When should you pull out of a long term relationship?

When you are really sure you are not helping your partner be the best person he or she could be and as a matter of fact, you are dragging this person into a miserable situation. Cut it before it’s too late and you are married 40 years.

You’re hurting him and yourself by not being honest. If he finds out from anyone else but you, it would be even more ugly.

One of the best advices I ever got on dealing with that situation was: “If the mess between now and then is the only reason you’re staying with someone, then think about it this way, it’s just a mess between now and then. ‘Then’ will come, and the mess will be over. Don’t let the mess be the only reason you stay with someone.”

When you (or your partner) would be better off out of the relationship than you are in it.

If you really feel that you don’t want to be in a relationship, you’re only making things worse by not leaving. The longer you stick around out of obligation, the worse it’ll make him feel when you actually do break it off. It’s only fair to both of you to get out now.