[NSFW] Would you support your son/daughter/SO doing adult entertainment?

I wouldn’t support it at all. I hate that stuff. Call me old fashioned but I don’t like the idea of someone DOING it for the pleasure of other people.

I’d be very disappointed, and would not support them at doing it. My children value themselves well enough to not do that.

Nope. I know someone whose daughter was in it. That’s bad enough, but this woman is teaching her kids about it too. Ick.

Nope.

No….my answer is No.

I believe that people who go into porn (on some level) are driven into it because of money…or a need for attention or that there has been some big “disconnect” emotionally somewhere in childhood. I am just sensing we don’t know the whole story behind what motivated this young woman (any young people) to go into something that is so degrading and demoralizing.

It makes me sad, really. A better question would be: “What would prompt someone to go into porn?”

Not a chance.

@DarlingRhadamanthus Is it possible that they love to screw with the added bonus that they get paid?

No, sorry couldn’t do it.

In this case, it looks like a fuck you to the old man.

No, but I’d still be there for them no matter what disastrous life choices they made.

@cletrans2col They don’t get paid much, (perhaps 3 to 5 hundred per movie) and it’s not quite enjoyable sex. Those aren’t real orgasms the women are having.

There is a huge correlation between being in porn and having been sexually abused when young. It’s not a matter of being uninhibited.

Not in the least.

@cletrans2col….If someone “likes to screw and get paid for it”...as you so gently put it, there is a disconnect. @zenvelo….Thanks that’s what I meant. There is a certain “shutting off” emotionally when someone does that. @Haleth,.....Well of course, a parent shouldn’t abandon their child. But once again, why on earth would a child choose that ? What’s going on with the family unit?

I would have said, “Okay, look, I’m an actor…if what you want to do is act….let me get you some lessons, let me find you an acting coach and I’ll talk to some of the people I know.” If it is something else…deeper….I would have said, “We are all going to counseling as a family and figure out why you are doing this and figure out a healthier way for you to make a living.” This isn’t (as far as I know) a situation of a young girl who is doing porn to buy drugs and is living on the street…..that’s what makes this case so sad.

But once again, I am not in his parental shoes….we don’t have all the details, so I am not going to judge….being a parent is hard enough.

Well, I would not watch it. Probably.

I’d support my kids in whatever career path they choose to take.
Fuck that shit, not going to happen!

Nope. It’d break my heart.

There are few things my hypothetical kids could do that I wouldn’t be able to support. Working in porn is one of them. I’d be too protective of them – worrying about diseases, for one, and also the emotional turmoil that they’d have to deal with.

I wouldn’t support it, but they are adults and free to make their own decisions! I will love them regardless. I would handle the questions, remarks and dirty looks with a casual “If you weren’t watching it then how do you know about it? Perhaps I should be giving the dirty looks, comments and remarks to you!?”

I think we have a really fucked up relationship with sex as a society. That being said I would be really disappointed if my daughter stumbled into porn and I’d try to talk her out of it. But in the end I would be there for her because I wouldn’t want her to go through something like that on her own.

My children make their own choices. If they chose to go into the porn industry, they are still my children.

However, I would hope that the choices I have made on their behalf as they grow up, and the identities they forge for themselves, will steer them away from an industry based on sexual exploitation.

Regardless, they are my kids.

Dialog.

Wow, considering just how many people are involved in porn and various offshoots of other sex work, I’m convinced some of your children will be lying to you. I would support my child doing porn, yes.

would you also help her/him with rehearsals :P?

@ragingloli Oh because I must also be into family sex and incest since I’m just so craaaazy and sex-positive? I don’t know. Ask me when they’re porn stars and I’ll tell you.

Not really. I have nothing against porn stars, but I don’t want to see my child doing something like that when they get older. I want them to be known for something brilliant or kind, not for their naked body or sexual performance.

@KatetheGreat Just as an aside, the two things aren’t mutually exclusive. Perhaps, I just know many well rounded invididuals who do sex work for a living or something but I’m suprised at how many otherwise progressive people are fine with shaming those who do that work.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir think that happens precisely because many people don’t know any sex workers.

