NSFW What's it like, losing your virginity?

It was very, very awkward losing mine. I was rubbish at it. I got a lot better in time though (Thank God). For a guy I have a very romantic viewpoint on life but losing my virginity didn’t change that all. But maybe it’s different for girls, I don’t know.

I am glad that I saved my virginity until I was a) 100% ready and b) trusted my partner because, if I hadn’t have done either of those things it would have, more than likely, been an awkward, uncomfortable experience. Having sex for the first time, as much as I was comfortable to do so, was not exactly an enjoyable experience. It was quite painful (not unbearable) and there was blood!

Losing your virginity won’t neccessarily change you, you can still have those attributes about yourself.
When the right time comes it will feel right and you should feel 100% like yourself :-)

I don’t thing losing my virginity changed me, I think growing up and getting other experiences in life have made me grow into the person I am today.

If it is with the right person at the right time for the right reasons then it won’t change you.

It doesn’t change you, but it can make you more susceptible to staying with a bad boyfriend if you are not ready for an initmate relationship. When you put a lot of importance on virginity, then when you finally do have sex with a man you might be less likely to leave him if he treats you badly. Just be aware of that, don’t let sex or some concept of being with the same person sexually your whole life affect your logical mind in bad situations.

The sex itself is a nothing the first time. Your a little nervous, and don’t know what you are doing, and the guy usually wants to be sure he isn’t hurting you so he is a little reluctant. If you still have your hymen intact I guess it hurts, mine had been broken long before I lost my virginity, which I am very glad about.

Best. 30 seconds. Ever

Your virginity is only giving you these qualities if you attach it to your virginity, and then psych yourself out after losing it and think that you’re losing those qualities. If you don’t think of it as such a big thing, it isn’t. Mine sure wasn’t; the only thing that changed was that afterward, I knew what it felt like. Virginity isn’t some powerful, mystical force field of evil-repellent with a side of a Broadway singing voice, it’s a status based on if you have or have not had sex. If you put tons of power into it, then it has power. If you don’t, then it doesn’t.

It was a good thing for me. I’m a sexual being so I wasn’t really my adult self until I started having sex. The actual event wasn’t very memorable, but it was with a guy I was close to. He and I had all of our firsts together (everything sexual except kissing, getting drunk, smoking pot) so it felt right having sex for the first time with him too. After that, I felt free to go ahead and have more sex! Now I definitely wouldn’t be who I am if I didn’t have my rampant sexual side!

It sucks initially because you orgasm in under a minute, but after that it’s smooth sailing for 2 hours lol.

Abnormally painful and very much like a horror flick… It was consensual just for the record. It wasn’t a momentous event as far as the history of my sex life. In fact I don’t even remember if I enjoyed it. I was happy that I waited long enough to want to give it away versus just being a kid pressured into it- I chose who to have sex with. All I really remember from the event is the massive amounts of blood and the hours I spent recuperating from the pain.

@abysmalbeauty Did you rupture something other than your hymen?

I don’t think so lol…. My doc seems to think i’m healthy never pointed out any abnormalities.

It won’t really change you. It will alter your views on sex a tiny bit I imagine though, you know through experience vs expectation. It won’t make you less independent or pure. It won’t take away your dreams or your love of life. Happy with small things? I don’t know about that after the first few times… Just kidding.

Those qualities you mention, have nothing to do with your virginity, they have everything to do with who you are, not one square inch of thin membrane that you’ve probably never seen yourself. Your independence, purity, dreams, love of life, your happiness with small things… are your own, and shall not diminish upon coitus.

However, wait until you really love someone, that’s very important.

Doesn’t change you at all. Too me, it was boring and meaningless.

Someone is going to joke about me and KatetheGreat so it might as well be me.

Better be off with it so you won’t think to much about it. Or just ignore this aspect or else you’ll spend to much timing with it.

@Blackberry only pigs have orgasms lasting that long. Female pigs for about one hour while male pigs for about half an hour. For a human it’s impossible to have it for that long. You do feel good but the pure orgasm last for a few minutes only.

It’s a different experience for everyone. It did change me. It made me less trusting of guys and left me feeling that guys only wanted sex from girls and nothing else. I wish I had held on to my innocent, happy beliefs much longer than I did, instead of letting a guy use me and take my innocence from me.

What’s it like? It’s like having sex for the first time. It’s like two monkeys trying to hump a greased football.

Massive Amounts Of Blood..??
Who the f did you loose your virginity to?!!

@abysmalbeauty Were you an “older” virgin? I always wondered if the breaking the hymen later means it is more difficult to tear. I know some women just have an unusually thick or strong hymen. I busted mine when I was young, maybe 9 years old. i didn’t know what I had done. I don’t remember any blood at all, but I guess there must have been a little. I just knew I hurt myself, and then the pain was over pretty quick.

@JLeslie Actually, I think it’s easier as you get older, because the hymen is intrinsically designed to wear away over time. So a nun who’s never had sex or inserted a tampon or even ridden a horse may not have a hymen by the time she’s 60.

@Aethelflaed I wasn’t aware of that.

@Aethelflaed Actually a Nun’s hymen magically disappears the day she is married to God.
:P

I’ve always been upset that Mary might have had her hymen still intact while having to birth Jesus. To ask a virgin to birth a baby has always seemed a little sadistic to me.

@JLeslie Seriously right? And she was like 12 or 13 too!

@everephebe I thing the age has been questioned? I don’t think the bible states her age. But, in Judaism 13 is adulthood, so I would guess she likely could have been a very young woman. I once read Sarah would have been something like 80 when she had Isaac if they try to put historical data together, so who knows how accurate these things are? I mean, maybe Mary was not even a virgin? ~

lol^

@JLeslie Yeah, I can see that. On the other hand, I’d imagine that a teeny bit of tissue being ripped (which for many is more in the pain realm of paper cuts) is really quite unnoticeable compared to the pain of having your pelvic bone broken. She said, having never given birth herself, or having read many memoirs on the subject because why would you do that if you’re not trying to mentally prepare for doing it yourself/watching your partner do it?

I feel that of all the texts out there with numbers that we should be questioning the validity of, the Bible is really high on that list. Really, really freaking high.

@Aethelflaed It is not just the hymen being broken when it comes to Mary. It is the idea of being comfortable with sexuality as far as having something even inside of ones vagina. I know a baby is much bigger than a penis, but at least women who are sexually active can wrap their minds around the process better. When a girl is a virgin, or take it one step further, never been penetrated ever in any way, the whole thing is scary, and a little strange at first. To think the first time is a baby completely freaks me out.

@JLeslie Hmm, good point. I hadn’t thought of it that way.

@Aethelflaed But, Christianity seems to find bliss in pain, suffering, and torture. What can I say.

I couldn’t believe that this was so exhausting. Well, it was a hot day. Boy, was I thirsty.

I think I traumatized my first for life. It turned out to be a bloody (litteraly) hitchcock movie.We were two virgins. I had no idea, he had no idea, what the hell we were doing…until we both moved on and found someone who did haha. Amen.