(NSFW) What is the appropriate response to this very personal question?

In the end, I think I’d lie about it. Because saying, “none of your business” would probably open a can of worms I wouldn’t want to open.

“Your father.” ;)
Who knows why someone would ask that…

“Monica Bellucci.”

I’d be as honest as I could without being hurtful. I’d probably change “my well-hung ex” to “some anonymous hot guy” :)

I’ve been asked this and I was truthful, because I figured if they didn’t like the answer, they know where the door is.

I feel like if it’s a guy asking they wanna hear that it’s them you’re thinking about.

As sappy as it sounds, I do think about my partner when I masturbate so I can quite honestly say that to him. If that wasn’t actually the case I would probably lie or tell him that I think about having sex with a hot lesbian which I sometimes do.

A lie. The best answer is always a lie with this question. Stomp this small snake of a curiosity before it becomes a boa constrictor of hurt and jealous pride.

Can’t speak for other guys but if I ask, it will be to know what turns her on. But I would not ask mostly since I might get an answer that bugs the heck out of me for all kinds of reasons.

Btw, I maybe wrong but I think guys ask, especially just after having great lovemaking with you, because now they feel you have bonded more than physically and wishes to be more intimate…

Order him a copy of My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday, if he gets it tell him all without reserve and he’ll love you for it. Here

“Oh yea, my wife, thats so fucking hot. oooh yea, picking her up at the airport and being yelled at, thats so hot. Put it in the hamper not on top you idiot, oh I love it when she talks like that” – Louis CK

Truth is my wife won’t tell me hers. I figure if it gets her that much hotter I would even let her scream out the other guys names.

TJBM! XD

For me, it’s:

“Aaarg! hmff yea, pound that thing, look at it all wet and slippery, I’m gonna jizz, oop, hold on, I can’t jizz to this, I need to find a better video… hmm, nop not that one… this one looks ok, oh no! she is rimming him, next… oh yea, this is the one! fuck… I lost it, now I need to build it back up, stupid slow internet. Ok, lets see… yea, yea, oh yea, meh, no.. the first video was better… what the fuck do you mean video not available, I was just watching it, refresh, ahh there it is… Ok, lets do this… fap fap fap fap… grandma?! what are you doing in my head, this is counter productive… ok ok, concentrate, hot ass, hot ass hot ass, grandma, shit go away, hot ass hot ass, yea thats the stuff, oh, oh, oh, here it comes… aim it away from your face idiot…. ahhhh thats better. ... uff… ok, whats happening on fluther.”

^^^ hahahaha

@poisonedantidote Yeah, that’s pretty much how it goes lol.

That didn’t work out the way I expected…though he is cute in his own way =0

He/She asked what you think about when you masturbate, not who. They’re trying to figure out what turns you on naturally.

Do you think about someone’s hands on you? Sunday afternoons of slow languid loving? Crazy monkey love after dinner? Sunshine and butterflies? Winning the noble prize for exceptional breakthroughs in neuroscience?

Of course it changes, they’re just trying to get an idea of what else is going on in that brain of yours.

Saying Steve Jobs would probably not be surprising to my significant other even when it isn’t true.

“Why don’t you tell me first, sweetie”.

“I’m thinking of you dear (the wife) when you mash the fuck outta those potatoes, same action & everyfum!”

The appropriate response would be “telling you would unravel the fabric of reality”.

The short, and far more likely to get you into hot water, response is “umm… Princess Leia in RoTJ?” or “that bit in Star Trek: TNG where Dr. Crusher walks round a corner in that tight, tight jumpsuit?”.

These are bad answers that will make your life more difficult.

In my opinion “you” is a creepy answer because it is A) obviously a lie and B) kind of strange when you’re having sex with said object of autostimulation.

IMO, of course.

I’d answer honestly. The people in porn. You and me in an orgy.

If the answer wasn’t “You, baby!” I would lie. This question comes into the same category as “Does this dress make my ass look fat?”

@downtide And “Am I the best sex you’ve ever had”?

@Aethelflaed yes, definitely that one too.

Andrea Bocelli.

We were both honest about it when we talked about this once.
I have difficulty with lying, so I guessed it was best to say that some times it is her, some times it’s fantastic women who are unknown to me.
For her it was the same.
We both are okay with that, I think because we all know that only you in my mind while… isn’t necessarily true.

Every time I’ve answered this question honestly I’ve ended up shocking or scaring the person asking… so now I just don’t answer. Or I just tell them that it changes a lot. hah.

It mostly depends on what the other party wants to hear.
So you can say a different thing then what they want to hear and you’ll end up with a lot of conversations after. OR you can get it from the first try and make them seem happy.

I would be honest. I think about a threesome with @ANef_is_Enuf and @Adirondackwannabe Johnny Depp quite frequently.

@WillWorkForChocolate ahem?!

@redfeather it’s okay, I included you in my fantasy. I just didn’t put it into words. ;)

Excuse me a minute while I go looking for some cold water.

@ANef_is_Enuf as long as I’m in there somewhere ;)

@redfeather Oh dammit, I forgot about that one fantasy with you covered in chocolate…

@WillWorkForChocolate – Get out of my head!

@ANef_is_Enuf you can shock and scare us, go ahead. @chorephay sits and listens intently

My last boyfriend asked me that, among a string of other questions that were way to personal. If someone askes me that again, I’ll tell them to f**k off.

I would just say: “Whatever gets my rocks off that day, why do you ask?”

@WillWorkForChocolate and @Seelix yummmm

Okay beotches, it’s FRIDAY! Let’s have a chocolate party!

It would depend on the degree of jealousy in the person I was dealing with. I know guys who understand that a fantasy is just that, a fantasy. You could tell them a fantasy about just about anyone and anything and they understand that it’s not necessarily what you would actually want to do in real life, it just works to “get you off”. There are others who feel threatened by anything at all that seems to imply that they are not the absolute center of your universe to the exclusion of anything else. Obviously, you don’t want to go down the confessional fantasy route with them. They would take it too literally. It might even give them nightmares, lol. Of course there are all kinds of degress in between. Know your man (or woman) and judge accordingly!

I don’t think anyone has ever actually asked me that. I also can’t recall asking someone else. However, I have had a fantasy volunteered to me.

It’s tricky. I know a fantasy is a fantasy and that doesn’t mean you would ever consider doing it. Yet there is this instinct to think a fantasy is what someone really wants to do. So it gets confusing. Would you enact the fantasy if you had the opportunity? I think it depends on the fantasy.