@tranquilsea I see but can’t one at least give a whole group of people (not homogenized by any means) the benefit of the doubt? Last time when I was at the Trans Health Conference in Philly, I went to a workshop (attended by hundreds of people, students, professionals, etc) on porn within and by some of the transgender communities. Seeing clip after clip of various independent porn that these incredible people are making was nothing short of revolutionary, for me. Hearing them speak (many have PhDs, for god’s sake) was so moving. I would love to have a child grow up to be a person like the kinds I met after that workshop. These people are changing the world.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I can but too many people can not. They fire from their prejudices most of the time.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I understand that we can’t make the broad generalization that all people who work in the sex industry are bad. Many people do think that and it’s wrong to judge everyone as a whole. There are tons of people who do other jobs that are thousands of times worse than anyone in the sex industry. I’d just be a bit uneasy seeing my children make that decision because of all of the exposure.

I’ve seen quite a few films about the sex industry and the people who do perform are as normal as everyday workers. They are very comfortable with what they do and most of them seem to be very down to earth and have their own morals that they live by. They are respectable people and quite confident.

@KatetheGreat Another point I want to make is that it is a privilege to enter sex work by choice and that has much to do with race and class and demographics. Obviously, many people enter sex work for less than kosher reasons. However, that doesn’t make them less respectable than those who enter the profession by choice. Sex workers face much stigma and even less support in terms of proper healthcare or proper help once they’ve been abused or raped (which happens often and would, of course, be a legitimate concern of mine, as a parent, if either of my two sons would enter the profession). I attend red umbrella diaries often and they’re eye-opening to many interesting intersections of both pleasure and oppression. Safe to say, their lives are complex and we should all be more careful before judging.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir It’s amazing what these people actually go through. You have to live up to a lot of standards and on top of that, they face numerous problems in their line of work. On top of that, they are always labeled as whores and other preposterous things. Then again, some of them are quite brilliant because they have turned the porn industry into a multi-million dollar business.

@KatetheGreat I agree. I also don’t understand why (even on Fluther, take that as some kind of a cross section) it’s much more okay to say you enjoy porn, use it for masturbation or for sexual pleasure with your partner(s) but less okay to say that sex workers (who make the product so many of us utilize, by the millions) are just like you and me.

Since when did you need a PhD to take your clothes off, fake a few orgasm’s and snort a line or to so you can be debaucherized for a film crew?
There is a clear difference between porn and art! And the general view of porn to the ignorant and masses is that its seedy and wrong.
My kids becoming porn stars would leave me destroyed from all the years or parenting I have put into them. My kids becoming artists and gaining a PhD then I would be proud.

@BeccaBoo You don’t need a PhD at all, as far as I’m concerned seeing how many PhDs I know are dumb as shit. What I was implying is that they’re well rounded people, that some of the sex workers have a PhD (not related to porn or sex work). Also, you are wrong to assume that sex work is synonymous with drug use or that using the word ‘debauchery’ is anything more than a thinly veiled moralist argument.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir People who say that are kind of ass backwards. I can understand someone that doesn’t want to see their child go into the business, but I don’t understand how people can say that people in the porn industry are “dirty” or “unintelligent” when most of them are the ones watching it.

After rereading this thread, I’d like to restate my answer.

Would I support the decision – like, would I be 100% cool with it? No.
Would I continue to love and support my kids regardless? Of course.

@Seelix same here.

I have no problem with porn, prostitution (hell, I want it legalized), or anything like that as long as it involves consenting adults. I just would prefer my kids or SO not do it. Would I still love and support them if they did? Duh.

My daughter knows the answer to this question. She went to one of those Sexpo things and was approached by the owner of an adult club to see if she wanted a job. She said her mother would be exceedingly unhappy if she took up his offer. Wise choice on the part of my daughter.

No I wouldn’t. Supporting my daughter to do porn is like supporting her in her decision to marry a pimp or worse yet, a rapist!