to step up!”in a real sweet tone ;)

I always asked my ex wife, every time! when she was giving me oral, not to turn her head to the side at the point of ejaculation….. :-/
Still it went in one ear & out the other Lol……..
Just sit on his face ;-)

Never happen! But is it ever did I would say I got more gas in the tank and throw her to the floor and show her what she almost missed out on! ;)

You just say “Come here, I’m not done with you yet” and then guide his hand or head where you want it to go. The real problem is when he says “No thanks, I’m not in the mood”...

Or, alternatively, sing Lily Allen’s Not Fair for a couple days, with emphasis on the chorus, deliberately in his direction. Why choose the mature option when you can choose the passive-aggressive option?

@wundayatta has a point. Women can’t always orgasm from intercourse anyway. Spend a lot of time on foreplay and tell teach him how to get you off with his hands, his mouth, or a vibrator. Be very direct and tell him exactly what you want, then have sex.

“Is this the moment where you usually put the fifty bucks on the bedside table?”

“For your information…, I am not faking this non-orgasm…”

Interesting how you all talked about the orgasm. I was really after the massage (I can get myself off, I can’t massage myself).

@sliceswiththings It was the NSFW tag that threw me. Questions just about massage reciprocation don’t really need the NSFW tag. Questions about oral sex and orgasm reciprocation, on the other hand, do.

@sliceswiththings Well, you did ask “How do YOU suggest that he give you an orgasm, massage, or both to even the score?”

@sliceswiththings In that case it’s way easier. Hey, wanna return the favor and give me a massage? If not that, then I don’t know what other option you have.

@sliceswiththings I’ve always found the orgasms my partner gives me are way better than what I can give myself, but I do agree the massages are better.

@sliceswiththings: If you wanted info on how to get a massage then why the story about the sex and him finishing but no you?

Asking for a massage is simple.

If hints, and/or moving him into position doesn’t do the job, pick a time when you’re not having/about to have/just finished having sex a massage and have a friendly, but direct, talk with him about it.

Oh, that’s a good point. I didn’t address massage at all in my answer.

Well, the advice is basically the same. Some people won’t know what you want, or won’t be generous in bed, unless you tell them and are very specific. It sucks, because it feels better to have a partner that just “gets” what you need and takes the initiative to do it. But if he’s willing to listen and you’re willing to talk, you can still have some satisfying reciprocation together. Just tell him, “I want you to give me a massage for half an hour three times a week, and I want you to initiate it,” or whatever it is that you exactly want from him. When he goes to massage you, give him instructions as he does it. Just have a talk with him and tell him exactly what you need. Be direct.

I would think it’s pretty easy to ask for a massage back; if not, there’s something not quite right with the relationship.